What Am I to Do? Please Help! Posted: 09-21-04 03:28am
the
man I was once knew had suddenly changed
to this monster "devil", just last year.
He was arrested three times in a month
last october for beating the heck out of
me. The day after his third arrest a
domestic violence counselor that worked
with the police station came by to
interview me and speak with me about the
situation I was in. From what the
counselor has read from all police reports
that was made, she asked me if I knew the
word "schizophrenia", and that was what my
boyfriend had. Throughout the 6 years
we've been together I could believe this
was happening to him and me. With out 3
1/2 year old daughter, witnessing all the
abuse and beating i've endured, i'm still
not able to let go. All the false
accusations he has on me till this very
moment pushes me further to prove that he
his wrong. He halucinates suddenly, says
i've cheated on him with his nephew,
brother and so forth the list goes on and
on. I just want to prove to him that all
the negative he puts in his head his so
not true. I'm sure he knows that i've
done nothing to hurt him, unlike all the
cheating and pain he has done, in the
past, to make him think i've done wrong.
But, i'm scared for him. He punches
himself on the head, talks to himself,
does not answer when our daughter and I
call for him, like he does not hear us.
He calls me witch, like i'm doing some
voodoo. See last year in septmeber, we
had gone to a mental hospital where they
evaluated him, his response was surely way
off. The doctor is asking my boyfriend to
stay, for treatment, therefore he is told
that he has a mental disorder, at first he
was willing to stay, then suddenly he
refused. I yelled at me the doctor, and
others in the hospital. Yes i'm
frightened for myself and kid, but I love
him to much just to abandom him. Am I
doing the right thing in forcing myself to
stay?
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Posted: 09-21-04 07:30am
It's very difficult finding yourself
confronted with mental illness in someone
you love, and your man is very fortunate
that you want to try and help him. You
might try posting this in the
schizophrenia section, where people with
more experience might be able to advise on
your options. It may be possible to get
his symptoms under control with
medication, and for him to understand his
situation.
But your first responsibility has to be to
your child and yourself. If this man has
become violent and unpredictable, you have
to ensure that he cannot harm you -- and
if he his delusional there is no way to be
sure that he won't also harm your
daughter. Even if you love him, that does
not mean simply letting him behave how he
wants whatever the consequences. No one
will be a winner if he kills you or harms
your child, so you must take steps to
prevent a tragesy, for his sake as well as
yours.
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Joined: 31 May 2004 Posts: 18
Posted: 09-26-04 20:31pm
Firstly you wont know it is schizophrenia
until he is assessed, it can often take
years to evaluate someone, as his symptoms
could be other mental illnesses,
also if he is this bad, and he refuses to
get help or stay at surgery, you do know
you or his family can have him sectioned
dont you?(i dont know all the info but my
sister had to be sectioned)this is where
you sign a consent on his behalf to have
him taken to a special care unit to help
him recover.Against his will so to speak,
as in its not his choice, but for his
benefit.
This is a drastic measure, but from what
you say it needs one, it is very difficult
to do, but it is tough love.It is for his
own good. You cant help him at the
point, he needs specialist help, which you
are not trained to give.
It is very difficult to live with anyone
with a mental illness, so you should seek
support for yourself too.
And I think you need to put the love for
your child before the love for him.As
tough as that is. He cant get better
unless he realizes he has problems, and
this can take years in some cases.
the
man I was once knew had suddenly changed
to this monster "devil", just last year.
He was arrested three times in a month
last october for beating the heck out of
me. The day after his third arrest a
domestic violence counselor that worked
with the police station came by to
interview me and speak with me about the
situation I was in. From what the
counselor has read from all police reports
that was made, she asked me if I knew the
word "schizophrenia", and that was what my
boyfriend had. Throughout the 6 years
we've been together I could believe this
was happening to him and me. With out 3
1/2 year old daughter, witnessing all the
abuse and beating i've endured, i'm still
not able to let go. All the false
accusations he has on me till this very
moment pushes me further to prove that he
his wrong. He halucinates suddenly, says
i've cheated on him with his nephew,
brother and so forth the list goes on and
on. I just want to prove to him that all
the negative he puts in his head his so
not true. I'm sure he knows that i've
done nothing to hurt him, unlike all the
cheating and pain he has done, in the
past, to make him think i've done wrong.
But, i'm scared for him. He punches
himself on the head, talks to himself,
does not answer when our daughter and I
call for him, like he does not hear us.
He calls me witch, like i'm doing some
voodoo. See last year in septmeber, we
had gone to a mental hospital where they
evaluated him, his response was surely way
off. The doctor is asking my boyfriend to
stay, for treatment, therefore he is told
that he has a mental disorder, at first he
was willing to stay, then suddenly he
refused. I yelled at me the doctor, and
others in the hospital. Yes i'm
frightened for myself and kid, but I love
him to much just to abandom him. Am I
doing the right thing in forcing myself to
stay?
