hello... From a newbie who doesn't know where to start!!!

Hopefully I will get some answers here and can find my way back.

Let me see if I can "nutshell" my delema. Husband is an active alcoholic. Very drunk daily. Drives about 7 miles every nite, this terrifies me!!!. Obese, about 330#/6ft4". 52 years old. Symptoms are, very red swollen calves, ankles and feet. Bottom lip becoming puffy and purplish. Bowel problems that were never present before (messy shorts, towels, sheets). Irregular breathing and snorting when he is passed out in his chair. Drinks about 6 to 8 drinks (whisky) and beer daily.

There is so much more. The only time I can have a normal conversation with him is in the morning and on the phone during the day. He truly is a good man with a great heart and would give you the shirt off his back.

3 days ago he snuck a bottle of whisky in the house (he does not drink at home) and proceeded to drink the whole thing! I don't want to watch him kill himself and honestly don't know what to do. I need some medical answers. I am worried that there could be more going on then just the alcohol, diabetes? Liver failure? Edema?

Can anyone enlighten me so I have some info? Also, I am desparate for someone/anyone who I can share with. This is such a lonely addiction and I feel helpless and useless. How can you change someone who "thinks" he doesn't need help? Do I just watch him die? Thehousemouse