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Q: Sex With An Impotent Man
asked by: MarthaBarahona on September 21st, 2004
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I like a man who is 53 years old. I really, really like him and he makes me feel wonderful. I am 33 years old, pretty and with a nice body. We have worked together for several years and I have always like him even though he is married and known he likes me as well, but nothing ever happened until recently when we got too close by accident and ever since them have not been able to keep our hands from each other. He kisses me very passionately, touches me all over, kisses by breast, my waist, my hips, makes me feel in heaven, but looks a bit tense when I try to touch him, so I try to keep mi hands away from his penis, but the few times a have touch around the area of his penis I have notice that there is no erection y also notice he tries to avoid me when there is plenty time ahead of us, and only approaches me, when we are in a rush. I know he likes me a lot and desires me as much as I desire him.

I few days ago I sat at her computer and checked the internet explorer history and realize he has been visiting sites to buy viagra, cialis and other sort of ed drugs. By know I am certain that he has some sort of erectile disorder, and that does not mean I like him any less, but I am confused! How can I give pleasure to an impotent man? How are men with this problem able to have an orgasm? I am not so worry about me since there are other things besides penetration that he can do to give me pleasure, but how can I give pleasure to him, when he cannot get an erection. I don’t want to make him feel bad, about his problem especially because he is not mentioning it to me and I don’t know what to do. Should I just stop this, before I get more involved with him? I am very confused but still like him a lot. Please give me some advice.
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TBECK12
replied on September 21st, 2004
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The man is married!!!! Here is my advise...Find someone who isn't. I can't stand women like you!!!
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MarthaBarahona
replied on September 22nd, 2004
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Explanation
He was married, reason why I waited so long. His wife died about a year ago.
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TBECK12
replied on September 22nd, 2004
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I appologize. I am very sorry I thought you stated above that he is currently married.
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oopoopoop
replied on September 24th, 2004
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Do you know if he is on any blood pressure medication, or is diabetic?

There is a lot of misunderstanding about viagra. Although it may help men who are not technically impotent, when it is used "recreationally", its medical use is for men who really couldn't get erectinos otherwise. So the fact that he is looking for viagra is probably a good thing. It has helped a lot of couples have regular sex lives again. So yes, he may be impotent, but that is exactly what the viagra would cure, and the fact that he is looking for it means that he is interested in having sex. Possibly before his wife died he they weren't being intimate any more, but perhaps he is now thinking that a new relationship would make it worthwhile.

Good luck.
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MarthaBarahona
replied on September 24th, 2004
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He Is Healty Man
Poopoopoo:

as far as I know, he is not in any medication. I have worked with him for over 8 years and he has never been sick, he looks healthy, but smokes a lot sometimes. And yes since his wife had cancer I figure sex wasn't important during the last couple of year.

My main question is this:
if this viagra or whatever he is trying to get does not work Sad . How does a man like that gets pleasure Embarassed ?? I know he desires me and likes to caress and kiss me and liked I mentioned before, when we are together I feel in heaven :d , but I am concern about how is this going to work out if the medicine is not succesful?? Sad

i really need and advised, especially if someone has had a similar experience.

Please help! I am very confused, Wink but still likes him a lot.
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Kelli_
replied on September 25th, 2004
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I know how you feel. I too was somewhat sexually confused until a man of 53 years got his hands on me.

He loved to run his hands all over my body, even if he could not get it up. Sometimes he could and sometimes he couldn't.

However, his inability to get it up did not diminish his satifaction in being able to get my gun off. If you know what I mean. I used to say my man could lose his dick and still be a great lover... There are other ways... Wink

when the opportunity presents itself get together with him. He'll take the lead, and if you have any doubts ask him what he wants you to do. If one thing doesn't work something else might... Chances are he's going to need to see a doctor.

My guess is you shake him up and make him feel alive again. You two sound cute. And don't let age get in your way. Older guys are waaaay better and i've dated all (legal) ages. I'm sticking with the older ones these days.
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MarthaBarahona
replied on September 27th, 2004
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Thanks Kelly
Thanks kelly!
You make me feel somehow better :d , you seem to understand exactly what I mean. I also think that there are other ways, but this will be my first time with a man that cannot get an erection and I am kind of confuse.

Thanks a lot for sharing your experience.

Pd: did you partner ever used viagra or some kind of drug to help him have an erection?
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Kelli_
replied on September 27th, 2004
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Martha
No he never used viagra but there were times when I wished he had, just to lengthen the love making.


I also had an older boyfriend of more recent date who was about 30 years my senior. He never got real hard but he said the oral sex still felt great to him! And oh gosh, he was always so damn grateful for my attention towards him.

You know if theyounger men were half as grateful they'd probably never go one night without sex.


Cool
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2ferano
replied on September 27th, 2004
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In my experience it isn't age. It is respect, experience, knowledge and whether or not the guy gives a hoot or not.
Age has nothing to do with it.
There are young guys and old guys who know exactly what they are doing and know exactly how to please their woman. There are also young and old guys who could care less as long as they get off. Age has nothing to do with it.
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Kelli_
replied on September 27th, 2004
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hotasfrick wrote:
1.in my experience it isn't age.

perhaps we should estabalish just how experienced you are. Age does play a factor with some people. Perhaps you are a prodigy, someone ahead of their age in certain matters.
However, if I were a sex prodigy I doubt i'd be bragging too loudly. Laughing

the reason age is a factor? Different things are important to we humans at different ages of our lives. What was not important to us at the age of 20 could be way important at the age of 40.

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it is respect, experience, knowledge and whether or not the guy gives a hoot or not.

correct! And guess what. All of this comes with age too Wink who knows maybe even you will mellow just a bit.

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age has nothing to do with it.

according to you and now I wonder what world you're living in. In my atmosphere age plays a part. But then I do more listening than blabbing. That knack comes with age too. Wink

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there are young guys and old guys who know exactly what they are doing and know exactly how to please their woman. There are also young and old guys who could care less as long as they get off.

well you got this one right...
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age has nothing to do with it.

yeah. When I was your age I didn't see the big picture either... Just the corner I was living in.

Three times in this one post you've said age has nothing to do with it. Are you trying to convince me or yourself?

Tell ya what. Live another 20 years and get back to me on it.

Kelli out Arrow
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