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I hate my vagina. I know everyone is different, but I hate the look of it. The inner labia stics out alot. It's a very personal thing, but I wonder how other people think of theirs. I have never had a man say anything, but it always bothers me wondering if he will think i'm gross. I am uncomfortable in jeans and some pants. I think about it constantly and wonder way too often if anyone else looks like me. I have looked into surgery but I am so scared. Can you believe insurance pays for some of it? I have searched libraries and bookstores and the internet to find some information to make me feel like I am not a freak. I have read articles about this in magzines about this so I know i'm not the only one, but it would be nice to be able to talk to someone about this. I have asked two different doctors about this and they say that there are alot of women like this. But it doesn't make me feel any more confident about it. I think about this way too much. It is always on my mind. I wish I could get past it but I can't! Sad
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replied September 30th, 2004
Your Not Alone
Your post is exactly the same thing I feel and think all the time. I havent ever even let my boyfriend see my cooter, as I like to call it. I am super scared that I am not normal as well. Lights off blankets! It is very comforting to hear that someone else feels and thinks the same way as me. I didnt know you could have surgery though! What a relief! Though I doubt I could have the nerve to even let the doctor see me. This situation/issue has been the cause of many complications for me in my life. The girls in magazines and in adult movies, have never looked like mine. And once when one kind of resembled mine, my boyfriend said ew.. Look at her snatch. Which didnt allow much comfort in letting him meet, my cooter! I probably havent been of much help.. But reading that I too am not alone has made me more comfortable.. Atleast for this hour anyways. Thanks! Feel free to write back! Smile
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replied August 4th, 2011
Labia Plasty or not....
Hi I totally hear you!!! I hate my Vagina and when I was 16 I avoided pools and stuff thanks to a friend saying it looked like I was packing. I went home and cried.
After I had A/P surgery this week I can say I still hate how it looks.. My husband says I am being rediculous about it. I am considering a vaginaplasty but am worried that after I do that I will find something else to hate about me.
Ladies I know it's hard to accept at times and I know that once we get things in our heads you cant convince us otherwise.
After having surgeries, diets and even being a body builder I still have found things about my body I hate. Don't spend the short time we have on this earth finding every flaw you think is a flaw because now at 33 I am tired and cry when I see past pictures of me in the past and ask myself what the hell is the matter with you. YOU WERE BEAUTIFUL!!
I was a stripper, Ive modeled for calanders and been a singer. The only folks that called me ugly or had disparaging remarks for me are the ones who couldnt get what they wanted from me. I was always told I was beautiful and wow Im stressing over my freaking vagina even though I am married and have everything I want.
A vagina is a vagina and after reading all your comments I think I made my desicion on whether or not to have surgery. I'll let ya know if I do but I am starting to wonder if I have it, will I be happy after its done or will I find something else wrong??
Ladies I have nothing but happy thoughts and an well wishes for you. Thanks for your help.
Its going to be ok
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replied October 29th, 2011
This is seriously affecting my life
Someone please help me out here! I am having the same problem as all of you but this has seriously affected my lIfe. I am really pretty, but my vagina is not! I hate it. All I hear is guys making fun of big labias and calling it gross. I've even heard my Bf say things... Even tho he knows mine is like that too. My past two boyfriends have made me feel bad about my vagina. It has literally prevented me from starting new relationships with other guys because I am so afraid of them feeling or seeing my vagina. I want so badly to explore my sexuality because I am a very very horny person, but have limited myself to like 5 guys in my whole life and I'm 27 years old... All because of this insecurity. What the hell do I do?
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replied January 5th, 2012
This is the story of my life. I want very badly to be with other people, I have only been with one person. I am happy with my boyfriend right now, he says he loves my body and everything about it and tells me how pretty I am all the time. I wish i could get past my insecurities and just believe him but I just cant see how what he is saying is true. My inner labia are long and disgusting and even my clitoris seems too big, my doctor said I am normal which gave me the urge to punch her. It is not normal when I go to exercise and have to stop because it hurts down there, it is not normal to be terrified to take my clothes off in front of my bf of two years, and it is definitely not normal to consider doing my own surgery and even suicide. My worst nightmare is if my boyfriend and I break-up and I end up being with someone who finds it as gross as I do or even makes fun of me. Show me one f*ing diagram of a vagina, like the ones in the doctor's office, that have big inner labia? Even professional models made of vagina's are telling me that mine is weird and abnormal. But i am supposed to "love my body" right? it is impossible.
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replied February 27th, 2012
Honey.... u need an older man, they appreciate women in all shapes and sizes , i mean ur coochie too. And shoot look on craigslist or a porn site there are tons of men love big lips.. just speaking from experience when my bf goes down there , whos older, has fun with them and my god makes me tickle. So forget guys in their 20's....enjoy an older mans experience and you may find a gentleman while ur at it.
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replied February 27th, 2012
Honey.... u need an older man, they appreciate women in all shapes and sizes , i mean ur coochie too. And shoot look on craigslist or a porn site there are tons of men love big lips.. just speaking from experience when my bf goes down there , whos older, has fun with them and my god makes me tickle. So forget guys in their 20's....enjoy an older mans experience and you may find a gentleman while ur at it.
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replied December 1st, 2012
You are not alone. I am one of those girls who always had tons of guy friends. They have all mentioned several different times how turned off they are by an ugly sloppy looking vagina. Since I was always one of the pretty and popular girls, this scarred me. I was terrified to ever have someone say, how ugly of a vagina (which I feel I have) go around town. So I have not had sex in over 10 years. This has ruined my sex life, dating life, etc. Not sure what to do, thought about speaking to a professional but figured, what can they really do besides listen. Hope we both find a solution! Good luck.. From Pretty ugly in NY
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replied November 16th, 2011
Virgina problems
I Fell ezsacly The same, im size 12/14 And Think do everyones Look like Ths or is It just my size. and if so do Lads Know that if your Not skinny neither is your Fanny. so self concious. but then i think, am i ment to live all my life like this, no i cant. i think well its there its how i was made and i cant change it and if people dont like it then thats there problem. but it still doesnt stop me thinking things.. this problem has a big effect on my life. helpp ?? *Big girls we are beautiful*
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replied March 17th, 2012
i had the surgery
I recently had labiaplasty well its been about 6 months now and i dont think i could have spend my money anywhere better i feel a million times better about myself down there.....dont get me wrong it was extremely painful but worth every bit of it!!!
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replied December 1st, 2012
i don't like the look of mine either. I hope when I have sex that my partner doesn't see anything wrong with my Kitty. I can't change the way it looks.
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replied September 5th, 2006
It's Ok!!
Listen, I had the same worries before...But the more I looked into it...The more I realized that most women are the same!!!
Plus, most of the time...Men don't even care!!
Think about it! Do you care what your boyfriend/husband's penus looks like?? Just as long as he has one!...Right?
When you're an infant the outer lips are much larger than the inner lips, but after puberty that all changes! The average length the inner lips reach is 2 inches (4 to 5 cm), but they can easily become a lot longer. It’s absolutely normal if the inner lips extend significantly past the outer lips.
So, relax!
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replied September 5th, 2006
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No doubt, don't worry about it, surf some porn if you want comparisons: there's a whole fetish catagory for oversize labia, if in fact this is the case - for which it would probobly have to be more than an inch to really be considered oversized - and quite a number of people, including myself, find it very attractive.

As man, I can say with certainty i've never heard a guy complain about, or even mention the appearence of a womans labia minora, and i've heard it all - it's just not the kind of detail men typically get into, and not an issue i'm aware of.
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replied September 5th, 2006
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Ive always heard that men like fat vaginas...Lol...
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replied September 5th, 2006
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I think most girls/women at one point in their life are worried about this ..Just like my fiance says...Never compare yourself to porn stars or celebrities..Because all the things you see online and in magazines are normally air brushed or fixed up to look better...They arent all perfect like they make it out to be...If you are stressing about this problem or making you not do the things you want to do (sexually)..Then I think the best thing would be to find a doctor that you feel comfortable with..Maybe try a consultation first and then talk about what can be done..So that you can get to know the doctor and feel more at ease with letting them see your privates..I know how embarrasing and uncomfortable it is to get naked in front of someone you hardly know...Haha I had to do it alot when I was pregnant..But once you do it ..You be like oh gosh thats a piece of cake..So I would really consider you looking into that..

More than likely your problem isnt as bad as it seems..All women/vagina's are different..Any man that loves you isnt going to care what your vagina looks like ..And if he does say oh gross ..Then he must not have much of a heart for you..To even say that..But just remember you not weird ..Your perfectly normal and there are many other people in your situation..Just relax..And I hope that things get better for you..So you can enjoy life without this problem lurking around..
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replied September 5th, 2006
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As a guy, I prefer the larger labia !!!


Dont worry, seriously you are fine !
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replied September 5th, 2006
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I feel the same mines abiut like that I always think mines different cause the inner labia stick out so I take the 2 lips and try and tuck it in

omg I must sound like a perv and a freak
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replied March 29th, 2011
I do that too. Like i'm so uncomfortable about my body.;/ like only down there. I think its ugly.. nd guys will make fun of it or say ew! but as i was reading it made me think do guys really care what it looks like?
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replied July 17th, 2011
me too !
im only 16 and i worry now ,i think the rest of my body is fine just hate that area, but when they are down there they dont say anything and they are rather intimate with it :S worrys me but clearly im not the only one so its alright
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replied September 6th, 2006
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Wow, join the club, chapcher.

I've wanted to post about this before but always felt kinda stupid. Ever since i've been old enough to notice my vaginal lips i've hated them. Any time i've ever seen a vagina, be it through porn or through educational diagrams, it always looks streamlined and neat. Mine looks like old flesh that's been chewed on by a dog. I'm incredibly self conscious about how much the inner lips stick out. I'm curious too, how many women feel this way?

Mine probably stick out about an inch. If I ever go commando in jeans the fabric tugs at them. If I wear french knickers or thongs the lips tend to pop out over the edge of the gusset and its really uncomfortable. They get in the way. Makes me feel like a freak!

I know that everyone's anatomy is different, and I try not to feel this way but I can't help it. When i'm in sexual situations I just try not to think about it or be too self conscious cos at the end of the day it'll just draw attention to it, when maybe guys don't think it's so strange after all?
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replied September 6th, 2006
Love Your Bod
I was very embarassed when I was younger seeing that I had bigger lips and was pretty self consious about it and always wondered if other people had it. But now that I am older, and more confidnet, I love everything about my body (except for my small boobs!). I was a little paranoid showing it to my current boyfriend when we first started dating but I absolutley love having a "gushy" !**@!! Lol. I love how it wraps around my boyfriends penis and its more fun to play with..Whether it being yourself or your boyfriend. Its better than having jsut a little skin and bone there, right?!
I give a whole new meanig to "more cushin for the pushin". Hahaha
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replied September 6th, 2006
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Re: Emma2
girly69 wrote:
why? Have you a fat one,lol
why would you ask her that...Are you a lesbian?

Im sure she has a big fat juicy cooch..And im also sure that she isnt going to let you see

haha now are you emma?:)
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replied September 7th, 2006
No Worries
Us men have a similar issue.....Foreskin.

I had a buddy of mine look into surgery at 25 for a circumcision. He wanted a pornstar penis. You ladies are not alone!

You know what! I love everything about my gf. Her lips are just fine and I had no clue I liked a big booty until it was all up in my face. Lol

no worries.
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replied November 29th, 2006
I find my inner labia a blessing. Hehehe... They are not big (they stick out about a third to a half an inch out). The best part is I use them to rub my clit when i'm not wet and I get wet within minutes (just a little juice comes out) and then I use my finger the rest of the time. Basically I take the lips and fold one over to meet the clit and move my finger in a slow circular movement with a lot of presure. The soft skin is what works.
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replied November 29th, 2006
Ugly Vagina?
Be reassured.

Most men don't even notice. A vagina he can see is likely to be a vagina whose owner wants to welcome him into it.

That's pretty wonderful.

If you have chosen to let him see it, then believe me, he wants it and he's not about to criticise the way it's arranged.

As he should, just as you should be wanting the surprising collection of dangly bits and pieces he's bringing to you.

Sex is fun, and funny. The parts we all have look strange at first, but mostly work pretty well. Enjoy, be happy and be proud. I bet your vagina is beautiful, just like the rest of you.

Eff
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replied December 4th, 2006
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You know wometimes we do things for the wrong reasons and oter times we do them for the right reasons, this to me sounds like you know what your talking about and if it were to make you feel better then by all means go for the surgery. I myself think that even though you are conscious of it and think maybe someone will thik it's gross or whatnot, you can't worry about that because why not think the exact oppisite and tell yourself that whoever gets to be lucky enough to see it will love it! Yes we are all different and we all have different tastes that's what makes this world so great.


My advice would be to give ti more time and if you still really want to do it then more power to you! If your with someone then maybe talk it over, you might find that they reall y like it and would never want you to have anything done Smile


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replied December 14th, 2006
Men Don't Care - I Think Your Being to Critical of Yourself!
Listen, men do not care about what your vagina looks like. My friends and I have had many, many talks about our preferences. It always starts out with what size boobs or nipples to hair or no hair. The look never gets brought up because we all could care less. As long as we are getting it we’re not complaining trust me. Plus it you want my opinion I would love it my wife had bigger ones. There is more to play with or suck on during foreplay and sex. As long as it doesn't smell or have green stuff men don't care. Please take this advice and realize that all the men who have left replies have all said we do not care. (we really don’t)
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replied December 14th, 2006
Men Don't Care - I Think Your Being to Critical of Yourself!
Listen, men do not care about what your vagina looks like. My friends and I have had many, many talks about our preferences. It always starts out with what size boobs or nipples to hair or no hair. The look never gets brought up because we all could care less. As long as we are getting it we’re not complaining trust me. Plus it you want my opinion I would love it my wife had bigger ones. There is more to play with or suck on during foreplay and sex. As long as it doesn't smell or have green stuff men don't care. Please take this advice and realize that all the men who have left replies have all said we do not care. (we really don’t)
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replied February 3rd, 2007
Same.
Im 17 years old and I want to be... Sexually active but im still a virgin. (and no thats not an invite to you sexual pretetors.) me and my boyfriend who's 19 are ready to take it to the next step we've been dating for 8 months but I have an oversized vaginal lip... Its so embarressing. I dont want to be judged. Its weird. I've heard that its just a problem some girls have and from what im reading now it does seem kinda normal, but it doesnt help. Idk.. Should I be so very embarressed about it? Or should I risk loosing my relationship because of the way my vagina looks..? I've hurd of vaginal cancer in magazines but I havent had that area examed yet... Should i? Crying or Very sad
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replied March 29th, 2011
I feel the same way Lori. maybe we can talk bout it? (: nd get through this together.
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replied February 5th, 2007
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Hi lori,

hope you don't mind a guy replying, just would like to give you a male perspective. By the way, i'm not a sexual predator so don't worry, i'm a 29yr old married man! Smile lol

ok, so first of all I reckon the chance that your boyfriend even notices that you have, in your words, an "oversized vaginal lip" are about a million to one. And even if he did notice, the chances that he would care are about 10 million to one. I think you are crediting him with too much knowledge of the female anatomy. Vaginas come in all shapes and sizes, that is the beauty of it. If every woman had the same vagina then for guys it would be a bit like opening your christmas present every year knowing that it contained a pair of black wool socks! In other words, very dull.

As the owner of your vagina you have lived with it all of your life and have had time to scrutinize the tiniest of details. Your guy has not had the opportunity to do the same and will not be spending time down there measuring your vaginal lips. He will doubtless be so pleased and excited to see your beautiful body that he could care less about such small issues.

Like a previous poster said, I have never had a guy conversation where we've compared or criticised the appearance of a women's vagina. It just isn't a concern of ours. Our main criteria, as would be your criteria for us, is cleanliness/hygiene and general maintenance. As long as those are in order then we are just chuffed to bits to be able to be with a woman in that way.

So really you need to stop worrying. Above all this, remember that your body is yours alone and is not for judgement by others. Your vagina is yours, nobody else's. Be proud of what you have, and expect others to value your body too. If they don't then that's their loss.

I really wanted to leave my final cliched statement to the end but it has to be said. Any guy who goes off you because of the appearance of your vagina would have to be a total and utter waste of oxygen and you would want to be as far away from him as soon as possible.

You will be fine, I guarantee it, and you will make your guy very very happy i'm sure.

All the best, take care.... Wink
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replied February 5th, 2007
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As a male, I would never judge a woman based on the look of her vagina or make her feel uncomfortable because of it. The fact that you've been dating for 8 months says there is definitely something more to your relationship than just the desire for sex. I'm sure he won't care and will continue to love you for who you are.
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