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I like a man who is 53 years old. I really, really like him and he makes me feel wonderful. I am 33 years old, pretty and with a nice body. We have worked together for several years and I have always like him even though he is married and known he likes me as well, but nothing ever happened until recently when we got too close by accident and ever since them have not been able to keep our hands from each other. He kisses me very passionately, touches me all over, kisses by breast, my waist, my hips, makes me feel in heaven, but looks a bit tense when I try to touch him, so I try to keep mi hands away from his penis, but the few times a have touch around the area of his penis I have notice that there is no erection y also notice he tries to avoid me when there is plenty time ahead of us, and only approaches me, when we are in a rush. I know he likes me a lot and desires me as much as I desire him.

I few days ago I sat at her computer and checked the internet explorer history and realize he has been visiting sites to buy viagra, cialis and other sort of ed drugs. By know I am certain that he has some sort of erectile disorder, and that does not mean I like him any less, but I am confused! How can I give pleasure to an impotent man? How are men with this problem able to have an orgasm? I am not so worry about me since there are other things besides penetration that he can do to give me pleasure, but how can I give pleasure to him, when he cannot get an erection. I don’t want to make him feel bad, about his problem especially because he is not mentioning it to me and I don’t know what to do. Should I just stop this, before I get more involved with him? I am very confused but still like him a lot. Please give me some advice.
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First Helper MarthaBarahona
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replied September 21st, 2004
Experienced User
The man is married!!!! Here is my advise...Find someone who isn't. I can't stand women like you!!!
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replied September 22nd, 2004
Explanation
He was married, reason why I waited so long. His wife died about a year ago.
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replied September 22nd, 2004
Experienced User
I appologize. I am very sorry I thought you stated above that he is currently married.
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replied September 24th, 2004
Extremely eHealthy
Do you know if he is on any blood pressure medication, or is diabetic?

There is a lot of misunderstanding about viagra. Although it may help men who are not technically impotent, when it is used "recreationally", its medical use is for men who really couldn't get erectinos otherwise. So the fact that he is looking for viagra is probably a good thing. It has helped a lot of couples have regular sex lives again. So yes, he may be impotent, but that is exactly what the viagra would cure, and the fact that he is looking for it means that he is interested in having sex. Possibly before his wife died he they weren't being intimate any more, but perhaps he is now thinking that a new relationship would make it worthwhile.

Good luck.
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replied September 24th, 2004
He Is Healty Man
Poopoopoo:

as far as I know, he is not in any medication. I have worked with him for over 8 years and he has never been sick, he looks healthy, but smokes a lot sometimes. And yes since his wife had cancer I figure sex wasn't important during the last couple of year.

My main question is this:
if this viagra or whatever he is trying to get does not work Sad . How does a man like that gets pleasure Embarassed ?? I know he desires me and likes to caress and kiss me and liked I mentioned before, when we are together I feel in heaven :d , but I am concern about how is this going to work out if the medicine is not succesful?? Sad

i really need and advised, especially if someone has had a similar experience.

Please help! I am very confused, Wink but still likes him a lot.
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replied May 28th, 2013
5/28/13: I realize this thread is from 2004. I just wanted to add a few comments. 9 yrs have passed & Martha's love is now 62. At the time she posted, her love interest was under extreme stress. His wife, presumably of many yrs & also the love of his life, was dying of cancer & in the final stages. He realized he would soon be facing not only her DEATH but also living & being alone. After many yrs, he would once again be SINGLE. To many, that is a terrifying prospect. It is a fact that 80% of all ED cases are psychological in nature. Due to work environment & social constraints, most likely discussing his health issues/meds never presented itself. She did mention he smoked a lot & it is a fact that this is but one of the causes of ED. Hopefully, he is under an MD's care for cardiac & high blood pressure & lipid levels. Hopefully, he has a legitimate Rx from a DOCTOR for ED & not from a site on the WWW. Hopefully, after all these yrs, these 2 are now a happy couple who freely share & have no secrets. (RN,BS)
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replied September 25th, 2004
I know how you feel. I too was somewhat sexually confused until a man of 53 years got his hands on me.

He loved to run his hands all over my body, even if he could not get it up. Sometimes he could and sometimes he couldn't.

However, his inability to get it up did not diminish his satifaction in being able to get my gun off. If you know what I mean. I used to say my man could lose his dick and still be a great lover... There are other ways... Wink

when the opportunity presents itself get together with him. He'll take the lead, and if you have any doubts ask him what he wants you to do. If one thing doesn't work something else might... Chances are he's going to need to see a doctor.

My guess is you shake him up and make him feel alive again. You two sound cute. And don't let age get in your way. Older guys are waaaay better and i've dated all (legal) ages. I'm sticking with the older ones these days.
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replied September 27th, 2004
Thanks Kelly
Thanks kelly!
You make me feel somehow better :d , you seem to understand exactly what I mean. I also think that there are other ways, but this will be my first time with a man that cannot get an erection and I am kind of confuse.

Thanks a lot for sharing your experience.

Pd: did you partner ever used viagra or some kind of drug to help him have an erection?
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replied September 27th, 2004
Martha
No he never used viagra but there were times when I wished he had, just to lengthen the love making.


I also had an older boyfriend of more recent date who was about 30 years my senior. He never got real hard but he said the oral sex still felt great to him! And oh gosh, he was always so damn grateful for my attention towards him.

You know if theyounger men were half as grateful they'd probably never go one night without sex.


Cool
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replied September 27th, 2004
Extremely eHealthy
In my experience it isn't age. It is respect, experience, knowledge and whether or not the guy gives a hoot or not.
Age has nothing to do with it.
There are young guys and old guys who know exactly what they are doing and know exactly how to please their woman. There are also young and old guys who could care less as long as they get off. Age has nothing to do with it.
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replied September 27th, 2004
hotasfrick wrote:
1.in my experience it isn't age.

perhaps we should estabalish just how experienced you are. Age does play a factor with some people. Perhaps you are a prodigy, someone ahead of their age in certain matters.
However, if I were a sex prodigy I doubt i'd be bragging too loudly. Laughing

the reason age is a factor? Different things are important to we humans at different ages of our lives. What was not important to us at the age of 20 could be way important at the age of 40.

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it is respect, experience, knowledge and whether or not the guy gives a hoot or not.

correct! And guess what. All of this comes with age too Wink who knows maybe even you will mellow just a bit.

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age has nothing to do with it.

according to you and now I wonder what world you're living in. In my atmosphere age plays a part. But then I do more listening than blabbing. That knack comes with age too. Wink

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there are young guys and old guys who know exactly what they are doing and know exactly how to please their woman. There are also young and old guys who could care less as long as they get off.

well you got this one right...
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age has nothing to do with it.

yeah. When I was your age I didn't see the big picture either... Just the corner I was living in.

Three times in this one post you've said age has nothing to do with it. Are you trying to convince me or yourself?

Tell ya what. Live another 20 years and get back to me on it.

Kelli out Arrow
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replied March 16th, 2012
Help about viagra
My man has been impotent for years. I am the first women who has accepted him for who he is. But now he wants help. We ordered viagra, do you really think that will work?
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replied March 16th, 2012
No meds.
66 yrs old here, and viagra makes me feel like poo, not worth the pain. I get off well with oral or by hand, just because it is not hard does not mean, no happy ending.
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replied August 31st, 2012
As a woman I feel very uncertain, when there is no response (hardening). Do the same things feel good as before, or are some things more or less pleasurable? In my new relationship I don't feel comfortable asking - I was surprised that the man did not mention his problem. I knew he had had a heart attack and was on beta blockers, so I wasn't too surprised, but feel he doesn't want to talk about it - at least not yet. It would be nice to hear what sex is like for a man in this situation. How can I give him pleasure?
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replied December 26th, 2012
hi
if you are ugly and no man accept marry you go with him marry but dont expect love
dont fool urself he is not suitable 4u coz sex is very important in marrige life
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replied December 26th, 2012
how does it happen?? like how does a man just wake up one day and not be able to get a boner?? if that happened to my fianc i would die... our sex is great! it has been for the last two years but of course we are young 17 and he is 19 but I'm just confused and worried that are crazyy perfect love making could one day come to an end... then what??? Sad guess ill jus be SOL </3
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replied December 26th, 2012
how does it happen?? like how does a man just wake up one day and not be able to get a boner?? if that happened to my fianc i would die... our sex is great! it has been for the last two years but of course we are young 17 and he is 19 but I'm just confused and worried that are crazyy perfect love making could one day come to an end... then what??? Sad guess ill jus be SOL </3
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replied April 23rd, 2013
answer to your true question
Listen, didn't have time to read the whole posting. Not sure if you are messing with him while he is married or not. If not the hooray for you... if so I boo you badly... but to answer your question.
Finding out that your significant other is impotent can be scary and devastating for the both of you, but it doesn't have to be. It's more devastating for the man though and very scary for them.
You can definitely give him pleasure. What most men fail to realize is that the penis is still very sensitive to touch even though they can't get it hard. Licking, kissing, and touching and sucking it are great ways to give him pleasure and he can still cum too.
You have to be careful though not to bite hard or suck too hard
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