Help me. I have attempted oral sex with my boyfriend, and even though I want to do it, after a few seconds, my jaw starts hurting so bad that I cant finish, and even though he tries to comfort me, it just makes me feel bad that I cant do this one thing for him. If anyone has any ideas, please let me know. Thankyou
Oral sex is, pardon the pun, an acquired taste. Stop thinking of it as something you need to "finish", and just see it as part of the sensual foreplay. Plan on doing it only for a few seconds, use your hands, lick it, etc. You couldn't run a marathon the first time you put on your nikes, could you?
mandy, you should see a massage therapist about your tmj issues. she can help you work the problem out of your jaw muscles and can also show you how to work it yourself and give you exercises to do that will help you with this.
i agree with the others here who are saying that it's not that important to "finish" the task...but for your overall health (in addition to this) i still think you should see a massage therapist.
If you "click" your jaw, you really need to stop clicking it, though it is very difficult to break the habit. This will sometimes fix the problem, if not, you might want to see a dentist to check your occlusion, or examine the way your teeth contact when you close your mouth: this could cause the jaw muscles to be in a constant state of tension, putting pressure on the joint. There are other treatments including massage, ice, etc. Check the web sites if these ideas don't work.