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Q: How My Heart Was Broken And Still Is!

asked by: sammypinkpants on October 2nd, 2003

New User

I have known my ex-boyfriend for a year now(the 25th of this month exactly).Everything was perfect we had the best times together, the same friends, I loved his parents, he liked mine.We were so happy then I was accused of cheating on him with this one boy b/c our relationship was knida fading away and that disturbed me next thing you know I am in a movie with one of my guy friends and I am getting broken up with for trying to give us both some space. I thought to myself so many times if he doesnt trust me then we are we in a relationship but ihe told me he trusted me I knew he didnt and now I know for sure. He cried the day he broke up with me and told me he missed me already that night so we were gonna get back together he told me he wanted to be with me then the next day he told me he thought alot and didnt care anymore.Then he said he didl ove me. Now he went back on his words he told me we would always be friends no matter what and he would always love me.He did nt stick to that.What do you guys think he is trying to do?***one more thing about a day or two after we broke up I was going on a date with this guy named billy b/c the last time he broke up with me I sat around mopeing and refused to do that this time so we get there and my ex starts crying and storms off b/c he said I didnt care anymore and he does and he doesnt know why. Now he doesnt want me to talk to him aand says I never did anything for him that isnt true I dropped my date that day for him b/c I couldnt stand the thought of him crying over me.

Replies(6)

ccn330

replied on October 2nd, 2003

New User

Wow

Honey, if you have no trust in a relationship, then you need to get out. You should be able to go out with any of your friends (guys or girls) and not have to worry about wether or not he's trusting you.
If your relationship is over for sure, then I solute him for always wanting to stay friends. That's very mature of him and I really think you both will get more out of life as friends. Who knows, you could find "the one" any day now. Besides, you really shouldn't worry about him crying. Alot of guys do it. And it could mean one of two things. Either they are upset and need time to get over it, or he lied and is just trying to make you feel bad. Either way, best of luck with all. Let me know how everything goes!
Sincerely,
ccn330 (christa)

niceguy

replied on October 2nd, 2003

Experienced User

My Two Cents

I think the fact that he cried means a lot. He loves you dearly and
here you are dating anyone you can get your hands on.
He cares about you! Men don't cry over small matters. He poured his heart out for you, but saw that you didnt have the same feelings for him.
Despite that, he was willing to have you as a friend for life.
Shows how much he cares about you.

At this point you have two choices:

1) love him and only him and forget the rest.
2) tell him you dont love him and stop being dishonest to him and
move on and let him move on to someone that will truly love him.

nikki_caro

replied on October 2nd, 2003

Extremely eHealthy

In my opinion I dont know about a guy crying. I mean ive seen jose cry and I know he really means it, but this one time my sister was dating this dummy steve and they only went out for a while and on valentines day he gave her a diamond heart necklace and then like 2 hours later she dumped him, he started crying and telling everyone how much he loved her and blah blah blah and then like the very next day he was hitting on her friend and they started going out and he was telling everyone he dumped my sis and made her cry, he was a big sissy. I just dont know about guys crying over those kinds of things, I mean I wouldnt fall for it. But he cried real tears and even let the guys see it! And he was a big lier too. And big fake. I dont know about your guy though, but thats just my thoughts.

Suzy

replied on October 2nd, 2003

Active User, very eHealthy

Dear sammy,

i think it really depends on how open you want your relationship to be. I mean in my last relationship, I was with the guy for 5 years and he used to go out with other girls to movies and stuff while I was working, only to find out later he had been playing around on me the whole time we were together. I am married to a wonderful man who has no desire to go out with other women or date them, and nor do i. I have no interest in dating my male friends ever, my husband brings me the happiness in my life, no one else. Try to understand where he is coming from sammy, it sounds as though he wants a little more closeness with you.

Good luck,

.::suzy::.

badfish_2

replied on October 29th, 2003

New User

No........get Away

Look if he wants you hell stay if he loves you he has too trust you thats part of the meaning to the word,as far as crying goes its dirty trick!He doesnt want you to be in a relationship with anyone and for some messed up reason not even with him,look ive had my fair share of pain and abuse and from a guys stand point you should get away from him and not buy into his b.S. Hes playin head games with you ive been there myself.

phil dennison

replied on November 16th, 2003

Experienced User

He is a controll freak Evil or Very Mad

. He does whats best for him. And what's best isn't you. Get over him!!!!! Thank god your not married and have kids. Now about you. You will pick the exact same person, you must change. Good luck to you..

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