Joined: 11 Jul 2004 Posts: 1218 Location: Washington state
Frustrated Posted: 09-15-04 12:05pm
I have a cousin (also my bestfriend) she
is 19 and has a 1 yr old son curtis. (so
cute) well when she was preggers with him
her boyfriend wanted her to get an
abortion. She didnt obviously. But
last month we found out she is preggers
again and she told me before anyone
because she knew if I knew there would be
no way she would get talked into an
abortion by her boyfriend. Well now she
is like 5 months preggers and her
boyfriend wont let her tell any one. Like
her mom or even go to the doc. I told
her to figure it out and get some common
sence and go to a doc without him knowing
but it dosent work. He wants her to get
and abortion or something. Im like holy
moly if u didnt want another baby that
doing it bad u shouldnt have been doing
the hibbity dibbity. Sorry just
frustrated lol.
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IDABABY
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2004 Posts: 2236 Location: ***Wisconsin Baby***
Posted: 09-15-04 12:12pm
Im sorry..But those type of people make me
sick. Sorry had to say it. If they dont
want anymore chidlren there is enough
options out there for birth control, I
know ppl dont like condoms..But there are
so many things out there. Grrr!!! I
think her boyfriend is retarded and that
she needs to leave him because he is no
good for her. They arent married they are
just boyfriend and girlfriend..And if I
was her I would be telling the whole damn
world. They need to be more responsible!
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cherriegurl
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jul 2004 Posts: 1218 Location: Washington state
Posted: 09-15-04 12:14pm
Dont say sorry they make me sick too. I
couldnt imagine having such low self
esteem that I couldnt tell my boyfriend to
go to h e l l I just want to take him
aside and beat the caca out of him. Oh ya
to add to it he is that dad of the 1 yr
old too and he has never I repeat never
change a diaper
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IDABABY
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2004 Posts: 2236 Location: ***Wisconsin Baby***
Posted: 09-15-04 12:26pm
She needs to leave him asap. I cant
imagine having another baby with an
suckers like that! Grr, that makes me so
mad that she won't leave him. So sad
because of the 1 yr old son, and the new
one on the way. Im so pissed off and dont
even know the girl!! Ahhh! If she loves
her son...At all she would leave him...No
one deserves to have a nasty asss father
like that. You should talk with her...Or
get her into some type of help.
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cherriegurl
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jul 2004 Posts: 1218 Location: Washington state
Posted: 09-15-04 12:27pm
Thank u for ur reply and ur help
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lee25
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Dec 2003 Posts: 1018 Location: new york
Posted: 09-15-04 13:09pm
There really nothing you could, unless she
stands up for herself. She waiting too
long it might be too late to do anything
about it. In some states it illega to do
anythign after x amount of months. So
all she is doing is increasing the chance
of not knowing if she is having a healthy
baby or not. Maybe she's scared that her
byfriend would leave her, but what is
meant to happen will happen and it took
both of them to do the deed. She didn't
get pregnant on her own. He should of
thought about it before he screwed her
without using anything. Tell her that
her resposibility right now is to her baby
not her man. Tell her to think about the
love she has for her first child, tell her
it would be twice the love. Tell her
that the love her children will have for
her is unconditional, her boyfriend might
not be there in the future. But those
kids will, she doesn't need him to
survive, and if he left her it wouldn't be
the end of the world. How many young
guys and older men leave after finding out
that there is a child on the way. She
made a grown up decision to not protect
herself now she must deal with the
consequences. It may sound harsh but it
is true. If they didn't want another
child right now there were many things
that she could use.
If I was her, I would just leave him. He
f*cks her raw, she gets pregnant, and he
wants her to have an abortion? He acts
like abortion is a birth control and it
shouldn't be used that way. She needs to
just do what is right and go to the doctor
for her and the baby's sake. Who gives a
f*ck what he say...
