I caught my boyfriend lieing to me tonight, and I need some advice on what I should do.
We were hanging out and he said he had a missed call so he called his friend back and his phone was really loud so I could hear alot of what they were saying. His friend said "i wanted to know if you wanted to go ....."and then my b/f said no im tired. I couldnt hear the rest.... And when he got off the phone I asked what he wanted and he said nothing...And then I told him that I heard him say he wanted something and he's like "yea he wanted to know if I was asleep" and I told him he was lieing and he got all pissy and left my house,,,then he came back and got into bed with me like everything was good and he was like he wanted to know if I would go to the pool hall with him and he said some other bs to try and justify everything but I knew it was a lie .... Just because I didnt give him all of the information that I heard he tried to make sense of what I had told him and it just made me know he was lieing (( kinda confusing))
it really scares me that he can make up these lies and get mad at me when hes the one lieing! Why would he do that???? And why would he lie in the first place??? I dont know what to do ....Should I lie to him just to get even ....Or just try and piss him off .((he gets mad when I just go out with my girl friend, while he's at work and I have nothing better to do))
Nope, the worst thing you can do is confront little lies, just be vigilant.
For some reason himself does this all the time.
"i'm leaving now" - and he's not even outta bed.
Setting: me waiting outside closed store for lift home
me: where are you
him: about 2 mins away
me: but where are you
him: errr by fords (factory just down road from store that makes car parts)
10 mins later he will arrive to pick me up cuz he hadn't left yet.
When I catch him fibbing he gets sulky and whingy. I ask him why he does it but he says he doesn't know.
So now when I catch him out I tell him there is no discussion I know he's fibbed to me and that it makes me feel bad like he doesn't respect me.
He sulks for a while it all gets forgotten. Thing is know that I can actually trust him, its only stupid stuff he lies about, I figure its just a guy thing.
Yea but he wont admit that he lied and he's getting all mad at me when he knows its him thats what makes me upset.I think he does it almost everyday too(i always suspect it this time I know its not me being paranoid), if u can lie about something like that u can lie about anything. It angers me off 2 because I never lie I tell him everything even when I know hes going to get pissed(and has no reasong 2).
Well in all fairness they're just silly little lies aren't they? He probably didn't want to tell you because he didn't wamt you to ask him loads of questions about it. I never ask my boyfriend what people want when they call him-he's allowed his own life! Has he ever lied to you about anything serious?
Well he doesnt allow me my own life so why should I put up with his lieing. I cant even go shopping with my girl while he's at work, without getting yelled and him telling me I cant go, he tells me to just stay in my house till he gets home from work, and when I do go out with her I know its going to make him mad which it shouldnt but I still tell him the truth! They arent silly lies to me I think if anybody can lie like that ((not a white lie)) then they are backstabbers. I dont lie to him about annnnything so I expect the same in return.
I know how you feel. Its like if he can lie about something so stupid and simple as that, then what else will he lie about that isn't so simple? Its a trust issue now. I know exactly how you feel. But honestly, is he worth keeping around?? He is such a controle freak!!!!! He needs a reality check!! He has no right to tell you what the heck to do at any time no matter what!! He is not your darn father! So he better stop trying to act like one!!!
Tell him that if he can lie about small little things like that, then what other big things does he lie t u about?? Tell him ur not gonna settle for it.. Next time u catch him bein all whiny like that and gettin all pissy so fast, then u know hes lying about something and say u cant stay wit a liar becuz there is no trust... U dont have to put up wit that!
He just came over my house like everything was fine and we got along until the lieing last night was brought up. He's still denying it and he left my house all pissy again he's like "now u can watch me walk out the door again" he says that I hear what I want to hear but I know what I heard last night. And he said I always get lied to ! And I was like I dont lie to u and he said I didnt say you do ....He doesnt make any sense