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Q: Wanted a Hysterectomy For 3 Years. I'm 18 Now!
asked by: curious-manta on September 13th, 2004
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Hey, there.

I am an 18-year-old female who has been considering a hysterectomy since I was 15. Since I have begun college, my consideration has become more intense. Menstrual problems run through my mom's side of the family, and have been effecting me since I was twelve, and I have little to no interest in family or even sex. But when I brought it up with my mother, she freaked, and then she told half of her side of the family, who also freaked out.

On top of that, I only trust three doctors in the world, but one is a family physician, the second is a chiropractor, and the third refuses to do hysterectomies unless it's a life-or-death situation (although I think I could deal with going to another doctor if I had to).

I have already heard the 'but if you decide you want kids later on...' lecture several dozen times, and quite frankly it's plain annoying, considering the number of children who are without homes and could be adopted. The people who know keep giving me these weird looks, too. Plus, it's becoming an economical pain, having to go out and spend extra $$ on pads when I need the money for school.

Why is it I keep getting treated like an alien for wanting to go through the procedure? I have already gone through the alternatives, and I don't like any of them. I have also gone through several sites regarding aftermath, and I am totally accepting of what comes with a hysterectomy. Why is it so terrible for me to want this?
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2littlegirlz
replied on September 28th, 2004
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Girl do you know what you are getting yourself into . If you think your period is a big problem wait till you have to deal with the problems you will go through with hormone balance. I have had one myself and trust me I know.Do some research on what you go thought after you have one believe me there are many women who suffer greatly from hair loss breast sagging wieght gain and those are just a few to mention. Trust me do some research
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NGAH51304
replied on October 23rd, 2004
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I am 19 years old and needed an emergency hysterectomy to save my life. I have one child and would love to have more children. I hated my periods too, but now I would give anything to have one. Two things you really need to think about when deciding what you want to do: do you think that someday your ever going to want children? And do you really want to go into premature menopause at such a young age? In the end, if you decide that you want to go ahead with it, I wish you luck and a quick recovery. Make sure you ask your Dr. Plenty of questions and understand all the risks involved. Good luck!

Jenna
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sheilaif
replied on October 30th, 2004
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Please Listen
I know you are 18 and can do what you want and what decisions you want to make. Im having one on my own decision also. Im 31, 2 kids 13 and 10. Your way of thinking and feeling is not going to be the same as it is now then when you are 21. Your way of thinking and feeling is not going to be the same from the age 21 to 25. Same with 25 to 28. You are in some crucial years of thinking you know what you want and nobody can tell you different and for you, you do feel you are right and everyone else should just listen. Well dear we are listening. If nobody else gives you anymore advise. Please take this. Wait! At least give yourself a time frame. Wait till you graduate college and see if you still feel the same. That gives you a few years to mature your thoughts some and you will have a different outlook on your whole life than what you do now. Your not wrong in how you feel or think. Everyone is just trying to make you understand that you shouldnt make such a life altering decision right now. And if everyone is tell you the same thing then do you think everyone might really know something you dont? Haven't you done something and said "man I should have listen", that's what we are saying now, just listen. Your not wrong, but just give it a few years. You cant take this back once its done. Periods are a pain I know but not being able to have a child someday because of this decision could be a worse pain than you will ever imagine. Just wait a few years. Please.
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Kia
replied on December 9th, 2004
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I had to have an emergency hysterectomy while I was pregnant.
I never wanted children until recently and now I can't.
Don't burn your bridges if there is an chance of another option.
I lost my baby because of my surgury and now I can't have any children!
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snowball
replied on December 9th, 2004
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Doctors don't want to do it unless they really have to I am 29 and in one week I get mine done. I think that everyone just wants you to be sure that you do not want kids because you may regret it later. If you have a hysterectomy this early you will have to be put on homones and it can be dangerous. Like any surgerys there are risks.
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Kia
replied on December 10th, 2004
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Hysterectomy is not a simple surgury.
It is a major operation requiring minimum 6 weeks recuperation and about a year to get back to "normal"
it is not like a quick d&c in, out, back to work/school.
It is serious surgury!
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snowball
replied on December 30th, 2004
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Girl I just had my hysterectomy on dec 16 and it is very painful and you can't do anything because it hurts too much. I am telling you please wait, you may regret it afterwords. It is now dec 30 and I am still in a lot of pain. It hurts to cough,sneeze, go to the bathroom. If I had a choise I wouldn't have got it done but I had to because of medical problems. When I woke up from surgery the pain was so bad I was sick to my stomache. It's bad.
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mellymel78
replied on March 21st, 2005
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Please Wait!
When I was 15 I decided I never wanted kids...And had the same thoughts you are having. I wanted a hysterctomy so I would never have kids, peiods, whatever, but I am 26 now, I have 2 awesome little boys, 8 and 2, and had to have a hysterectomy after my second was born. If I would have had it then, when I was so dead sure I wanted it, I know that now I really would have regretted it. I understand the "female problems" you mentioned as well. I have had them since I was 11, when my first period started, I have cysts on my ovaries (2 of which burst), I had periods that lasted over 2 weeks, the pain was unbearable with every peiod, and I was always afraid I may bleed to death, so I understand wanting to get it over with...And I also understand that no matter what anyone says, youre still going to want this horrendous precedure done, but please wait, at least wait till youre done with college, have your life on track and meet someone, if you still feel the same way, then go for it, but please dont while youre this young...I know you will regret it.
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surgeonassist
replied on April 23rd, 2005
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It will be hard to convince a gyn to do the surgery for pain or menstrual problems. There are doctors that will do it. They have to lie to the insurance company, but it is still money in their pockets. There is a hormone that only your uterus produces that you need to fight bone degeneration and other diseases. Are you also wanting to get rid of your ovaries? I have seen and performed hysterectomies on women who had no children. It is done, but it is rare.
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Kia
replied on April 24th, 2005
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The uterus does not itself produce hormones - these are produced from the ovaries.
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