I hate my vagina. I know everyone is
different, but I hate the look of it. The
inner labia stics out alot. It's a very
personal thing, but I wonder how other
people think of theirs. I have never had
a man say anything, but it always bothers
me wondering if he will think i'm gross.
I am uncomfortable in jeans and some
pants. I think about it constantly and
wonder way too often if anyone else looks
like me. I have looked into surgery but I
am so scared. Can you believe insurance
pays for some of it? I have searched
libraries and bookstores and the internet
to find some information to make me feel
like I am not a freak. I have read
articles about this in magzines about this
so I know i'm not the only one, but it
would be nice to be able to talk to
someone about this. I have asked two
different doctors about this and they say
that there are alot of women like this.
But it doesn't make me feel any more
confident about it. I think about this
way too much. It is always on my mind. I
wish I could get past it but I can't!
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sherawks
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Sep 2004 Posts: 5 Location: canada
Your Not Alone Posted: 09-30-04 12:15pm
Your post is exactly the same thing I feel
and think all the time. I havent ever
even let my boyfriend see my cooter, as I
like to call it. I am super scared that I
am not normal as well. Lights off
blankets! It is very comforting to hear
that someone else feels and thinks the
same way as me. I didnt know you could
have surgery though! What a relief!
Though I doubt I could have the nerve to
even let the doctor see me. This
situation/issue has been the cause of many
complications for me in my life. The
girls in magazines and in adult movies,
have never looked like mine. And once
when one kind of resembled mine, my
boyfriend said ew.. Look at her snatch.
Which didnt allow much comfort in letting
him meet, my cooter! I probably havent
been of much help.. But reading that I
too am not alone has made me more
comfortable.. Atleast for this hour
anyways. Thanks! Feel free to write
back!
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lola05
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Sep 2006 Posts: 1
It's Ok!! Posted: 09-05-06 14:24pm
Listen, I had the same worries
before...But the more I looked into
it...The more I realized that most women
are the same!!!
Plus, most of the time...Men don't even
care!!
Think about it! Do you care what your
boyfriend/husband's penus looks like??
Just as long as he has one!...Right?
When you're an infant the outer lips are
much larger than the inner lips, but after
puberty that all changes! The average
length the inner lips reach is 2 inches (4
to 5 cm), but they can easily become a lot
longer. It’s absolutely normal if the
inner lips extend significantly past the
outer lips.
So, relax!
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singledad
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Aug 2006 Posts: 86 Location: New Mexico
Posted: 09-05-06 14:44pm
No doubt, don't worry about it, surf some
porn if you want comparisons: there's a
whole fetish catagory for oversize labia,
if in fact this is the case - for which it
would probobly have to be more than an
inch to really be considered oversized -
and quite a number of people, including
myself, find it very attractive.
As man, I can say with certainty i've
never heard a guy complain about, or even
mention the appearence of a womans labia
minora, and i've heard it all - it's just
not the kind of detail men typically get
into, and not an issue i'm aware of.
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Emma2
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 May 2006 Posts: 4406 Location: Montreal, Canada
Thanks: 1
Thanked:0
Posted: 09-05-06 15:12pm
Ive always heard that men like fat
vaginas...Lol...
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~*~Jillian~*~
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Feb 2005 Posts: 1759 Location: Tennessee, USA
Posted: 09-05-06 15:54pm
I think most girls/women at one point in
their life are worried about this ..Just
like my fiance says...Never compare
yourself to porn stars or
celebrities..Because all the things you
see online and in magazines are normally
air brushed or fixed up to look
better...They arent all perfect like they
make it out to be...If you are stressing
about this problem or making you not do
the things you want to do (sexually)..Then
I think the best thing would be to find a
doctor that you feel comfortable
with..Maybe try a consultation first and
then talk about what can be done..So that
you can get to know the doctor and feel
more at ease with letting them see your
privates..I know how embarrasing and
uncomfortable it is to get naked in front
of someone you hardly know...Haha I had to
do it alot when I was pregnant..But once
you do it ..You be like oh gosh thats a
piece of cake..So I would really consider
you looking into that..
More than likely your problem isnt as bad
as it seems..All women/vagina's are
different..Any man that loves you isnt
going to care what your vagina looks like
..And if he does say oh gross ..Then he
must not have much of a heart for you..To
even say that..But just remember you not
weird ..Your perfectly normal and there
are many other people in your
situation..Just relax..And I hope that
things get better for you..So you can
enjoy life without this problem lurking
around..
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prelude
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 May 2006 Posts: 77
Posted: 09-05-06 16:34pm
As a guy, I prefer the larger labia !!!
Dont worry, seriously you are fine !
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princess_amy89
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Sep 2006 Posts: 225 Location: england
Posted: 09-05-06 16:38pm
I feel the same mines abiut like that I
always think mines different cause the
inner labia stick out so I take the 2 lips
and try and tuck it in
omg I must sound like a perv and a freak
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fiona05
Supporter
Joined: 21 Dec 2005 Posts: 662 Location: , Norn Iron
Posted: 09-06-06 16:08pm
Wow, join the club, chapcher.
I've wanted to post about this before but
always felt kinda stupid. Ever since
i've been old enough to notice my vaginal
lips i've hated them. Any time i've ever
seen a vagina, be it through porn or
through educational diagrams, it always
looks streamlined and neat. Mine looks
like old flesh that's been chewed on by a
dog. I'm incredibly self conscious about
how much the inner lips stick out. I'm
curious too, how many women feel this way?
Mine probably stick out about an inch.
If I ever go commando in jeans the fabric
tugs at them. If I wear french knickers
or thongs the lips tend to pop out over
the edge of the gusset and its really
uncomfortable. They get in the way.
Makes me feel like a freak!
I know that everyone's anatomy is
different, and I try not to feel this way
but I can't help it. When i'm in sexual
situations I just try not to think about
it or be too self conscious cos at the end
of the day it'll just draw attention to
it, when maybe guys don't think it's so
strange after all?
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mfr825
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Sep 2006 Posts: 13 Location: BC Canada
Love Your Bod Posted: 09-06-06 17:45pm
I was very embarassed when I was younger
seeing that I had bigger lips and was
pretty self consious about it and always
wondered if other people had it. But now
that I am older, and more confidnet, I
love everything about my body (except for
my small boobs!). I was a little paranoid
showing it to my current boyfriend when we
first started dating but I absolutley love
having a "gushy" vagina! Lol. I love
how it wraps around my boyfriends penis
and its more fun to play with..Whether it
being yourself or your boyfriend. Its
better than having jsut a little skin and
bone there, right?!
I give a whole new meanig to "more cushin
for the pushin". Hahaha
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~*~Jillian~*~
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Feb 2005 Posts: 1759 Location: Tennessee, USA
Re: Emma2 Posted: 09-06-06 19:36pm
girly69
wrote:
why? Have you a fat
one,lol
why would you ask her
that...Are you a lesbian?
Im sure she has a big fat juicy cooch..And
im also sure that she isnt going to let
you see
haha now are you emma?:)
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DaManIam
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Sep 2006 Posts: 28
No Worries Posted: 09-07-06 16:25pm
Us men have a similar
issue.....Foreskin.
I had a buddy of mine look into surgery at
25 for a circumcision. He wanted a
pornstar penis. You ladies are not
alone!
You know what! I love everything about my
gf. Her lips are just fine and I had no
clue I liked a big booty until it was all
up in my face. Lol
no worries.
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2crazy4u
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Nov 2006 Posts: 29
Posted: 11-29-06 21:40pm
I find my inner labia a blessing.
Hehehe... They are not big (they stick
out about a third to a half an inch out).
The best part is I use them to rub my clit
when i'm not wet and I get wet within
minutes (just a little juice comes out)
and then I use my finger the rest of the
time. Basically I take the lips and fold
one over to meet the clit and move my
finger in a slow circular movement with a
lot of presure. The soft skin is what
works.
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effertroy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Nov 2006 Posts: 6 Location: Auckland
Ugly Vagina? Posted: 11-29-06 21:50pm
Be reassured.
Most men don't even notice. A vagina he
can see is likely to be a vagina whose
owner wants to welcome him into it.
That's pretty wonderful.
If you have chosen to let him see it, then
believe me, he wants it and he's not about
to criticise the way it's arranged.
As he should, just as you should be
wanting the surprising collection of
dangly bits and pieces he's bringing to
you.
Sex is fun, and funny. The parts we all
have look strange at first, but mostly
work pretty well. Enjoy, be happy and be
proud. I bet your vagina is beautiful,
just like the rest of you.
Eff
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sandy78
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Mar 2006 Posts: 81 Location: Cali.
Posted: 12-04-06 08:15am
You know wometimes we do things for the
wrong reasons and oter times we do them
for the right reasons, this to me sounds
like you know what your talking about and
if it were to make you feel better then by
all means go for the surgery. I myself
think that even though you are conscious
of it and think maybe someone will thik
it's gross or whatnot, you can't worry
about that because why not think the exact
oppisite and tell yourself that whoever
gets to be lucky enough to see it will
love it! Yes we are all different and we
all have different tastes that's what
makes this world so great.
My advice would be to give ti more time
and if you still really want to do it then
more power to you! If your with someone
then maybe talk it over, you might find
that they reall y like it and would never
want you to have anything done
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bherr
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Oct 2005 Posts: 17 Location: Dallas
Men Don't Care - I Think Your Being to Critical of Yourself! Posted: 12-14-06 12:27pm
Listen, men do not care about what your
vagina looks like. My friends and I have
had many, many talks about our
preferences. It always starts out with
what size boobs or nipples to hair or no
hair. The look never gets brought up
because we all could care less. As long
as we are getting it we’re not
complaining trust me. Plus it you want my
opinion I would love it my wife had bigger
ones. There is more to play with or suck
on during foreplay and sex. As long as it
doesn't smell or have green stuff men
don't care. Please take this advice and
realize that all the men who have left
replies have all said we do not care. (we
really don’t)
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bherr
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Oct 2005 Posts: 17 Location: Dallas
Men Don't Care - I Think Your Being to Critical of Yourself! Posted: 12-14-06 12:28pm
Listen, men do not care about what your
vagina looks like. My friends and I have
had many, many talks about our
preferences. It always starts out with
what size boobs or nipples to hair or no
hair. The look never gets brought up
because we all could care less. As long
as we are getting it we’re not
complaining trust me. Plus it you want my
opinion I would love it my wife had bigger
ones. There is more to play with or suck
on during foreplay and sex. As long as it
doesn't smell or have green stuff men
don't care. Please take this advice and
realize that all the men who have left
replies have all said we do not care. (we
really don’t)
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lori ren
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Feb 2007 Posts: 1
Same. Posted: 02-03-07 23:15pm
Im 17 years old and I want to be...
Sexually active but im still a virgin.
(and no thats not an invite to you sexual
pretetors.) me and my boyfriend who's 19
are ready to take it to the next step
we've been dating for 8 months but I have
an oversized vaginal lip... Its so
embarressing. I dont want to be judged.
Its weird. I've heard that its just a
problem some girls have and from what im
reading now it does seem kinda normal, but
it doesnt help. Idk.. Should I be so
very embarressed about it? Or should I
risk loosing my relationship because of
the way my vagina looks..? I've hurd of
vaginal cancer in magazines but I havent
had that area examed yet... Should i?
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Stu
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Oct 2005 Posts: 39 Location: United Kingdom
Lori Ren Posted: 02-05-07 03:51am
Hi lori,
hope you don't mind a guy replying, just
would like to give you a male perspective.
By the way, i'm not a sexual predator so
don't worry, i'm a 29yr old married man!
lol
ok, so first of all I reckon the chance
that your boyfriend even notices that you
have, in your words, an "oversized vaginal
lip" are about a million to one. And
even if he did notice, the chances that he
would care are about 10 million to one.
I think you are crediting him with too
much knowledge of the female anatomy.
Vaginas come in all shapes and sizes, that
is the beauty of it. If every woman had
the same vagina then for guys it would be
a bit like opening your christmas present
every year knowing that it contained a
pair of black wool socks! In other
words, very dull.
As the owner of your vagina you have lived
with it all of your life and have had time
to scrutinize the tiniest of details.
Your guy has not had the opportunity to do
the same and will not be spending time
down there measuring your vaginal lips.
He will doubtless be so pleased and
excited to see your beautiful body that he
could care less about such small issues.
Like a previous poster said, I have never
had a guy conversation where we've
compared or criticised the appearance of a
women's vagina. It just isn't a concern
of ours. Our main criteria, as would be
your criteria for us, is
cleanliness/hygiene and general
maintenance. As long as those are in
order then we are just chuffed to bits to
be able to be with a woman in that way.
So really you need to stop worrying.
Above all this, remember that your body is
yours alone and is not for judgement by
others. Your vagina is yours, nobody
else's. Be proud of what you have, and
expect others to value your body too. If
they don't then that's their loss.
I really wanted to leave my final cliched
statement to the end but it has to be
said. Any guy who goes off you because
of the appearance of your vagina would
have to be a total and utter waste of
oxygen and you would want to be as far
away from him as soon as possible.
You will be fine, I guarantee it, and you
will make your guy very very happy i'm
sure.
All the best, take care....
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HealthySex
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Jan 2007 Posts: 414
Posted: 02-05-07 16:22pm
As a male, I would never judge a woman
based on the look of her vagina or make
her feel uncomfortable because of it. The
fact that you've been dating for 8 months
says there is definitely something more to
your relationship than just the desire for
sex. I'm sure he won't care and will
continue to love you for who you are.
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