Can You Tell Who the Father Is?

She could possibly know she is pregnant, but if she had unprotected sex with more than one guy then she could not know which one is the father.

I dont think so but I didnt find out I was pregnant till I was 6 weeks it didnt show up and my doctor said it would have been negetive if I were to have taken a test earlier

Thank you both for your responses!

So if a she had had unprotected sex with both of us, then there is no way she can tell who the father is? Is that only because she is only 1 month pregnant or would she not be able to tell who the father is until she has the baby? Does anyone know the answer to that? Can a girl find out who the father is prior to having the baby? Maybe through some sort of blood testing? Even after only being 1 month pregnant?

I really appreciate anyone who helps me with these questions and this whole situation... I just want to find out the truth. I need to know if she is lying to me. I just can't believe she would do something like that to me. If she could be pregnant with my child I need to know. She can't keep something like that from me. Thanks again everyone!

Far as I kno, you have to wait until the baby is born to find out who the father of the baby is but if you can find out exactly how many weeks along she is, then maybe you can tell that way.


Hope this helps.


P.S.

I can help you more if you give me the exact day when you last had sex with her and the last time her ex had sex with her prior to her pregnancy.

And I would also need to know how many weeks she is.

Thanks for your help scorpio!

The whole thing is that, I think she is just making up lies because she doesn't want me to have anything to do with the baby.

The last time we had sex was on august 21st. She told me she had sex with her ex the day she broke up with me, which was aug 14th. We also had been having sex prior to the break up! A lot! Before the break up the last time we had sex was aug 8th. I don't think she had sex with her ex any other times other than the one time on aug 14th.

She called me yesterday sept 8th, telling me she just found out she was pregnant and was 1 month. Didn't say how many weeks, but knew that it was not mine but her ex's because she had done a blood test (which I think is a lie).

You can have a test done while she is pregnant, but she would have to want that as it isn't 100% safe. You couldn't court order it or anything, you will just have to wait.

No, if she had sex with both around the same time of you then she cannot know whose it is for sure. Unless she is (for example) one month along and hasn't had sex with you for a month and a week, etc. However, doctors aren't always right about how far along a woman is either.
Yes, if she is one month along she could definately know. Some people know within a week. They can just tell, and some women can test positive very, very early.

But, just back off of her and give her space. This has to be scaring the heck out of her anyway. If you really want to support the child financially, emotionally, etc and are not just trying to stay in her life or to get some kind of sick revenge by pretending to want the baby, then just lay off. Tell her that you want a paternity test when the baby is born and in the meantime if she needs anything you will be there for her. If she refuses, let it go and take legal action for a paternity test. It is you right to know and she cannot legally deny you that.
Good luck to you no matter what happens, but be careful. Because if she thinks the baby is yours and doesn't want it to be and you bother her about this then she could file harassment charges, get a restraining order, etc and then when custody time came, you wouldn't look to good. So take it easy.

I always believed you had to wait until after the baby was born (it is certainly cheaper) but here is what I found:

paternity testing can be performed starting at the 10th week of pregnancy and can be done until around the 21st or 22nd week of pregnancy. The procedure requires the collection of fetal sample (normally done by a physician) and either blood or buccal swabs from both parents.

All that is needed for paternity testing is blood from all three individuals involved: mother, child, and alleged father. The fetus has blood capable of undergoing the genetic tests to establish paternity the same as a baby. But, in these cases it obviously must be drawn through the pregnant uterus. It is a technique called chorionic villus sampling (cvs). Cvs was developed to do genetic testing to identify fetal abormalities. It does have a slight risk of causing the pregnancy to terminate early. So, it is rarely done for routine paternity testing. Only in cases where rape or incest is involved warrant the extra risk.

*so the short answer is yes you could get a paternity test done while she is still pregnant but it will be expensive and a risk of causing a miscarriage*

You can't find out until after the baby is born...Or right before hand, but if you do it while she is preg, there are chances of a miscarriage...

~jennifer~

I just want to say thank you to everyone for all your responses they are all a great help!

Hotasfrick: I do want you to know that I am backing off, as much as possible. Believe me, the last thing I want to do is stay in her life. She screwed me over. I have not talked to her ever since the day she told me she had sex with her ex and was now pregnant with his kid. She has always just been a big liar and did not believe a lot of the stuff she was saying. Now I just need her to know that I am legally entitled to a paternity test when the baby is born. And if it is my child I will do whatever I need to do to take care of it. Thanks again!!!

If her last period was the middle of june, then she is farther than one month. She is almost 2 months. Which means if she was having sex with you in late june, early july, and no one else, you are most likely the father. Also, the procedure to test paternity prior to birth is called amniocentesis. It does raise the risk of miscarriage though. And besides, if she is young and healthy, and not at risk for having a baby with down syndrome, then they probably wouldnt do it for the sake of paternity. They will probably tell you to wait. Hope this helps! And good luck to you, you seem like a very nice guy! Wish all guys cared about their babies as much as you do.

Just a question, I may be way off base, but what are the chances she's lying about being pregnant?

Ah,yes!That old trick is very possible.Why would she need to tell you that she's pregnant if the baby is not yours?I doubt she had any fetal testing done at this early stage.Unless she knows on exactly what date she conceived,she is no more sure than you are.Like some others have said,give her space,and if you need to later,get a paternity test done and take care of your child,if the baby is yours.If you are the father,you have rights also.Hope all goes well for you.Patty

Hello everyone!
Well I haven't been on since last week, thanks for the new posts. Well here's the latest update. After everyone's responses here and talking to a few people at planned parenthood, I concluded that somewhere there were some lies in her story. I decided that I could not trust her. So I wanted to seek other routes of finding the truth. I wanted to talk to her mom. Well to make a long story short... I ended up talking to her instead of her mom, I told her that I could not trust her and needed to let someone else know that there is a chance the child could be mine. She blew up at me telling me there is no way, that she had blood work done. I told her there is no way! She acused me (of course) of just wanting to stay in her life. I told her that was not the case. She said that she was going off of dates from when she got pregnant. And there was no way the child was mine. I told her the bottom line is that there is still a chance that it could be mine. She then tells me to stay out of her life, that her mom did not even know that she was pregnant... She then threw that in. She then told me that she was no longer pregnant, that she lost the child.

I then threw that in her face, I cannot trust her, first it's not mine, now she lost it. I don't know what to believe of her bs stories. Well now I basically just ended it. I told her I am now completely out of her life. So yes there is a big possibility that she was lying about everything. I just hope that a child of my does not grow up out there without me knowing it. That would kill me. Thanks again everyone for all your help and listening to me.

I really want to commend you on your integrity and desire to be a part of the life of a child that is your's. I'm the one that thought she might be lying about the pregnancy, and from what you've posted I still think that it's most likely she never was pregnant. I'm happy for you that you've made steps to move on and I wish you the best.

Sorry for what she has put you through, but it is unfortunately true that girls do lie about being pregnant to get/keep/revenge a guy.
My partner's ex told him that she had aborted their child, 18months after it happened and she was living with his "best mate"
what did she acheive by telling him this??? Was she ever really pregnant??? If she was she mamaged to get herself pregnant by having sex with him when he was practically comatose after a drink binge.
Draw your own conclusions, but girls do lie about pregnancy.
I wonder how many girls have gotten pregnant, telling the guy they are on the pill but they aren't really, they just want to have a baby to tie the guy down??

Sounds to me like u have a right to a dna test. It's really ashame to b/c the same thing happened to me. My bf broke up w/ me right after I got a semi positive preg test. I still haven't told him. I'm a little scared. But i'm really sorry to hear ur problem... Lots of luck!