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Q: Serious Problem(s)

asked by: 2ferano on September 2nd, 2004

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Okay girls well in case you don't know I am extremely obessive compulsive. I developed this when I broke up with my fiancee about four years ago. I developed really bad anxiety, stomach/bowel problems (sorry tmi) and all kinds of crap. Plus I have suffered from depression my whole life(anger turned inward).
Well, I used to be obsessive about my house being clean. I mean, freakin clean. You could eat off of the toilet (if you really wanted too Embarassed

)and I was also very ocd about my job. I was the best employee they could have ever had. I just had an attitude because I got mad at everyone else for not doing anything.
Anyway, I got medicated for my anxiety about four years ago and became a completely lazy piece of poopy. I just thought I was useless and never realized it was from my medication. I mean, I quit my job, quit school, quit paying my bills. I just gave up.
Well, I just went off of zoloft about a month ago. I am so angry at everyone and everything!
I cannot eat. I mean, I can and I do because I have to, but urgh.
I got a breakfast burrito value meal from mcdonald's today (because I was running late). I was driving down the road and eating it when I bit into something hard. I have no idea what it was, nor do I want to know, but it took everything I had not to throw up. I mean, even two hours later in class I almost threw up just thinking about it.
Plus, and here is the big thing. My mother is a doing it slob. I mean, her hair always ends up everywhere and I mean everywhere! Even in the kitchen Embarassed

and I really, really, really super hate hair!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
She walks around the house (like she is doing right now) in a shirt and underwear. She sits right in this room with me when I am trying to study/read/watch t.V or do this, and talks my freakin ear off! I don't care!!!!!!!!!!!I hate to say it, but why is it my job to be her only friend? I am sorry that she doesn't have any friends but how is that my problem? My dad left her last year after 30 years of marriage (and this is the only reason I moved home from myrtle beach anyway). I am the only one of her kids that feels that I need to be here for her. I am just afraid she will kill herself.
I mean, she was abused as a child and has every right to be the way that she is. Her parents made her work the farm until all hours of the night, never went to any of her school functions, didn't feed her and beat her. I honestly think she was also sexually abused. So, I can understand that she is depressed/lonely and that she doesn't want to do any housework whatsoever.
But, oooh. Girls, I seriously cannot live here any longer!!!!!!!!!I will go crazy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!I need out!!!!!!!!!!!!But, I cannot find a job and cannot find an apartment until I have a job, and I just am so stressed out.
I need to lose weight anyway, but I don't want to do it by starving myself. However, the longer I live here the harder it is for me to eat anything at all.
Sorry this is so long. I am so desperate right now! I cannot take it!

Replies(10)

smith8500

replied on September 2nd, 2004

Especially eHealthy

Hey

Huni, I have no clue as to what I am suposed to say to you. I started zoloft and it's helping me tremendously! But that's just me. Maybe try another type of med? I dunno. Huni I iwhs I could help you.....

2ferano

replied on September 2nd, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

Ah it's all good. No one can really do anything. I just needed to vent.
I am done with meds though. They took over too much of my life. I am going to rough this out! Once I get on my own I will be fine!

lilmama2b_oct04

replied on September 2nd, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

I think its a good idea to be done with meds, because after awhile, you will become dependent on them. Normally, after people get out of the tough days and get on their feet, they no longer really actually have a need for the meds, other than the fact that they have become dependent. That is the reason my mom took me off of paxil and concerta... She did not want me to be dependent on some medication just because im suffering from everyday normal teenager(but not just teenager, also young adults) depression. She decided that when im older, if I need meds in college to concentrate, then I will be put on them, but only if it is a must. Until then, I will remain med free. I dont want to have to take a pill for the rest of my life. Your body will find its own natural ways to deal with problems, but it cannot do it if it is being taken care of with chemicals. Although, there are some people out there that really do need their meds, most people on meds would have been able to work out their problems. I hope everything gets better for you. I wish you luck with finding a job and an apartment. Oh yea, and tell your mom to stop feeling sorry for herself and to get up and enjoy life! Let her know she cannot be dependent on you, or you may never really actually get away from her. Dont let her suck you down with her. I hope you did not find any of this offensive.

newlife

replied on September 2nd, 2004

Active User, very eHealthy

Omg, we have so much in common.I was diagnosed with depression, and I was told that I have an anger management problem. They were thinking about locking me up in a mental hospital, b/c of things that I did when I was younger, and b/c of what sent me to jail (for one night), when I was 13. But I won't get into that. They put me on meds, and my mom basically forced me to take them. After a while I just stopped. And I feel you on the mom thing too. My mom and I don't really get along, but when she needs or feels like talking to someone she talks to me. And she has, friends but sometimes I just feel really bad for her,out of all of her children I am the only one that takes time to listen, and I am the one that takes care of her when she is sick. But anyway, she ran away from home when she was 17, to live with my daddy, and his family. Her daddy is the nicest person in the world, but her mother is truely evil. My grandma is about 75, she has 8 children, and most of them have scattered out around the country to stay away from her. And my uncle steven, used to be an accountant and a marketer for the lakers. He had lived in cali since I was about 6. He moved back down here, to take a position as the sports marketing director for dillard (a college) when I was 12. Anyway, he was down here for 3 months and my grandma didn't even know. And when she did finfdout, she read it in the newspaper. Anyway, when they were kids, she punished them a lot, and if she punished kids like that today her old, a$$ would be in jail. She used to lock them in a closet, while they were on their knees on rice. And she is the reason, that my grandpa is blind in one eye. He came in late one night, and she beat him in the head with a cast iron pan, and my daddy and my uncle dy had to take him to the hospital. My mom, had it when she tried to beat her with a rod, that is why she ran way. And to this day, I can't see why my mother can have a half way civil relationship with her. But the difference with my mom is that she is a neat freak, and so am I to some degree.

2ferano

replied on September 3rd, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

I am a neat freak now! Omg! Badly. I think she drove me to that...But that is one of the reasons why me being here now is driving me crazy.
She does bring me down. But I do care about her. I mean, I am not very nice to her to be perfectly honest because she drives me f-ing crazy. But I worry about her 24/7.
Lilmama- no I didn't find any of that offensive. That is exactly what she needs to do! But she is 50 and hasn't done it yet, so I see no hope. And you cannot tell her that she has issues or that she needs help or anything because she gets pissed off. She doesn't need help! (that is what she says) but then at the same time she tells me that I need help and it is perfectly okay. what?
Why is it okay for me, but not for her? Whatever. I mean yes, she has issues mainly from her family, and my issues are mainly from her. She never should have had kids until she worked out her issues. Here I am 25, my sis27 and my bro almost 22 and she is just getting worse.

Newlife: my parents did put me in a mental institution when I was 15. I was in there 17 days and it was the longest 17 days of my life!
I am not psycho, crazy etc. I do suffer from depression and now from that I developed really bad anxiety. But, I do not need to be locked up! I will never forgive them for that! Never!

I used to need anger management bad like, but of course wouldn't admit it. I was a very, very mean and bad teenager. But my anger came from my mother. I always blamed both of my parents, but it is mainly my mother. My father is also to blame because he always agreed with her. I know now that he was just trying to avoid fighting with her, but that was not fair to me! At all!

But when I hit like 18/19 my anger went away. But now, I dont know if it is because I just went off of meds or if it is because I just quit smoking and drinking, but I am sooooo mad all of the time! I seriously fear that I may really hurt someone if they f-ck with me when I am in a mood.

Thanks for understanding girls. It means a lot.

TiNaBo0314

replied on September 3rd, 2004

Experienced User

I had a problem with self mutilation from when I was 13-16 yrs old and was at calvert memorial hospital 2 times in the psych ward....Well anyway they put me on zoloft and it helped me out like u wouldn't believe I was the happiest person in the world but a couple months after I found out I was preggie I quit zoloft and I turned into a very meaaaaaan person I mean I was a bytch my doc sed that coming down from zoloft makes ur lows super low and that probably explains ur situation a lil. Also I am obsessive about pulling my hair out which is funny bcuz u sed u hate hair ( I dont pull it out very much anymore but I was diagnosed with trichotillomania [where u pull ur hair out] and its a form of ocd) its funny that after I had kaelyn my problems basically went away but good luck and I hope that u feel better =)

2ferano

replied on September 3rd, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

Lol. I do hate hair. But, more body hair if ya know what I mean????
I am glad that you are better. That is awesome. Pregnancy can do so much bad to your body, but it can also do good! (to your body I am talking...I know that having a baby can be a good thing!)

hopefully I am just really maaaad because of the zoloft withdrawal. I hope that is all that it is and that it gets better.

Hey, I heard that phil hartman's wife shot him when she was coming off of zoloft and drinking. Something to think about!

Kia

replied on September 4th, 2004

Supporter

Re: Serious Problem(s)

hotasfrick wrote:

i was also very ocd about my job. I was the best employee they could have ever had. I just had an attitude because I got mad at everyone else for not doing anything.

wow, I don't suffer anywhere near as badly, but this bit struck me because it's me!
I drives me sooooo potty when people can't staple a receipt to the back of a docket, fold it in half and file in in the order they did them!
Ohh gosh and when a customer pays by credit card and I tell them to sign the bottom, and they say "where, here?" pointing at the middle.
In my head i'm like " no you stupid f**kwit since when has the bottom being in the middle?" or on refund receipts and i'll say "can you sign here" and put a .B.I.G .X for them so the sign somewhere else or the fill out their address - what are people really so stupid? But it gets into my head that they are doing it on purpose and it must be just to wind me up because they want to get to me.

But most of the time I can contol my self and just have a good old whinge to himself later on when he picks me up.

2ferano

replied on September 4th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

Oh, when I worked at a nearby mall we had the dumbest people on earth come in there. At least I pray no one is dumber. Like we had a sign that said, "we now have chicken noodle soup" you know what they would ask???? "oh, you have soup....What kind?"
duh!
And we even had one lady come in and ask where the mall was. My manager told her to get back in her car and turn right, blah blah. He gave her all kinds of directions! It was so funny because she was obviously already at the mall!
People are idiotic

KissyBai912

replied on September 4th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

I agree with april about the meds....I was diagnosed with depression when I was 11. And at 12 I was put on lexapro. After my mom and I getting into a fight about camerin, she threatened to put a restraining order on him, and so I swallowed an entire bottle of those pills (i didnt know they wouldnt do anything but make me sick) I was baker acted in a mental hospital, and they ended up keeping me an extra day. It was the most horrible 4 days of my life. I still have nightmares about it! And then they put me on risperdal and effexor, which I stopped taling 2 months laer when I suspected I was pregnant. Then my grandma found out and forced me to take it. Lol I dont even remember where I was going with this. Just living out a bad memories I guess. Hard to believe I went that overboard over a guy.....Lol. He really means a lot to me!

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