If you want to help him then dont make his epilepsy the bee all and end all of every situation. People seem to think that epilepsy is an illness and its not it is a condition that thousands of people live with everyday.My son is almost 3 years old and he has at least 4 seizures every day. If I worried so much about it every time he had one then I would be a nervous wreck by now.It is a way of life and you have to deal with it.If he thinks people are treating him different then he doesnt need you to aswell so pls try not to worry about the situation.
Good luck to you both

I completely agree with anna here. It sounds like you might be treating him differently since finding out too. If he doesn't think it's a big deal, then it's not. ...Especially if he has only had 2 seizures in the past 2 years. He doesn't sound like he needs help.

However, if he's interested in having surgery (and I do mean if he is interested, because it's his decision and his life) then I may be able to help. I had the surgery 5 1/2 years ago in new york, at an excellent epilepsy center, with an excellent surgeon. I don't think they want advertisements on this forum, but if you want more details you can send me a personal message. They had to be cautious with me so I didn't lose too much vision, but even so my seizures are much better now. I still take 3 meds, and I still have simple partial seizures all the time, but they never ever generalize or even turn into complex partials. I can go to school and even work again. There has been a dramatic improvement in my life.

Just keep in mind that surgery is a big deal and it should only be considered if the epilepsy is really interfering in a person's life. Also, not everyone is lucky enough to be a candidate, so a lot of pre-surgical evaluation is necessary. And remember, it's your fiance's decision (not yours). Just support whatever he decides. Good luck.

Dear sleepy jen & anna,

thank you first off for your replies and advice. I just wanted to clear something. I havent changed at all after finding out and I dont plan to. And im not pushing him into this surgery. We talked about it and I did as much research as I could for him about epilepsy as well as the surgery. One point that I would like to make is that where we live, we dont exactly have the best medical proffessionals and facilities. That is why we decided to move to the states, to new york. Where I plan to go to school and he plans to work and get his masters. I just wanted to get as much info as possible to pass on to him. In the end the decision is his, and I will support him 110% and stand by him no matter what. Thank u again.