I have been learning to put my boyfriends member all the way into my throat. I have gotten to where I dont gag very often. Sometimes we get very aggresive and he really pounds my throat hard. Sometimes I throw up. What type of damage could I be doing to my vocal cords, and sinuses? Is it fairly easy to tear or damage the tissue/organs.? I have been clearing my throat all the time and seem to be kind of conjested the last few days. Thanks for your help.
Wow. 1st of all, I don't know what kind of damage could be done to the tissues of your throat, but I think you should talk to your boyfriend about this. When performing oral sex on a guy, I was under the impression that most girls prefer to be in total control (as it is easy to gag, etc.) of the situation. It's natural for a guy to start thrusting as he gets into it, but it should be okay for you to grab his hips to stop him if he's going to deep, or tell him not to put his hands on the back of your head and push down. You are, after all, giving him pleasure, and he should respect you enough to not be forceful with you. Sex should be enjoyable for the both of you. Throwing up and sore throats don't sound pleasant to me! Please take care.
Thank you for your replys and your concern. But I like to be asphyxiated(choked) but that is very dangerous. So, when I orally put my boyfriend deep in my throat, I can't breath, it is sort of the same feeling. I like to gag, but not to throw up. But sometimes, depending on the position we are in, he does not get out fast enough and I do throw up a little. Thanks again.
What I dont understand here is this..If you are so concerned about the harm it could do to your throat or sinuses then why do you continue to do this? Why dont you stop the roughness and find out the risks before you continue. And I am not understanding this liking to be choked and gagged thing where is the pleasure in that? And why your boyfriend would allow you to do such a crazy thing is behond me especially not knowing if there are risks to what your doing..To each there own I guess..
I was not aware those things were already happening that long ago! I know a couple 2-3 people who get something out of the choking thing too. Personally, I prefer BREATHING!!!
Kids and their fads! Of course, at THIS point, I'd say what they need to get the rush just keeps getting more and more extreme!
What ever happened to taking your time with lots of really good foreplay - WORKIN it, teasing and pleasing and such? Get some healthier ideas and just run with 'em.
I think it was Dr. Ruth that was asked about anal sex too - she didn't "knock it" but she was "concerned" as those tissues are sensitive and whatever else she said.
I assume withOUT the 'rough' play, it'd be OK on occasion - MAYBE it's the same with deep throating... not sure. I've only tried it once cuz I wanted to please MY guy! The following day, my throat felt a bit abused even though we DIDN'T go hog wild with it; he KNEW better as it was my first time.
I shall continue reading as I am curious to know the risks and such before I even consider doing it again.
You like not being able to breathe because there's a sex organ in your throat? Hmm. I know that my boyfriend would be kinda grossed out if I puked on his member...But he just lets me do what I want to do, because I know what he likes. Fortunately, I feel lucky b/c he doesn't care if I deep throat him or not.
Please be careful,more people than you'd think have asphyxsiated while having sex.Mostly,it's done while masturbating solo,but i've heard of those that like the lack of oxygen rush at the moment of orgasm.I don't get it,but please be careful.Patty
Wearing a corset may effectively suppresses gag reflex
From my experience I can understand that some women actually desire to deep throat in spite of the gag reflex and throwing up, both of which are major distractions. For so many reasons deep throating is something once should always approach slowly and carefully but the gag reflex and throwing are things which can effectively be suppressed by a cinched corset. The degree to which it must be cinched to achieve this is something which must be determined by experimentation but it is not neccesary to cinch to a dangerous degree to achieve this. The throat still needs time to stretch to the various sizes of penises and while I won't conjecture here on the gory details if injury occurs as a result, I cannot emphasize the need to approach deep throating slowly with the woman in total control.
The lack of oxygen hightens the feel of the orgasm. Dunno why, it just does. I love the feeling. I don''t belivet it''s sick or anything... It has probably a very logical physical explination. Also, persons who likes this are most likely submissive. The submissive one is really the one with all the power. Do some reading before you put out your judgmental comments. /Gag is great
Hello. I am gay and I do this a lot on my boyfriend.
If you get a "soar" throat, then you should calm down a few days when it comes to deepthroating / gagging.
Also, I don't think it damages the throat or other health stuff..Unless he have a 30 cm and put it all down.
Then you will die.. (^^).
But, deepthroating is something which is performed often during sex and if it would cause any sort of harm (Except the fact that your gag reflex goes away(Which isnt very good tbh on other factors) I believe it would be announced well within the health care stuff..
And I do not know 100% facts, this is what I believe and read a little about.
However, getting a soar throat is NORMAL and you just got to calm down on the deepthroating a little bit for a few days till you feel your back to normal! .
And get into the correct position to make sure you do not actually throw up. Ex,laying on your back on your bed but with the head down on the edge or same but with laying on ur stomach, well either way, the neck should be shaped in a line so that your boyfriends ''member'' can easly go down without forcing it too much.
Agressive ? Well, I also do this and I dont have any issues, except a soar throat now and then...
Choking- It's ban if the blood circulation gets stuck for too long, if you like being chocked, don't go too far, and if you want it rough choking, do short ones! .
Simply put, no it's not dangerous in and of iteslf. Many, many women (and men) like being on the giving end of very aggressive fellatio. It's properly referred to irumatio when it is aggressive (ie - at the pace of the receiving male, usually much harder.) I think what we're discussing here is essentially "forced" oral, though with permission. But for the purposes of this discussion, that's the physical act in question.
That said, this isn't something that comes naturally to most people. It does take practice (without the aggressive part), but that's mostly to avoid the gag. Throwing up during oral sex has no worse effects (medically speaking) that throwing up for any other reason.
As always, be aware that vomit is a bodily fluid, so standard safety should apply, though if you're doing something this advanced, the comdom issue may have already been dealt with. As for the condom itself, it can theoretically present a choking hazard, and is (though it sounds weird to say) a much more serious threat as far as potential health and safety issues.
But rest assured that you can give oral, even aggressive oral, every day for your entire life and aside from the occasional sore throat from the actual bang-bang-bang against the walls of your throat, there's really no noteworthy health issues. (The physical size of both partners could obviously affect this. Your mileage may vary.)
i have the same question as the girl. i also like to be dominated, choked, controlled so this is something i like to do with my bf, but at the same time im wondering if it could damage throught musles or cause any serious problems of any sort? i really dont wanna get responses like why would u because that isnt the question. id like to know were i could get a medical opinioln on this question?
I have done this with guys quite a lot and also enjoy it, it has taken time to get used to it and I find relaxing the throat muscles to be key to it, hard to do when you are close to choking and gagging, I imagine my throat opening and accepting my partner and lightly swallow suck - this seems to help let me feel a bit more control and relax to take more than I ever thought possible. I have afterwards had a sore throat but never any permanent damage. Main point is take your time to learn this ensure you are relaxed and listen to your body's feedback - It certainly seems to drive guys wild!!