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Q: Trouble Problem!
asked by: nikki_caro on October 3rd, 2003
Extremely eHealthy
Ok,
my mom went to mexico last night and she stopped in arizona to see joses mom and she was telling my mom how shes been feeling real sick and shes having heart problems. I had no idea and im sending her a card tomorrow, in spanish because she doesnt know english and I only speak some spanish. (i know I feel bad about that) the only thing is, she told my mom that she told jose and he said no impieses, which means "dont start". Like he didnt want to hear it! And I asked him, did you know your moms sick!? And he said "she always says that" so I said and what did you tell her? "oh well" I was so mad! He says that to his mom! We got in an argument about it because thats his mom! And for some reason, he wont tell me, he holds a grudge against her. I can tell. He barely calls her but last night we agreed he would call her everyday now, even if I have to make the call. Im going to bring it up at our counceling but I was so mad to know he doesnt care. Its like he only cares about me and my family. And not about his. I dont know what else to do. I hope he keeps his promise of calling her but I feel bad.
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sammypinkpants
replied on October 3rd, 2003
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Maybe...................
Either something has happened in the past to keep him from liking his mom that he hasnt forgiven her for.Or he is just to wrapped up in other things and just dont care.But he cares about you and your family so he has to be caring>maybe you should talk to him about it.
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nikki_caro
replied on October 3rd, 2003
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Yeah I know, but he wont tell me. He just says he doesnt want to talk about it because it makes him mad. And I say ok. But I do know he had a hard life with no love, but he is very caring, and I would like him to be more like that with his mom, considering shes sick.
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joker13
replied on October 25th, 2003
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Give Me a Break
If only spanish men would stop with their macho caca. Stop making excuses for him. I grew up in a spanish home and spanish women spoil there male children, and tend to forgive them easer then there daughters. He needs to get over it. My dad was a x-con served 20 years. He was very hateful, no affection what so ever, my mom told us he didnt want us growing up like health forum, and my mom did nothing. Stayed with him no matter what he did. I dont hate and didnt hate him, I dont hate her for staying with him. When my dad go sick were there for him and when he past away 2 years ago we were all there, and I would do anything for my moms... So...Stop making excuse for his behaveior towards his mom, you stay in touch with her, let her know how things are going, dont keep her from her grandchildren if she have some..At least she'll have that....Thats whats wrong with people today....People just cant get over it.
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nikki_caro
replied on November 7th, 2003
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Well she was a drunk all her life and he raised himself. His dad left him so he had nobody. Im not making excuses for him. She cant even take care of her other kids which is why her daughter will be living with me soon. He talks to her better now and we send her cards for the holidays and call twice a week. Its better now but hes not even macho at all. My family calls him a mouse because hes emotional. I cant speak spanish too good otherwise id talk to her all the time. So I send cards. Its the best I can do but things are better now.
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