Wow. That's a difficult situation to be in. How far along do you think you are?

I do not speak from first-hand experience, but my advice is to not do anything rash. The world is crawling with people who will be very adamant about pro-choice/pro-life and who will turn this into an argument about that issue rather than your situation.

You are probably hurting and scared. I will pray for you, okay? I believe that life is precious... All life.

They need to know, especially your mother. Soon, I think.

Best advice for now? Pray. And i'm not going to preach at you about abortion. I'm sure you realize that that is one of the biggest decisions you may ever make in your life. I'll be praying and watching this thread.

I feel very sorry for you. At 14 years old you should not be sexually active. You are still a baby yourself. You need to see a good doctor and counseling. If you keep the baby you will ruin your life. I would get an abortion right away. You have your whole life ahead of you. Your mind should be on school, dance classes, soccer, gymnastics, not on being with a boy sexually at this age. Please seek help!!

Don't worry, it'll be ok. I know it's a couple years diff., but I got preg at 16 and had my 1st baby at 17. I then had my 2nd at 18 and 3rd at 19. I graduated high school and got my license to sell insurance. If you try hard enough everything will work out.


Let me know how everything goes.
Best wishes.

Jennifer

Excellent advice jennifer,

i also had my daughter at 16, and yet I went on to become a very well paid gaming manager. I am now pregnant with my 2nd child and very happy, I am sure you will be fine. Be prepared though you are going to hear lots of opinions from people either telling you, you should have an abortion or telling you, you must now keep your baby, it's wonderful to get lots of feedback from lots of different people, but in the end the decision is yours. You sound keen on keeping your bubby and I think that is beautiful. Let's face it your mum is going to be shocked when you tell her. My daughter is now 13 and I would fall over backwards if she told me she was pregnant. But in saying that, the decision would be hers, and I think if your mum loves you she will stand by you and help you through your difficult time of need. Take care and good luck,

.::suzy::.

in all honesty, if I heard you say that in person, I would of just shot you. Preaching abortion is the worst thing you can do. I have a neese who just had her baby, and she's very dedicated to taking care of it, and she's doing a wonderful job of it. Keep in mind she is the same age as this girl is we're talking about here on the forum. Please do me a favor and don't preach about abortion. As I said, if I heard you say that in person, you wouldn't be reading this. Good day.

Sweetie everything is going to be okay......At your age I was scared that I was pregnant.....It turned out I wasn't... But it is a very hard and scary situation......I had my son at 17.....That is young as well.....And people will judge you, but you can't let them get to you....You are going to have to tell you boyfriend.... I always said ' if they are such a man to have sex, then they are a man who needs to deal with this situation' as for you mother, she will be shock but I think she will get over it...Remember she was pregnant with you and she know what you are going though and that is her future grandchild, so she will get over it......I wish you the best of luck keep us post and don't mind the cruel 'advice' some people give here.


Your friend
passion

Jess:

first tell your boyfriend and your mother. Once they see that wonderful baby, they will have a change of heart. Don't let them discourage you. Keep your head up!

Lots of kids have had early pregnancies as some have shared with you, and I believe that you can accomplish anything you put your mind to. Don't let them discourage you. You have already made up your mind that you are keeping the baby and I think that is a very wise decision. No one decides when a baby should come into this world and we don't have the right to take it out. There are a lot of programs out there to help the teen mothers and I think it's a great idea. Heck, even 45-60 year olds are going back to college. I was at a college a few years back where they had a seperate dorm for girls with children. I think that's great. Why should we demolish their dreams. Help them out.

To teri: so really you are telling her to decide whether to finish high school and play sports or homicide her own child?? Who said 14 year olds can't raise a child, having help from others? Once every sees that small precious, cute, gift from god in their arms everyone's hearts will be melted away. In your heart, jess, you will know what to do.

Adoption is always an option too.

Best wishes!!
Carvytaph

Yeah that sucks.....I am 14 two and I dont know how you would actually do somthing like that cause boys you age are immature...I should know....Well be carfull when you do cause the boys at this age are very immature!

A baby is a beautiful thing. My mom had a baby at 14. She went to school but quit at the 11th grade. She's wise tho.
People will help you. Friends and family are they best thing for help. They love you.
God bless.
**kewball***

Dont get an abortion, you are sooo young but you need to do this. Tell your mom and your boyfriend. And make sure you are pregnant.

Im sure once you tell your mom about it, there may be some discomfort, but she will still love you non the less. A friend of mine never got along with her mother, until she became pregnant at the age of 16, now her mother and her are closer than ever. Im not saying getting pregnant is the best way to get close to loved ones, im just telling you this to reassure you that your mother will love you always, and that its not going to be as bad as you may be thinking. I give you hope and lots of blessing. Just be sure so see a doctor and take care of yourself very carefully. Its easy to loose a child early on. Remember dont let ne one force you into n e decision. Do what you feel is best, and make sure you put a lot of thought into it. Hell im still afraid to tell my mom im pregnant, and im 20 yrs old. But its the best thing to do.

I got pregnant at the age of 16 and my life became very hard. There is no doubt your life will change and you will have to except responsibilty for your actions. Children are a hugh step and there are people in the age of 30 who cant take on their responsibilty. So being 14 and pregnant. Sweetie you are suppost to be playing and going skating. You will have your freedom taken away because it is time to grow up now. I didnt have no one help me because of course the father ran. He was very immature and scared. I dropped out of school and I regret it. If you do keep the baby keep to your responsibilty and finish school and be a good mother. When you bring a child in this world you commit your life to them. Tell your boyfriend and mother and then go from there. Yes my mother was upset but she got over it and loved me even more. But she did make sure that I was the one who was going to take care of the baby and get a job. Sweetie god bless you and I hope that all goes well. But think of whats best for you and your baby. Its your choice and no one elses. Good luck!

Melanie

Melanie well said....

I understand your afraid to tell your mother but I believe she would first be upset at the situation and then when everything settles down, she will then start to understand that things happens. I had an 18 year old staying with me for a short time because her mother put her out because she was pregnant. I helped her best I could by keeping communications open with her and her parents. She is back at home and her mother is now decorating the spare bedroom for her new grandchild. I know there's a age difference in the scenario, but the mother at one point felt she failed as a mother because her daughter was pregnant, but than she started thinking where would her grandchild wind up and that overrode everything. I believe your mother will be hurt but after time passes she will be there to help you. I am not looking forward to any of my children coming home to say "i'm pregnant". I have three children (all girls)and I know I will be upset, hurt, feeling everything I tried to instill in her went in one ear and out the other and a failure as a mother but the chose my child make is her chose. I will be hurt in the beginning but will have to accept it and try to help any of them the best of my ability. If they need to talk, hold their hands or just give them support I will be their for my child or children as best as I can. Things happens sometimes for the best and sometimes for the worst.

:d congratulations: a baby is a beautiful thing. I think you are a beautful person wanting to keep the baby at such a young age. If he doesn't support the fact that you are carrying his beautiful child, tha is his loss and you deserve better. I wish you the best of luck... Good luck lynn

Sweetheart I feel for ya. Being 14 and pregnant is not a good situation. Especially since you're so young. First off be careful what you say back to people there are a lot of people that are pro-life on here and may not agree with things you say - even though you said u want to keep the baby. You need to tell your mom and your boyfriend

Thank - u all 4 ur advice I hav told mi b/f and he said that he will suport me on wat I want and we are sorting it out thank u 4 ur help thou

That is great......

Im 17 and recently found that i, along with my sister also 17, am pregnant. My boyfriend was the first one to know because he bought the pregnancy test and stood with me to take it. ( theres an idea for you to tell him.) and we showed my mom the test when it showed up to tell her. She was mad but now she has learned to cope with it and hopefully I have been some help (try these methods they may work for you to.) tell us what happens