I am so stressed ...
Three months ago I agreed to watch 2 of my dear husband's cousins 6 children. Just during the day. He agreed to pay me some money which we needed and that is why I agreed to it. Previously, I lost my job due to medical reasons and I was anxious to make a few extra dollars.
Well, their grandma dropped them off and that was the end of that. They are now considered living with us night and day for 3 months I have no breaks, cannot go out and get a job, no assistance footing the bill for everything they came here basically with the clothes on their backs. The father recently lost custody of them the mother did as well. Dss has custody of them. .. Since the father did not have his name put on their birth certificates I cannot prove my relation to them for any wic or foodstamps or gov assistance at all ...I have asked them, including the grandmother for assistance the father and grandma gave us fifty dollars each. I am at my wits end...The dss office asked me if we want to adopt the girls...I do but I am afraid that we will not be able to afford anything.
I am so angry with them for putting me in this situation. I feel if I dont they will certainly go back into foster care and we will never get to see them again...I love them.
The other children are with the mothers I guess.
I am not able to get any assistance other than claiming them on our taxes at the end of the year. The dss is trying to grant us full custody then the mother and father will have to pay child support. If we adopt them we lose all chances of child support assistance. If I apply, which we are now, to be foster parents we then could get some assistance.
The trouble with child support is that he has been running from the law for not paying child support for his other children.
I am just stressed, tired, depressed...You name it.