What is wrong with all of you? Things will not work out and not be ok for a 14 year old having a child. A child is a tremendous responsibility and one that should be taken seriously. Abortion is not the only option. There are millions of people in this country who would love to adopt a child and could give it love, security and a stable life. The problem in this country is everyone wants society, their parents or daycares to raise their children. Maybe this is why our youth have so many problems and are crying out for attention every chance they get. To be able to support a family at a young age means working very hard and that means someone is being sacrificed, usually the child. Think very hard about your decisions. Talk to you mother and if you are religious, talk to someone in your church. You have your whole life in front of you and ten years from now, you will not be the person you are today, no matter what you think. Do not be selfish and ruin the life of a child for your own mistakes. Please consider adoption.

Why does everyone keep replying to this post..Its from october!!!!!She hasnt replied since...

Jordan

Jordan I was thinking the same thing

Unfortunately alot of new users do not take note of the original post date or whether or not the poster has responded.

On many systems this thread would be automatically or moderator closed based on its age and available for reading only.

Mike

About telling I think you should be honest with your mom. I am 16 years old and 25 weeks pregnant. Well I found out that I was with my mom in the room. So I didn't have to tell her alone. For me I don't know what I would do with out her. She's been there for me through the hole thing, I am glad that I have had my mom. And with out her I don't know if I would be able to do this. Your mom will be there to help you. I thought my mom would be mad but she wasn't. She was a little scared and upset but now that everything has had a chance to set it everythings fine.

Lilmama

Hey hun. . U will be okay. .But yes your very young.. Just please think about the baby.. It is a lot to handle. .If u dont think 100% that u can do this and are prepared to except all this responsibility and grow up completely at 14 then please consider adoption. There are so many people who cant have kids of their own* but if u do feel u can be ready then I wish u the best luck in the world. I just cant imagine, at 14. Im pregnant now at 18 and it still scares me. .Just remember to keep the babys life in mind and make sure u will be able to give it a good home and life and be able to support it*


oops I didnt see the date either im sorry! But I will keep it sense I already wrote it. .In case she does ever happen to come back to it. . .

I got pregnant with my daughter, christina, at 12 years old, gave birth to her when I was 13. And you know something? I did just fine! My daughter will be 6 years old on july 4th, and I recently turned 19. Of course its hard, but anything worth having is worth working for! Keep your head up!

Kelly

"the problem in this country is everyone wants society, their parents or daycares to raise their children."

yes, so who's to say adoptive parents will be any different. Many adoptive parents place their children in daycare etc.
In fact, what's wrong with having the true grandparents of the child taking care of him/her? Isn't that better than a complete and utter stranger?
There are adoptive parents that mentally, physically or sexually abusive their adopted kids. I live nearby to one who was recently convicted. I don't think i'd be able to sleep at night knowing that my child may not be safe.
I will say this once... Do what you have to with your life considering your opinions... But it draws the line when you start dictating another person's life or lifestyle.

How come nobody posted for over a year on the genital warts message board? Hmmmmmmmmmm?????????

I say we start a new message board like this to keep posting on for as long as we care to that is about absolutely nothing in particular at all. It will reall confuse people. :d

Just a thought. 14,8th grade and pregnant. What a terrible situation to be in and I do feel badly for you but I was wondering how many people who would encourage an 8th grader to have a child would let a 14 year old take care of their precious baby day in and day out, not see thier baby and trust that your child would be completely safe,healthy,well taken care of for a prolonged period of time. This would really tell you if a 14 year old can take care of a child. I won't even comment on the boyfriend, because sticking around at 14 to raise a child, seems, well not likely to happen. When a child has a child it is her responsibility completely not other peoples responsibility to help. I love children and have two of my own but I am a realist in situations like these and would rather help children in third world countries who are alive,starving,dying and no one to care for them. I am neither pro or anti it depends on situation. I can say though you need to tell your mother and I hope she helps you because you are so young and need that support for the difficult situation ahead. Sorry didn't see date either.

I dont know if my comments count up here or not im a guy and I was looking at the post until came upon this one 12 and 14 having babys wow the youngest I have ever herd I dont know what to say only to say im happy for u and not have died giving birth im glad u made it past that I dont think no one that age should have a child for god sake there a child there self I dont blame the girl just the boy think they should have more self control im sadden by hearing all about wife beatings child rape and women and girl killings now babys having babys what has the world become wait till your older to start a life it be alot easyer be parents then a single mother raising a baby if I said anything to offend anyone im sorry

" im sadden by hearing all about wife beatings child rape and women and girl killings now babys having babys what has the world become"

i had to comment on this. What has the world become? Well, history tells you that this actually has been going on for thousands of years, so I am confused on why you are so surprised. In fact there was a time where one would be married by age of 13. I'm sure you had the best intentions, but your comments just made little sense.




"how many people who would encourage an 8th grader to have a child would let a 14 year old take care of their precious baby day in and day out, not see thier baby and trust that your child would be completely safe,healthy,well taken care of for a prolonged period of time. This would really tell you if a 14 year old can take care of a child. "

well your remote ancestors must have done a pretty darn good job if you are here talking to us right now, right?
And, btw, who exactly do you think babysits most babies? Yes, teenagers. I was babysitting at 13 years old and my friend as well had to take care of her baby sister day in and day out while her mother was at work etc at the ripe age of 13. Maybe you should forward that comment over to those parents that continue to do so. I think being a man with possibly minuscule experience in the area, you don't have much confidence in yourself taking care of a child, therefore beating down on others much younger.




Also, to compare a person having a child with a woman beater, rapist, or mur derer is also a very sad and ignorant flaw of thinking. In fact, it is quite disgusting! I hope this young lady doesn't have any men or women like you around in her life right now at this point. Because likely she doesn't need the negativity and hate.







Good day.

Ok let me add to this comment train

also, to compare a person having a child with a woman beater, rapist, or mur derer is also a very sad and ignorant flaw of thinking. In fact, it is quite disgusting! I hope this young lady doesn't have any men or women like you around in her life right now at this point. Because likely she doesn't need the negativity and hate.

Im not comparing this to the issue here get your facts right before making jugement ok and I dont think u see and understand this at all train and I dont get where u get hate at I think your over reacting if u take what I wrote wrong u must have mistaken me and train I do see hatred and its in your letter not mine

Omg!!! Some of you just have no manners whatsoever. So unbelievably rude to the girl. This happens every day and if you watch any bit of tv or got out in the real world, you'd know that. She has three choices and that is her decision to make so leave the poor girl alone.

Untimely blessings, you are one strong and mature woman. Bless you and your child and good luck in life. Your daughter is adorable! You defy the notion that a person so young can't take care of a child. Bless.

Ok im getting blame again for something im not picking on her or no one here all I said I was surprize how young some pple r for that age didnt know everyone going jump on me if I sound rude what I post I didnt know I was and im sorry anyone takes it that way I stop posting on this subject and leave with my mouth closed

I am concerned about the amount of people saying dont get an abortion.

I'm not saying do, I am saying find out the facts, confide in someone you trust and asses your situation and do what is right for you.

I first got pregnant at 18 (ok I know its older than you but still) down to a date rape - I didn't know we had had sex until I found out I was pregnant.

At the time I was pushing a career showing horses, doing dressage and show-jumping and still living with my parents.

I really had to convince my doctor that then was not a good time for a baby - I would resent it most likely given the situation and if I should fall from a horse when pregnant I could do real damage to both of us, or if I fell after the birth who would look after it.

I'm now 25 and pregnant. I've been with himself for 3 years and he is been supportive. I've had no worries telling my family this time. My horse died 2 1/2 years ago so I am not tempted to ride - I always thought I would ride when pregnant but now I cant imagine it

Good luck and remember do only what is right for you.

Kia

Ok to those of you pointing out the original date of the first post - yes well done.
If the original poster was indeed pregnant - I would most likely expect she has had the baby.
However I am willing to bet that a whole lot more 14 (or there abouts) teenagers have read this anonymously, so I say keep it open. If it benefits one more person - it was a worth while post

Hey sweetie... I know this is a year later but I just joined the site... Hopefully you will respond... Hi my name is jess I am 18 years old (just turned 18 in june) and I am 10 weeks pregnant to the day. I was seriously curious what happened in your situation. Because I know when my parents found out they flipped a brick and kicked me out of my house and i'm 18 now :-/..... I hope all has worked out for you whether you chose to keep, abort, or adopt out your baby. I'd really like to hear from you if you get this. I live in san diego. i'm scared and on my own.. But i'm learning to deal... Reply if you can thank you!

~yea I understand that the girl is 14 years old, why would you tell a lil girl that she need to consider adoption. Im 17 and a week pregnant, not one point in my mind would I tell anyone to but their child up for adoption or abortion. I feel if you have the time to have sex no matter what age you are then you have the time to have a baby no matter how many responsibilities she has to take, I think she can do it at age 14 or any age.