Wanted a Hysterectomy For 3 Years. I'm 18 Now! Posted: 09-13-04 23:14pm
Hey, there.
I am an 18-year-old female who has been
considering a hysterectomy since I was 15.
Since I have begun college, my
consideration has become more intense.
Menstrual problems run through my mom's
side of the family, and have been
effecting me since I was twelve, and I
have little to no interest in family or
even sex. But when I brought it up with
my mother, she freaked, and then she told
half of her side of the family, who also
freaked out.
On top of that, I only trust three doctors
in the world, but one is a family
physician, the second is a chiropractor,
and the third refuses to do hysterectomies
unless it's a life-or-death situation
(although I think I could deal with going
to another doctor if I had to).
I have already heard the 'but if you
decide you want kids later on...' lecture
several dozen times, and quite frankly
it's plain annoying, considering the
number of children who are without homes
and could be adopted. The people who know
keep giving me these weird looks, too.
Plus, it's becoming an economical pain,
having to go out and spend extra $$ on
pads when I need the money for school.
Why is it I keep getting treated like an
alien for wanting to go through the
procedure? I have already gone through
the alternatives, and I don't like any of
them. I have also gone through several
sites regarding aftermath, and I am
totally accepting of what comes with a
hysterectomy. Why is it so terrible for
me to want this?
Girl do you know what you are getting
yourself into . If you think your period
is a big problem wait till you have to
deal with the problems you will go through
with hormone balance. I have had one
myself and trust me I know.Do some
research on what you go thought after you
have one believe me there are many women
who suffer greatly from hair loss breast
sagging wieght gain and those are just a
few to mention. Trust me do some research
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NGAH51304
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Oct 2004 Posts: 1 Location: Bellevue, MI
Posted: 10-23-04 13:53pm
I am 19 years old and needed an emergency
hysterectomy to save my life. I have one
child and would love to have more
children. I hated my periods too, but now
I would give anything to have one. Two
things you really need to think about when
deciding what you want to do: do you think
that someday your ever going to want
children? And do you really want to go
into premature menopause at such a young
age? In the end, if you decide that you
want to go ahead with it, I wish you luck
and a quick recovery. Make sure you ask
your Dr. Plenty of questions and
understand all the risks involved. Good
luck!
Jenna
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sheilaif
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Oct 2004 Posts: 18 Location: houston
Please Listen Posted: 10-30-04 07:51am
I know you are 18 and can do what you want
and what decisions you want to make. Im
having one on my own decision also. Im
31, 2 kids 13 and 10. Your way of
thinking and feeling is not going to be
the same as it is now then when you are
21. Your way of thinking and feeling is
not going to be the same from the age 21
to 25. Same with 25 to 28. You are in
some crucial years of thinking you know
what you want and nobody can tell you
different and for you, you do feel you are
right and everyone else should just
listen. Well dear we are listening. If
nobody else gives you anymore advise.
Please take this. Wait! At least give
yourself a time frame. Wait till you
graduate college and see if you still feel
the same. That gives you a few years to
mature your thoughts some and you will
have a different outlook on your whole
life than what you do now. Your not
wrong in how you feel or think. Everyone
is just trying to make you understand that
you shouldnt make such a life altering
decision right now. And if everyone is
tell you the same thing then do you think
everyone might really know something you
dont? Haven't you done something and
said "man I should have listen", that's
what we are saying now, just listen.
Your not wrong, but just give it a few
years. You cant take this back once its
done. Periods are a pain I know but not
being able to have a child someday because
of this decision could be a worse pain
than you will ever imagine. Just wait a
few years. Please.
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Kia
Supporter
Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 12-09-04 13:39pm
I had to have an emergency hysterectomy
while I was pregnant.
I never wanted children until recently and
now I can't.
Don't burn your bridges if there is an
chance of another option.
I lost my baby because of my surgury and
now I can't have any children!
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snowball
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Dec 2004 Posts: 159 Location: North Bay,Ontario,Canada
Posted: 12-09-04 23:21pm
Doctors don't want to do it unless they
really have to I am 29 and in one week I
get mine done. I think that everyone just
wants you to be sure that you do not want
kids because you may regret it later. If
you have a hysterectomy this early you
will have to be put on homones and it can
be dangerous. Like any surgerys there are
risks.
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Kia
Supporter
Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 12-10-04 08:45am
Hysterectomy is not a simple surgury.
It is a major operation requiring minimum
6 weeks recuperation and about a year to
get back to "normal"
it is not like a quick d&c in, out,
back to work/school.
It is serious surgury!
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snowball
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Dec 2004 Posts: 159 Location: North Bay,Ontario,Canada
Posted: 12-30-04 22:56pm
Girl I just had my hysterectomy on dec 16
and it is very painful and you can't do
anything because it hurts too much. I am
telling you please wait, you may regret it
afterwords. It is now dec 30 and I am
still in a lot of pain. It hurts to
cough,sneeze, go to the bathroom. If I
had a choise I wouldn't have got it done
but I had to because of medical problems.
When I woke up from surgery the pain was
so bad I was sick to my stomache. It's
bad.
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mellymel78
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Mar 2005 Posts: 44 Location: SLC UT
Please Wait! Posted: 03-21-05 03:27am
When I was 15 I decided I never wanted
kids...And had the same thoughts you are
having. I wanted a hysterctomy so I would
never have kids, peiods, whatever, but I
am 26 now, I have 2 awesome little boys, 8
and 2, and had to have a hysterectomy
after my second was born. If I would have
had it then, when I was so dead sure I
wanted it, I know that now I really would
have regretted it. I understand the
"female problems" you mentioned as well.
I have had them since I was 11, when my
first period started, I have cysts on my
ovaries (2 of which burst), I had periods
that lasted over 2 weeks, the pain was
unbearable with every peiod, and I was
always afraid I may bleed to death, so I
understand wanting to get it over
with...And I also understand that no
matter what anyone says, youre still going
to want this horrendous precedure done,
but please wait, at least wait till youre
done with college, have your life on track
and meet someone, if you still feel the
same way, then go for it, but please dont
while youre this young...I know you will
regret it.
It will be hard to convince a gyn to do
the surgery for pain or menstrual
problems. There are doctors that will do
it. They have to lie to the insurance
company, but it is still money in their
pockets. There is a hormone that only
your uterus produces that you need to
fight bone degeneration and other
diseases. Are you also wanting to get
rid of your ovaries? I have seen and
performed hysterectomies on women who had
no children. It is done, but it is rare.
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Kia
Supporter
Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 04-24-05 03:57am
The uterus does not itself produce
hormones - these are produced from the
ovaries.
