I was 14 when I got pregnant and gave birth at 15.
You put yourself in this situation and you should deal with it the best way that you can, abortion is not the answer. Not only does abortion have serious side effects but the pain will remain with you forever.
There is help out there and if you work hard you can finish school.
Now, I am 16 and my daughter is 2 and I am going into my junior year of highschool. I will keep you in my prayers sweetie...

My friend just had a baby and she is 15 years old. You have options... You do not have to get rid of your baby or even concider adoption and if your mother tells you to, it's not her choice. Second of all when you have that baby a social worker will come in and try to persuid you to give it up... Don't listen. Take this advice, you have nine months to save. Find yourself an ok job! Save all your money! Tell your bf after 5 months and your mom b/c than it's against the law to have an abortion. Don't worry, by law she cannot kick you out! Plan ahead! Don't ever stop dreaming! Trust me on all of this! It will be hard but you can do it and on top of all that you are able to collect welfare! So don't give up, it'll be ok!

Lol, if this message board is from october than she has already had the baby, and your giving her advice still. What ever desicion was made it is already made.

But many more may read and learn

Hey have u tried the teen pregnancy forum

:d im 14 and I am pregnant! Thats how I found this page I searched teenage pregnancy! My boyfriend knows but im afraid to tell my parents...Umm...If u want u can email me ,would be great 2 hear from u!

Hi there! I just wanted to say i'm happy for you, and I would be more than willing to lend an ear. I got pregnant when I was 15, and had my baby when I was 16, and I would love to talk to you.

I told my boyfriend about it and he said it is okay and that we will figure something out but I really dont know,or actually I can't tell anything to my parents.They will probably kill me.I know what I did was wrong but please tell me what to do..Should I have an abortion?

I agree with sandra. Abortion to me will never be the answer. I don't care about pro choice and women's rights. As a woman, I feel that if you were not careful enough to end up pregnant .E.S.P.E.C.I.A.L.L.Y. As a young teenager then that is the consequences. My mother had me at 19, i'm now 19 and i'm grateful she kept me when everything was dark and gloomy. Obviously there are different situations such as rape, but if you're just a person that wanted to have sex, or were foolish enough to have unprotected sex, or if the condom broke and you weren't on birth control.. Then hunny that's the responsibility you have to take as a person.. A poor child should not suffer for your judgement call

Well said averiex ! :)

Me too!!!

yeah. I find that people that do abortion are the ones that shouldn't be having sex in the first place. A 14 year old? Like you said, mature enough to open the legs mature enough to have a full term pregnancy. Sex ed is taught in schools, and in fact, at the age 14 most children know the outcome and seriousness of unprotected sex. It's everywhere and hard to not be known. There are consequences and there are too many immature children saying "it can't happen to me, if you love me you'll do this." rape victims.. Not their fault, but the fetus still shouldn't be punished.. Just like it wasn't their fault to be raped it's not the fetus' fault to be raped of life. Irresponsible adults that don't feel they can pay for a child: .A.D.O.P.T.I.O.N.

In society today people play the "game" and when it comes time to collect their "winnings" they .B.L.O.W. .I.T.

In society today where underage pregnancy is seen as irresponsible
.S.O. .I.S. .A.B.O.R.T.I.O.N.
Adoption adoption adoption!
There are so many responsible people out there that want children and can't have them and there are so many irresponsible children going and getting pregnant and aborting them because they're too afraid to tell their parents! "my parents will kill me" yeah, of course they'll be mad, but if you can open your legs to someone and have unprotected sex then you should be smart enough to own up to your consequences!!!!

I'm becoming angry..

Know what else annoys me? People and school systems insisting that sex ed is corrupting children and giving them the excuse to have sex. Hello! Obviously these children .A.R.E. Having sex and because of the lack of sophisticated response they're becoming pregnant and contemplating abortion! God may not have wanted us to reproduce before marriage but he also had another .V.E.R.Y. Important saying.. .T.H.O.U. .S.H.A.L.T. .N.O.T. .K.I.L.L.!!!!!!

The elders and school systems fail to also realize that by teaching abstinance they are not teaching the reality of society! Diseases, stds, aids, pregnancy! Give out condoms! If a person is going to have sex why not prepare them!

i recently found out that when my mother was pregnant with me as a senior in highschool she was told maybe it would be better to not even show up to walk to graduate. Excuse me!!!!!!
What is the world coming to?

If my child ever had abortion due to the fact of being afraid to tell me i'd beat her senseless! Well, no, that'd be wrong. But I think that a child that is too afraid to talk to their parents doesn't have a good relationship with them. If my child was a afraid to talk to me I would feel that it was partially my fault for not initiating that open forum, the option to talk about anything.. And more and more these children are not forming relationships with their parents.

I think that the way that teen mothers get judged is just wrong I know loads of teens who are great mums like my daughters friend she has been judged and called names even spat on for being pregnant at school yet she is the most responsible person my daughter knows and I know she is going to be a great mum to her little girl (she had her little girl yesterday a whopping 10lb 4 oz ) there was never any doubt in her mind that she would have this baby and take care of her responsibilities in my eyes there are none braver than a teenage mum and I think these girls deserve more than the abuse which is given to them.

i fully agree, but there's a difference between the responsible teenage moms and the teenage moms that ask "should I get an abortion?" as you said, you never had any doubt in your mind she'd be a good mom.. She probably has a good family relationship and a lot of support. She sounds like she has a head on her shoulders. She is taking care of the responsibility her and another person created. Babies don't jump on themselves and create themselves. There have been a lot of times my mom has told me how it hasn't been easy, or that she's sacrficed a lot.. Yeah, you do sacrifice a lot.. For what .Y.O.U. Did.

I feel sorry for these kids that say that they cannot tell there parents that they are pregnant, that they would kill them, I might have been a little shocked but I would never thought of killing them! My kids knew if anything happened to them that they knew that they could come to me, even their friends came to me before they went to their own family. They always knew I would be their for them! Even now, they are both on their own, my .Daughter has a super male friend that would do anything for her, she is in college and she works for special children and she thought she was pregnant and called me up and was crying and I told her that I would be there for her but we all agreed to wait for another week because she was under alot of pressure with school and her job and everything turned out okay. My .Son has a super beautiful g/f and he is in the military and has been over to iraq twice and will soon be sent again. Neither one are ready for kids but that is their choice. But even as they are older they know that I am here for them. It does not matter how old they are, they will always be your kids from young to adults and you must let them live their lives.

I noticed the post on 08-25-04 about the social worker talking to the girl about getting rid of the babyor putting it up for adoption, yes if that is what the mother wants that is okay after it is born, maybe the laws are differnt in pa but I have worked as a social worker and I have never pushed that envelope. I have put the positives in there unless I felt that the baby has been abused or neglected I have let her know about the services she can receive and about how she (the mother can continue her education) because I would rather see a baby stay with her own mother than to end up in some of these foster homes unless the baby is being abused or neglected as their are alot of not too good foster homes out their(and I did not say all).