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Q: What Am I to Do? Please Help!
asked by: rowrow120 on September 21st, 2004
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Crying or Very sad the man I was once knew had suddenly changed to this monster "devil", just last year. He was arrested three times in a month last october for beating the heck out of me. The day after his third arrest a domestic violence counselor that worked with the police station came by to interview me and speak with me about the situation I was in. From what the counselor has read from all police reports that was made, she asked me if I knew the word "schizophrenia", and that was what my boyfriend had. Throughout the 6 years we've been together I could believe this was happening to him and me. With out 3 1/2 year old daughter, witnessing all the abuse and beating i've endured, i'm still not able to let go. All the false accusations he has on me till this very moment pushes me further to prove that he his wrong. He halucinates suddenly, says i've cheated on him with his nephew, brother and so forth the list goes on and on. I just want to prove to him that all the negative he puts in his head his so not true. I'm sure he knows that i've done nothing to hurt him, unlike all the cheating and pain he has done, in the past, to make him think i've done wrong. But, i'm scared for him. He punches himself on the head, talks to himself, does not answer when our daughter and I call for him, like he does not hear us. He calls me witch, like i'm doing some voodoo. See last year in septmeber, we had gone to a mental hospital where they evaluated him, his response was surely way off. The doctor is asking my boyfriend to stay, for treatment, therefore he is told that he has a mental disorder, at first he was willing to stay, then suddenly he refused. I yelled at me the doctor, and others in the hospital. Yes i'm frightened for myself and kid, but I love him to much just to abandom him. Am I doing the right thing in forcing myself to stay?
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replied on September 21st, 2004
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It's very difficult finding yourself confronted with mental illness in someone you love, and your man is very fortunate that you want to try and help him. You might try posting this in the schizophrenia section, where people with more experience might be able to advise on your options. It may be possible to get his symptoms under control with medication, and for him to understand his situation.

But your first responsibility has to be to your child and yourself. If this man has become violent and unpredictable, you have to ensure that he cannot harm you -- and if he his delusional there is no way to be sure that he won't also harm your daughter. Even if you love him, that does not mean simply letting him behave how he wants whatever the consequences. No one will be a winner if he kills you or harms your child, so you must take steps to prevent a tragesy, for his sake as well as yours.
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replied on September 26th, 2004
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Firstly you wont know it is schizophrenia until he is assessed, it can often take years to evaluate someone, as his symptoms could be other mental illnesses,
also if he is this bad, and he refuses to get help or stay at surgery, you do know you or his family can have him sectioned dont you?(i dont know all the info but my sister had to be sectioned)this is where you sign a consent on his behalf to have him taken to a special care unit to help him recover.Against his will so to speak, as in its not his choice, but for his benefit.

This is a drastic measure, but from what you say it needs one, it is very difficult to do, but it is tough love.It is for his own good. You cant help him at the point, he needs specialist help, which you are not trained to give.

It is very difficult to live with anyone with a mental illness, so you should seek support for yourself too.

And I think you need to put the love for your child before the love for him.As tough as that is. He cant get better unless he realizes he has problems, and this can take years in some cases.
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