Yes, this does sound like depression to me. I suffer from depression, as well as panic and anxiety attacks, I am unable to make eye contact with anybody, cannot trust people, and I have a devastating fear of social situations, so I know all the signs. Crying all the time, feeling lousy, not wanting to do all the activities you once loved, and lashing out at people. As for your boyfriend, he doesn't sound right for you. If he's saying he doesn't love you and wants you to leave, you're better off without him.

I am only 23 years old and have suffered unbearable heartbreak. First, when I was 5 years old, I was sexually assaulted by my mom's brother in law, who turned around and killed my aunt (his wife) when she confronted him about it, my father's severe alcohol problem, being the school nerd, and having a best friend who repeatedly tried to kill me, which is one of the many reasons I can't trust people. I have tried suicide 4 times, but was unsuccessful. The only people keeping me going right now are my husband and our 2 daughters. But anyway, if you ever need someone 2 talk 2, please feel free to email me. My name's kari.

i am always looking 4 some1 to talk to and offer support.

Hello camarogirl,

this is an awful situation to be in, and with an uncaring boyfriend around it certainly would be in the best interest of you and your baby to leave him.


I know that this will be very traumatic for you and I hope that you have some support somewhere. What about your own parents?


Your depression may be both internal and external. You are obviously under immense pressure, but since you got some depressive feelings when you were pregnant, there may be biological element involved too.


When you are pregnant you will undergo tremendous hormonal changes, and at such time you should have the social support of the father of the child. He is obviously too immature to give that support.


As to internal causes of depression it would be worthwhile to go on a hypoglycemic diet. This diet will help your body to build the right hormones and neurotransmitters for your to cope with continual stress situations.


Please look up:

“the hypoglycemic diet” at our web site.


However, behind this is also the question of your low self-esteem. Why is it that you got yourself emotionally involved with an immature man who obviously has his own problems?


The reason seems to be that you suffer from a negative self-image and people with a low self-esteem are likely to choose the wrong partners.


If you agree that you have a low self-esteem, be assured that this can be overcome fairly quickly if you are prepared to study our self-help psychotherapy course at our web site, that is completely free of charge.


This course looks at communication systems, how people communicate with one another and how we communicate with ourselves, how we acquire a self-image and if this is negative how it affects all other departments of our life. You can get rid of a negative self-image through a series of mental exercises - retraining the mind as a it were - as explained at the web site.


You can do this course also with the help of a counsellor and in about eight weeks time you start to feel different about yourself and your boyfriend.


Once you have completed this course I can guarantee you that you will never allow yourself to be emotionally caught up with a dysfunctional man again. In fact your sense of self-worth will ensure that you never undersell yourself. It will enable you to find a man whose worth would match yours.


I hope you enjoy the course.


Jurriaan plesman, ba (psych) post grad dip clin nutr