You are being very, very selfish and irresponsible. But I do love you and I hope that you and jaydyn have all the luck in the world with chris. And I am not saying don't be with chris. But your mother was there for you the whole pregnancy when chris hasn't been!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So your mother is hurting because she's feeling left out and shut out, which is really wrong. She has done a lot for you and jaydyn and chris hasn't done anything. So I think it's selfish.

I'm sorry your mom isnt being supportive. Thats good that chris' mom is willing to let you stay with her. Good luck!!!

Oh, huni, just be careful and think about everything before you make sudden decisions. We all love you and just want you to be happy. Keep us updated.

Love,
megan

Please don't jordan. So what if he messes over you, and you have to leave there, and your mom won't take you back? Please take it slow with him. Why do you need to sleep over there? And if chris decides that he doesn't want you anymore,and you need to leave him mom's house, and he wants jayden they'l have ammo to take her. They could say you ran away from home with a young baby, and are homeless. What then. I know a man can have a strong hold over you, but unless you have a ring on your finger with the promise of marriage, you need to be as careful as possible. And even if you did have a ring on your finger , you would still need to have your head on straight. Think about like this, no matter how much you may care about him, is spending time with him really worth losing your real family and maybe even your daughter? I really don't think so.

Jordan think about what your doing....Please, dont do this right now, think it over first dont let yourself and jayden get hurt over him....Keep us informed k?

Meg

Jordan, I wish you all the luck in the world. But if it doesnt work out between you and chris, what are you going to do? Go beg your mom to take you back? Thats not too good either, jaydyn needs a stable home, ya know??

<3
gaby

Good luck, but you really should think hard about it. Your mom just doesn't want you to get hurt.

Good luck jordan, I see why ur moms upset... And u still gotta undertand her feelings.. But I hope u, chris and jaydyn the best of luck! Take care

shauna

Im with chanda on this one, jordan if your mum has helped you throughout your pregnancy, then you should be a bit more understanding. You are her baby girl this guy has hurt you, he also probably doesnt have the best reputation. You wouldnt stand back and let that happen to your daughter without a fight. Seriously take care of your mum, you never know you have got till it's gone, there will only be so much she will take before she turns her back on you. Remember your mum must come first before any guy, I know he's the baby's father but he is yet prove that he can even do that. He hasent been about. I hope to god you are right about him!

Lol jordan.. I did the same thing as you.. I live with my bf and his mom because my mom threatened to seperate us and we were going to lose the house.. It was a bad living enviroment also so I ended up living here.. I haven't spoken to my mom since june and that was for hardly a minute.. Before that it was december.. It's kind of a long story but yeah it's nice not having to worry about leaving and how long you have before you have to go..

Its different when you drag a baby with you. Jordan dont move in just yet. Im telling you, youll always need your mother more than anything! Think things over first.

Im not moving in for another month b/c we dont want to live wish his momma, bc its kindda small, but if my mom keeps hanging up on me and showin her a$$ then im out...Ill just have to buy a new crib and crap...Well im going to go spend the day with him, so yet another controversy..My moms flipping b/c im not using the car seat base (its made where u dont have to, u use the selt belts) but shes nuts, cuz the base is more floppy around than just using the seat belts...O well I deleted yhoo messanger and im bout to shut down the computer and I wont b on for a while, unless I get on at his or his mommas house, which I prolly will...Lol..Ttyl!

Joradn, I hope you see this. I think you're making a mistake choosing a man over your mother, that just a few weeks ago threatening to take your baby girl. I don't know the whole story, but i'm sure nikki knows more, of why you shouldn't choose him over your mom. Please think of jayden, a man can wait. Try to get out on your own (a steady income, and an apart that you are on the lease on), and then carry on your relatonship. I am not coming down on you, I just think that you're judgement is being clouded by the misguided thought that all of this will help you make the perfect family with your child's father. And it really won't. Ohh and also a few weeks ago you wre scared b/c he was threatening to take jayden, but know you are planning on living with him. The real world isn't that peachy jordan. Just take a look in jayden face, and ask yourself ,if you moved in with her father, and he decied to act an ass again an put you out, could you ever look her in the face again. She is depending on you, to give her the best start possible, and that is not burning bridges with your mother, your blood, just to be with some guy even if it is her father. She deserves the best, and to be first.

Why is it that when chrissy wants to get rid of her baby's daddy, she's being selfish and not thinking about josh and forcing him to grow up without a father, but when jordan tries to keep her baby's daddy in her baby's life, she's making a mistake and her judgment is clouded and misguided????


Jordan, I support your decision and I wish you the best! I know that whatever you do, you and jaydyn are all that matter and you'll be fine!

Jordan wants to move in with him, knowing what he has said and done recently. And it is not even that, b/c when she first said she was getting back with him I was all for it. But now she is letting wanting to be with him, burn her bridges with her mom ,which in my opinion is not a good idea. So her being with him is not that big of a deal, but moving in with him. And then, just the thought that you never know when he may want to put her out, or she may want to leave, her and little jayden may be out on the street somewhere. And her moving from what I read atleast came on after she wanted to sleep over by his house. Sleeping over isn't that important to cause all of this is it? I didn't say that jordan should try to get rid of him, I just don't think it is that important to live with him right now. There is a big difference. As a matter of fact these or not related. I think it is evident. I just don't want jordan and jayden to end up without a home, and no where to go.

i for one do not think chrissy is making a mistake. I told her to think it over more than once. But I don't think she's making a mistake.

None of that changes anything. The fact remains that at this point, jaydyn needs a father much more than jordan needs a mother.

Well, I kind of think that it is equal. Jordan, needs someone that she can truely depend on. Someone that has already shown she is willing to take care of jayden. And on the same token, jayden needs a father just as much. When jordan first mentioned, jayden spending time with her daddy I was all for that too. So this is what I am saying, jayden needs to spend time with her father, jordan had a right to be with who she wants to, jordan's mother doesn't have a right to control jordan's every move. And with that said, this started with jordan wanting to spend the night with chris. My thing is if spending the night with him, will make her mother put her out, it is really that important? Being with him is fine, but I think she should live with her mom until she is on her feet. That way if one day she does decide to move in with him, if they get on bad terms it will be a given that she can just leave and take care of herself and jayden, without anyone's support.