How long would you wait for your partner to figure out why he cant have sex?
months
12%
[ 1 ]
days
12%
[ 1 ]
weeks
12%
[ 1 ]
how ever long it took
62%
[ 5 ]
Total Votes : 8
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HJD622
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Sep 2004 Posts: 15 Location: Virginia
My Bf Is a 21yr Old Virgin, He Cant Keep His Penis Hard.... Posted: 09-12-04 17:25pm
My bf and I have been together for 4
months but have been best friends for 3
years. He is a virgin, I am not. We have
been trying to have sex for at least a
month now but the first time we tried, he
couldnt keep his penis hard enough to
penetrate bc he was nervous and couldnt
focus. From there on, it happens every
time, his penis will be hard, then when it
comes time to have sex, it falls straight
down and we cant. We have tried severl
different ways to work around this and can
not find a way to keep his mind off of
everything else! This is becoming a huge
problem and hes going to seek medical
advice soon but befre we have to do that I
hope some one can give us some advice!!
And how to help me suirvive though this!!
We were thinking is erectial
dysfunction, but hes only 21yrs old!!
Please help!!
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Julia_Smith_21
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Apr 2004 Posts: 37 Location: Essex, England
Posted: 10-01-04 17:51pm
I think he is just nervous. He'll have
spent a long time thinking about sex, and
planning it all in his head, and now, when
he has the opportunity, he is distracted
by the practicalities. I think sex is
quite tricky for guys, but when they
practice, it becomes second nature.
Getting his penis in is just the first
step. Once he manages to get hard, and
then in, he's going to be faced with a
whole new issue of moving around in way
that actually feels good. He'll have
spent a lot of time masturbating and it's
gonna be weird trying to have an orgasm
with something over which he has very
little control.
I'd try and give off a vibe of absolutely
no expectations, and when he does
something good, let him know in a sexy
kind of way. You're just gonna have to
lay there in a non-threatening manner for
a few weeks, but by the time he learns,
you're gonna have a guy who is perfectly
trained to your own needs, so it's
definitely worth the patience. I'd
possibly try some ky-jelly, because that
will make it easier to go in. Also, you
can focus on other sexual acts while he
gets his confidence together - if you make
sex a big, final goal, then he's always
gonna be nervous, but you can make it just
one of the many fun things you can do
together.
