I dont know how old you guys are but, my friends friend sister if you understand.... any way she did that with her boyfriend of 2 years and after that he started cheating on her with that girl... And all so when she ask hem she said he couldn stop because that was something like a guys fantasy or something like that , he said.... Any way that was in june and she heard he had 4 more threesomes after that with different girls , if I was you I would not do it !!!! Plus you can catch all kinds of things and all so if he really love you than ! you ! Would be just plenty and enough for hem..... Ask hem whats hes problem is and just try to buy some toys if you know what I am saing.... . Unless you guys are in a open relation shipp but be protected please !!!!

Write back asap and gooooood luck !

You shouldn't do anything you don't want to--he is not being a 'normal guy' wanting healthy guy things--he is being 100 percent selfish and placing way too much importance on sex, himself, and fantasy. More important than anythng he should be worried why you aren't having orgasms which has nothing to do with you needing a threesome to climax. What you need is him to try everything so you can orgasm that means having very slow sex and hitting the right spots when he's inside of you. It sounds to me like he's trying to live out all the porn he's ever looked at. You deserve better than that--keep telling yourself that. And do you even w a n t to see him crawling all over another girl? I doubt it. Maybe ask him if he would be intersted in having a threesome with some really hot guy instead of another girl? Then see how enthusiastic he is for the much overated threesome.

Wow thanks, I feel the same way. Last night, I told him that I think threesome is disgusting and if he really wants to go for it then I need to break up with him. He said he loves me and doesn't want to break up with me or doesn't want to have an open relationship with me. He also said that therefore he will give up on having threesome in order to keep me as a girlfriend. I checked his emails this morning out of curiousity and found out that he emailed some girl very flatterly and told her that he was hanging out at his "friend's" house this weekend, which means my, or in other words his "girlfriend's" house! I am wondering if he's already cheating on me, not physically but mentally. Do those guys who think about threesome tend to cheat? Also he is almost 33 and it seems that he really is in a hurry to have threesome before he gets too old. Do you think he is going through an early mid-age crisis??

I don't know how most of you feel,but i'll share just about anything-except my man!!I have known people who did the threesome thing to please their partner and it caused nothing but trouble.One of the persons felt slighted after awhile,the man payed too much attention to the third party or the woman did something with the other guy that she would not do with her man.Too much work in my opinion!Patty

Hi again, I don't know if he's having a mid-life crisis or if he still hasn't grown out of being curious about those typical fantasies that are tailored for men. I thikn it takes them along time to realize what we, for the most part, already know: that sex plays a relatively minimal part in a meaningful, loving, supportive relationship. If he's emailing other women and not being honest about you as his girlfriend I would be watchful jsut because it seems he's keeping his options open. And, he should be proud you're his girlfriend and bragging to everyone!!!

Okay, first of all anal sex is gross and unhealthy. My opinion, and this is just my opinion, is that if a guy wants to stick his penis in a butt then then he can get himself a boyfriend. Some girls/guys are really into that, but if anyone even asked me to do it, I would hurt them. I only date people who agree that it is disgusting.
Same goes for the whole threesome thing! Urgh! I mean, if you are a single guy and you run into to whores who want to have a threesome then go for it! But if you love someone then you don't want to have anyone but them. If you do, then it is not real love. So many people nowadays just go with the whole threesome thing because it is becoming the "norm" but I am sorry, I don't think so! We got rid of polygamy for a reason people, having multiple partners at the same time is no better than having multiple wives! All this kind of crap is doing is trying to push us women back even more. Women need to stop doing these things to "please their man" and start doing things to please themselves. It makes me so darn mad!
And no, not every man fantasises about having two girls at the same time! I know a couple personally who don't! And I also know some who say that they do when there guy friends are around and talking crap, but you can tell that they really don't.

Bottom line, you obviously don't want to do it, so don't. And you really need to leave him. I know that sounds harsh, but if he loved you then he wouldn't even be suggesting this crap.

I makes me mad too..

Ok I don't think a mid life crisis can happen at 33... I'm 32 and far from midlife.
A threesome is something just about all men fantasies about. I have done it and would do it again. I also offered to give one to her if that is her fantasy. Its not for everyone and you need to be secure in your relationship to do it successfully. Don't condemn him for asking. If you say no then its no but you cant punish someone for there fantasy's.

So here's a question for nyguy, when you are in a serious relationship where you love your girlfriend so much, do you ever even consider flirting with some other girls? Cause I know my boyfriend flirts with other girls, but to me I don't know why he's doing that, knowing that he does not wanna ever lose me. Is this a normal guys' behavior?? I know he is fantasizing about having sex with other girls but how can I change that, is there anything that I might be doing wrong??? I guess I should post this on the relationship talk section but I might as well ask you now... Thanks!!

When I am in a serious relationship, no I don't flirt with other girls. That is not to say that my eye does not catch the attention of other girls from time to time but I think that is normal.
You should never feel responsible for your boyfriends infidelities. Men are very visual creatures. We respond very strongly to visual stimulation. Men tend to look. It does not mean that we do not love and lust after the girl we are with. Obviously there is the exception to the rule and obviously some men act on that. The bottom line is that if your man cheats, move on and never blame yourself. Also, you can not change his fantasies just as he cant change yours. Its ok to fantasies about sleeping with another girl... Its if he acts on it that there is a problem.

Hi nyguy, I think that is crap men are visual creatures and therefore it's normal they're checking out every female. You don't think women are looking at attractive men?? It is not normal that men use there dicks as divining rods. Perhaps they shouldn't put so much imoportance on their own climaxes using whatever degrading images of women they feel like. My fantasy is that men stop falling in love with their own pricks and learn how to be satisfying partners. No offense.

Purplechair,there is nothing you can do to stop him from fantasizing about others.It's when the fantasy wants to become reality that's the problem.I have no problem with a little mental fantasy,that can even give your relationship a little boost.I've often told my husband that I don't care where he gets his appetite-as long as he always eats at home!Don't be threatened by an imaginary situation.However,if he is pushing for a threeway and you find that gross(me too),then you need to tell him plainly that is out of the question.Do not be vague or say maybe-no means no!!If he persists and gets weird about it,just tell him to either be happy with the fantasy or rethink your relationship.Anyone,man or woman ,who does not respect your desires does not have your best interest at heart.Good luck to you!Patty

you obviously have never read any other posts by me or you would know that I hold women in the highest regard. At the same time, it is not crap that men are more visual than woman. Do some research and you will come to the same conclusion. I never said that women do not look also and I would think it unhealthy if they didn't. I love it when women think men are such "simple creatures" and claim to know exactly what we think or how we feel. Put as much time and effort into understanding men as I have spent trying to understand women and then we can have a healthy debate on the subject. If you re-read what I wrote, I also said that a woman should never feel responsible for a cheating man. Don't lump me into a stereotype.

Just have to say a couple of things:
as I said before a lot of men do fantasize about having a threesome, but a lot also just go with it as to not be made fun of.
I have never/would never date anyone who had done it/ wanted to do it, etc.

People have different ideas of love: this is one of the bottom lines. You have to be with someone who shares your views of love/morals/values/ desires etc.
To me, if you want to be with anyone other than me then you do not love me. Because when I love someone I want only them. I hardly ever even look at another guy. They have to be super super super sexy for me to even glance.
So, yes, you can blame him for asking. It is ignorant and disrespectful. I mean, if he wants a girl that is into that (and it is taking everything I have not to be mean here) then he should be with her and not you. You obviously have higher morals so you should be with someone who shares those with you.