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Shayna
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Joined: 17 Jul 2004
Posts: 180
Location: NY
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Caught Lieing Pleeasse Reply
Posted: 08-22-04 23:34pm
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I caught my boyfriend lieing to me
tonight, and I need some advice on what I
should do.
We were hanging out and he said he had a
missed call so he called his friend back
and his phone was really loud so I could
hear alot of what they were saying. His
friend said "i wanted to know if you
wanted to go ....."and then my b/f said no
im tired. I couldnt hear the rest....
And when he got off the phone I asked what
he wanted and he said nothing...And then I
told him that I heard him say he wanted
something and he's like "yea he wanted to
know if I was asleep" and I told him he
was lieing and he got all pissy and left
my house,,,then he came back and got into
bed with me like everything was good and
he was like he wanted to know if I would
go to the pool hall with him and he said
some other bs to try and justify
everything but I knew it was a lie ....
Just because I didnt give him all of the
information that I heard he tried to make
sense of what I had told him and it just
made me know he was lieing (( kinda
confusing))
it really scares me that he can make up
these lies and get mad at me when hes the
one lieing! Why would he do that???? And
why would he lie in the first place??? I
dont know what to do ....Should I lie to
him just to get even ....Or just try and
piss him off .((he gets mad when I just go
out with my girl friend, while he's at
work and I have nothing better to do))
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Kia
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Location: Planet Tampaxia,
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Posted: 08-23-04 04:04am
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Nope, the worst thing you can do is
confront little lies, just be vigilant.
For some reason himself does this all the
time.
"i'm leaving now" - and he's not even
outta bed.
Setting: me waiting outside closed store
for lift home
me: where are you
him: about 2 mins away
me: but where are you
him: errr by fords (factory just down road
from store that makes car parts)
me: ok
10 mins later he will arrive to pick me up
cuz he hadn't left yet.
When I catch him fibbing he gets sulky and
whingy. I ask him why he does it but he
says he doesn't know.
So now when I catch him out I tell him
there is no discussion I know he's fibbed
to me and that it makes me feel bad like
he doesn't respect me.
He sulks for a while it all gets
forgotten. Thing is know that I can
actually trust him, its only stupid stuff
he lies about, I figure its just a guy
thing.
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sweetsuzi
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 May 2004
Posts: 831
Location: Bonny Scotland
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Posted: 08-23-04 04:47am
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Kia tell me about it.
Me: are you going out tonight
him:no, im having an early night!!
Phone him at 11. To hear load music
him:i lloooovve yooouuuu, dont be maddd
me: well I dont say nothing I just slam
the phone down lol
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Shayna
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Jul 2004
Posts: 180
Location: NY
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Posted: 08-23-04 08:43am
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Yea but he wont admit that he lied and
he's getting all mad at me when he knows
its him thats what makes me upset.I think
he does it almost everyday too(i always
suspect it this time I know its not me
being paranoid), if u can lie about
something like that u can lie about
anything. It angers me off 2 because I
never lie I tell him everything even when
I know hes going to get pissed(and has no
reasong 2).
I hate liers 
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sparklypixie12
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Posts: 3099
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Posted: 08-23-04 08:48am
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Well in all fairness they're just silly
little lies aren't they? He probably
didn't want to tell you because he didn't
wamt you to ask him loads of questions
about it. I never ask my boyfriend what
people want when they call him-he's
allowed his own life! Has he ever lied to
you about anything serious?
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Shayna
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Jul 2004
Posts: 180
Location: NY
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Posted: 08-23-04 09:02am
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Well he doesnt allow me my own life so why
should I put up with his lieing. I cant
even go shopping with my girl while he's
at work, without getting yelled and him
telling me I cant go, he tells me to just
stay in my house till he gets home from
work, and when I do go out with her I know
its going to make him mad which it
shouldnt but I still tell him the truth!
They arent silly lies to me I think if
anybody can lie like that ((not a white
lie)) then they are backstabbers. I dont
lie to him about annnnything so I expect
the same in return.
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littlehunybunny
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Mar 2004
Posts: 644
Location: Los Angeles California
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Posted: 08-23-04 12:34pm
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I know how you feel. Its like if he can
lie about something so stupid and simple
as that, then what else will he lie about
that isn't so simple? Its a trust issue
now. I know exactly how you feel. But
honestly, is he worth keeping around?? He
is such a controle freak!!!!! He needs a
reality check!! He has no right to tell
you what the heck to do at any time no
matter what!! He is not your darn father!
So he better stop trying to act like
one!!!
Stacey
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babyrae
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Joined: 19 Jan 2004
Posts: 2957
Location: Manitoba, Canada
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Posted: 08-23-04 12:37pm
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Tell him that if he can lie about small
little things like that, then what other
big things does he lie t u about?? Tell
him ur not gonna settle for it.. Next
time u catch him bein all whiny like that
and gettin all pissy so fast, then u know
hes lying about something and say u cant
stay wit a liar becuz there is no trust...
U dont have to put up wit that!
Shauna
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linuxChique
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Posts: 4535
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Posted: 08-23-04 12:51pm
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I agree with babyrae. If you can't trust
him, you have no relationship.
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Shayna
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Joined: 17 Jul 2004
Posts: 180
Location: NY
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Posted: 08-23-04 15:24pm
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He just came over my house like everything
was fine and we got along until the lieing
last night was brought up. He's still
denying it and he left my house all pissy
again he's like "now u can watch me walk
out the door again" he says that I hear
what I want to hear but I know what I
heard last night. And he said I always
get lied to ! And I was like I dont lie
to u and he said I didnt say you do ....He
doesnt make any sense 
Last edited by Shayna on 08-23-04 15:27pm; edited 1 time in total
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linuxChique
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Posted: 08-23-04 15:27pm
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Okaaaay, so he's saying because other
people lie to him, that makes it ok if he
lies to you??? I don't doing it think so!
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Shayna
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
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Posts: 180
Location: NY
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Posted: 08-23-04 15:33pm
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But he says he didnt lie so im really
confused ???
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linuxChique
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Posted: 08-23-04 15:44pm
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Why would he justify lying by saying he
gets lied to all the time? That's really
fishy.
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littlehunybunny
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Mar 2004
Posts: 644
Location: Los Angeles California
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Posted: 08-23-04 22:42pm
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He won't stop lieing, no matter how much
he promices. I know he didn't say he
wouldn't but if he says he won't, don't
believe him. Trust me!
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