Since you are 16, and your boyfriend is 20, under no circumstances is it ok to spend the night alone with him. In most states, he would be considered a sexual predator, and would most likely be prosecuted if your mother chose to do so, as you are still a minor. If something or someone is worth having, it's worth waiting for. There's an old saying-why buy the cow if the milk is free. It might seem as if he's the right guy for you, but time has a way of changing things. Don't rush into a situation you might regret.

I agree 100% with what bekkit said. You would be putting yourself in a very unpredictable situation.

I agree too. You're only 16, you might think that you're in love and that he's "the one", but don't be so sure of yourself. I think most percentage of girls that lost their virginity because of that feeling now regret it. Don't feel pressured into doing anything. If he can't wait, than he's not your true love.

Assuming that you are sexually active with your boyfriend, let your mom know that you understand about sex and protection and in no way do you want to get pregnant. Let her know that at least you are being safe and she knows where you are and not out in some slump, right?

hiya hows 11 o under

11 or under is considered rape and child abuse, not just taking advantage of a minor.

To the OP: If you want to sleep nights with your boyfriend, and this is what you want in life, you will have to apply to a court to be an emancipated minor. Otherwise you have to do what your mother tells you because it's actually what is best for you right now.

You may know what you want in life right now, but so does a baby when he wants to eat and so does a 5 year old when he wants a bike. You're perception of life is going to drastically change over the next few years, especially if you become pregnant, which could very possibly happen whether or not you are using safer sex practices.

For you to be sleeping with someone who is 20 is something that is illegal for him to do, and he could go to jail.

Slow down with your life before it's too late and you have to grow up faster than you're meant to.

you are still so young to do that.