This post has been done loads recently, have a look around at some of the other posts.
You need a healthy balanced diet, try folic acid supplements, and have a good sex life.
Every other day is better because it allows your partner to build his sperm reserves back up.
Unless you have a far out cycle try having good sex every other day from like day 7/8 (day 1 being first day of period).
If you don't feel like sex on a particular day then don't do it.
The key is to not try too hard. Just enjoy the trying