Your post is exactly the same thing I feel and think all the time. I havent ever even let my boyfriend see my cooter, as I like to call it. I am super scared that I am not normal as well. Lights off blankets! It is very comforting to hear that someone else feels and thinks the same way as me. I didnt know you could have surgery though! What a relief! Though I doubt I could have the nerve to even let the doctor see me. This situation/issue has been the cause of many complications for me in my life. The girls in magazines and in adult movies, have never looked like mine. And once when one kind of resembled mine, my boyfriend said ew.. Look at her snatch. Which didnt allow much comfort in letting him meet, my cooter! I probably havent been of much help.. But reading that I too am not alone has made me more comfortable.. Atleast for this hour anyways. Thanks! Feel free to write back!

Listen, I had the same worries before...But the more I looked into it...The more I realized that most women are the same!!!
Plus, most of the time...Men don't even care!!
Think about it! Do you care what your boyfriend/husband's penus looks like?? Just as long as he has one!...Right?
When you're an infant the outer lips are much larger than the inner lips, but after puberty that all changes! The average length the inner lips reach is 2 inches (4 to 5 cm), but they can easily become a lot longer. It’s absolutely normal if the inner lips extend significantly past the outer lips.
So, relax!

No doubt, don't worry about it, surf some porn if you want comparisons: there's a whole fetish catagory for oversize labia, if in fact this is the case - for which it would probobly have to be more than an inch to really be considered oversized - and quite a number of people, including myself, find it very attractive.

As man, I can say with certainty i've never heard a guy complain about, or even mention the appearence of a womans labia minora, and i've heard it all - it's just not the kind of detail men typically get into, and not an issue i'm aware of.

Ive always heard that men like fat vaginas...Lol...

I think most girls/women at one point in their life are worried about this ..Just like my fiance says...Never compare yourself to porn stars or celebrities..Because all the things you see online and in magazines are normally air brushed or fixed up to look better...They arent all perfect like they make it out to be...If you are stressing about this problem or making you not do the things you want to do (sexually)..Then I think the best thing would be to find a doctor that you feel comfortable with..Maybe try a consultation first and then talk about what can be done..So that you can get to know the doctor and feel more at ease with letting them see your privates..I know how embarrasing and uncomfortable it is to get naked in front of someone you hardly know...Haha I had to do it alot when I was pregnant..But once you do it ..You be like oh gosh thats a piece of cake..So I would really consider you looking into that..

More than likely your problem isnt as bad as it seems..All women/vagina's are different..Any man that loves you isnt going to care what your vagina looks like ..And if he does say oh gross ..Then he must not have much of a heart for you..To even say that..But just remember you not weird ..Your perfectly normal and there are many other people in your situation..Just relax..And I hope that things get better for you..So you can enjoy life without this problem lurking around..

As a guy, I prefer the larger labia !!!


Dont worry, seriously you are fine !

I feel the same mines abiut like that I always think mines different cause the inner labia stick out so I take the 2 lips and try and tuck it in

omg I must sound like a perv and a freak

Wow, join the club, chapcher.

I've wanted to post about this before but always felt kinda stupid. Ever since i've been old enough to notice my vaginal lips i've hated them. Any time i've ever seen a vagina, be it through porn or through educational diagrams, it always looks streamlined and neat. Mine looks like old flesh that's been chewed on by a dog. I'm incredibly self conscious about how much the inner lips stick out. I'm curious too, how many women feel this way?

Mine probably stick out about an inch. If I ever go commando in jeans the fabric tugs at them. If I wear french knickers or thongs the lips tend to pop out over the edge of the gusset and its really uncomfortable. They get in the way. Makes me feel like a freak!

I know that everyone's anatomy is different, and I try not to feel this way but I can't help it. When i'm in sexual situations I just try not to think about it or be too self conscious cos at the end of the day it'll just draw attention to it, when maybe guys don't think it's so strange after all?

I was very embarassed when I was younger seeing that I had bigger lips and was pretty self consious about it and always wondered if other people had it. But now that I am older, and more confidnet, I love everything about my body (except for my small boobs!). I was a little paranoid showing it to my current boyfriend when we first started dating but I absolutley love having a "gushy" vagina! Lol. I love how it wraps around my boyfriends penis and its more fun to play with..Whether it being yourself or your boyfriend. Its better than having jsut a little skin and bone there, right?!
I give a whole new meanig to "more cushin for the pushin". Hahaha

why would you ask her that...Are you a lesbian?

Im sure she has a big fat juicy cooch..And im also sure that she isnt going to let you see

haha now are you emma?:)

Us men have a similar issue.....Foreskin.

I had a buddy of mine look into surgery at 25 for a circumcision. He wanted a pornstar penis. You ladies are not alone!

You know what! I love everything about my gf. Her lips are just fine and I had no clue I liked a big booty until it was all up in my face. Lol

no worries.

I find my inner labia a blessing. Hehehe... They are not big (they stick out about a third to a half an inch out). The best part is I use them to rub my clit when i'm not wet and I get wet within minutes (just a little juice comes out) and then I use my finger the rest of the time. Basically I take the lips and fold one over to meet the clit and move my finger in a slow circular movement with a lot of presure. The soft skin is what works.

Be reassured.

Most men don't even notice. A vagina he can see is likely to be a vagina whose owner wants to welcome him into it.

That's pretty wonderful.

If you have chosen to let him see it, then believe me, he wants it and he's not about to criticise the way it's arranged.

As he should, just as you should be wanting the surprising collection of dangly bits and pieces he's bringing to you.

Sex is fun, and funny. The parts we all have look strange at first, but mostly work pretty well. Enjoy, be happy and be proud. I bet your vagina is beautiful, just like the rest of you.

Eff

You know wometimes we do things for the wrong reasons and oter times we do them for the right reasons, this to me sounds like you know what your talking about and if it were to make you feel better then by all means go for the surgery. I myself think that even though you are conscious of it and think maybe someone will thik it's gross or whatnot, you can't worry about that because why not think the exact oppisite and tell yourself that whoever gets to be lucky enough to see it will love it! Yes we are all different and we all have different tastes that's what makes this world so great.


My advice would be to give ti more time and if you still really want to do it then more power to you! If your with someone then maybe talk it over, you might find that they reall y like it and would never want you to have anything done


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Listen, men do not care about what your vagina looks like. My friends and I have had many, many talks about our preferences. It always starts out with what size boobs or nipples to hair or no hair. The look never gets brought up because we all could care less. As long as we are getting it we’re not complaining trust me. Plus it you want my opinion I would love it my wife had bigger ones. There is more to play with or suck on during foreplay and sex. As long as it doesn't smell or have green stuff men don't care. Please take this advice and realize that all the men who have left replies have all said we do not care. (we really don’t)

Listen, men do not care about what your vagina looks like. My friends and I have had many, many talks about our preferences. It always starts out with what size boobs or nipples to hair or no hair. The look never gets brought up because we all could care less. As long as we are getting it we’re not complaining trust me. Plus it you want my opinion I would love it my wife had bigger ones. There is more to play with or suck on during foreplay and sex. As long as it doesn't smell or have green stuff men don't care. Please take this advice and realize that all the men who have left replies have all said we do not care. (we really don’t)

Im 17 years old and I want to be... Sexually active but im still a virgin. (and no thats not an invite to you sexual pretetors.) me and my boyfriend who's 19 are ready to take it to the next step we've been dating for 8 months but I have an oversized vaginal lip... Its so embarressing. I dont want to be judged. Its weird. I've heard that its just a problem some girls have and from what im reading now it does seem kinda normal, but it doesnt help. Idk.. Should I be so very embarressed about it? Or should I risk loosing my relationship because of the way my vagina looks..? I've hurd of vaginal cancer in magazines but I havent had that area examed yet... Should i?

Hi lori,

hope you don't mind a guy replying, just would like to give you a male perspective. By the way, i'm not a sexual predator so don't worry, i'm a 29yr old married man! lol

ok, so first of all I reckon the chance that your boyfriend even notices that you have, in your words, an "oversized vaginal lip" are about a million to one. And even if he did notice, the chances that he would care are about 10 million to one. I think you are crediting him with too much knowledge of the female anatomy. Vaginas come in all shapes and sizes, that is the beauty of it. If every woman had the same vagina then for guys it would be a bit like opening your christmas present every year knowing that it contained a pair of black wool socks! In other words, very dull.

As the owner of your vagina you have lived with it all of your life and have had time to scrutinize the tiniest of details. Your guy has not had the opportunity to do the same and will not be spending time down there measuring your vaginal lips. He will doubtless be so pleased and excited to see your beautiful body that he could care less about such small issues.

Like a previous poster said, I have never had a guy conversation where we've compared or criticised the appearance of a women's vagina. It just isn't a concern of ours. Our main criteria, as would be your criteria for us, is cleanliness/hygiene and general maintenance. As long as those are in order then we are just chuffed to bits to be able to be with a woman in that way.

So really you need to stop worrying. Above all this, remember that your body is yours alone and is not for judgement by others. Your vagina is yours, nobody else's. Be proud of what you have, and expect others to value your body too. If they don't then that's their loss.

I really wanted to leave my final cliched statement to the end but it has to be said. Any guy who goes off you because of the appearance of your vagina would have to be a total and utter waste of oxygen and you would want to be as far away from him as soon as possible.

You will be fine, I guarantee it, and you will make your guy very very happy i'm sure.

All the best, take care....

As a male, I would never judge a woman based on the look of her vagina or make her feel uncomfortable because of it. The fact that you've been dating for 8 months says there is definitely something more to your relationship than just the desire for sex. I'm sure he won't care and will continue to love you for who you are.