Whoa!Just when you think you've heard it all.I hope you are being sincere and not yanking our collective chains here.If he is truly infatuated with a tire tube,that can be a tough one.If he does not see this as a problem,it is difficult to get him to stop.It's not like there is another woman that you can confront.He sounds quite disturbed if he gets pleasure from a tire tube and not you.I would seek help for yourself.Good luck to you.Patty

Hi patty,
no i'm serious as a heart attack. He even has a mini one. I suppose for the quicky!! I'm going to talk to his therapist friday and see what he thinks. Do you think something like this could cause damage?? I am real concerned and he won't talk about it. Thanks, smurfatooty

I think your husband is normal. He likes using this "toy" because it makes him orgasm fast and feel good...Just like some women really love vibrators or dildos. It is the same concept. What you can do to get your sex life back on track is trying to incorporate the tire tube into your sex act--- if you're up for it that is. I mean, some men get off by wearign a baby diaper and getting spanked by "mommy" so I don't think your husband is that weird lol.

I am sorry, but I don't think so.
If you are pleasing your partner, but want to masturbate in between sessions then okay. But if you haven't touched your partner in almost two years, but please yourself with a tire tube? I don't freakin think so.
Talk to him and lay down the law. Tell him this has got to stop and you two need to seek therapy or need to do something to liven up your sex life. And I don't mean incorporating the tire tube into it.

In response to the last post... If she goes with your advice, her husband will surely be extremelly embarrassed and taken aback and very possibly the marriage might as well be over. If she tries to make him feel like it's alright..He has nothign to be ashamed about, then he'll feel comfortable ... I know it is weird to incorporate a tire tube into ur sex life but if it works then it works.. The point is to make him feel like it is alright..He doesn't have to hide it or be ashamed of it-- otherwise, he'll continue doing it in private.

I agree with hot on this one.Sorry,but a man who prefers to masturbate as opposed to having sex with a live person is deeply troubled.I was engaged to a man like this.He would tell me that he masturbated 5-6 times before I got home.He had a masssive porn collection and got the most bizzare kind (i think) possible.He would only want to make love if I was dressed up or if he could watch porn while we made love.And forget about mutual satisfaction,it was all about him!Before any of you say it was because that I did not know how to please a man,let me inform you that prior to that relationship,i never had any problems in the bedroom.I had ex-boyfriends say that I was even a little kinky,so i'm no prude that would just lie there and pretend to have a good time.If your husband has sexual issues like this,you and he need to seek counceling.However,if he does not think that this is a problem or that this is only your problem,you are going to have a tough time.I wish you the best of luck.If you want to discuss this further,please pm me.I know where you are coming from.Patty

Well, I would have to agree with hotsfrick on this too! Anyone that says this is normal behavior is nuts! If he's hiding this from you it means he feels like it's wrong. If he can't do it in front of you than he know's it's not right. It becomes a problem when it's disrupting your life as a married man and women. I would say since you haven't had sex for almost two years that this is definately disrupting your life. I also think that since you are concerned it makes it a problem. If I were you I would confront him, but try to stay calm about it. If he lies to you I would tell him you have proof and he'd better come straight forward with this. I also believe that you need to get the point across that this by no means is okay with you and that as long as he's married to you he needs to find other ways to be sexually pleased. Ie...His wife. Don'e let him think it's okay to have his cake and eat it too. That's what he's getting from this. Hope this helps! Good luck!

Thanks guys, geez! I was starting to worry that I was the only normal person here!

I must repeat what I already said (i really hate having to do this)
if the guy was having sex with his wife on a regular basis and keeping her satisfied and just masturbating with a darn tire tube on the side then okay. (even though I would definately not agree with that one, to each their own) but, the guy is choosing not to have sex with his own wife! He is choosing her over a tire tube?
Hurt his feelings? He obviously needs that!

Whats a tire tube?

No,angie,you are not nuts!!As you said,if the couple were having regular sex and he was supplementing with masturbation,fine.To only masturbate and not touch your partner for almost two years is not -n.O.T.Normal!Besides,i would think he would hurt himself with a rubber tire tube???!!!!Patty

Whoa .. Thats weird good luck.

kayla

Theres a good mental institute down the road!!!

Callig him crazy isn't going to fix the problem! Forget about the fact he's using a tire tube the important thing is he's not using his wife. What he's using to get him self off is not the issue. As long as it's not too tight I doubt he'd have and serious problems. On the other hand your relationship does have. Clearly your man needs some attention. Weather or not he would want it or admit to wanting it from you I don't know. All I can say is if your married it's probably best to try and fix it before flushing it down the toilet. He's not crazy for using a tire tube he's probably just sick of using his hand. I think he was quiet innovative. I suggest you two try and re-kindle the old days when you two were still new. Only after you sit down and seriously think of any reason he maybe be avoiding you. Perhaps he's not the only one at fault, and you just don't want to admit it.