My best friend arianne's dad just recently got married and they joined together and made a big family arianne has 2 sisters and her new step mom had 2 daughters... After getting to know her new step mom I got let in on what happened ... (although it was not at birth) bonnie (ariannes step-mom) had a son who died a tradgic death when he was 9 years olds. I know this story may not help and ariannes dad was not involved in bonnies son's life but they also recently just had a baby boy. And bonnie loves that baby with everything she has. Ariannes dad and bonnie had to sit and talk before deciding to have a child but the new baby did not whatso ever replace the child they lost but in a way comforted them for a chance they didnt get to have. I am so very sorry to hear about what happened to your child. And on no possible level could I ever understand what you went thru. But talk to your husband. Let him know how you feel but also understand how he feels. Hes still hurting and chances are hes afraid. But dont give up just because of that. Having another child will not replace or make you forget about your child that you lost. You will always remember and love the baby cherish the life that was lost and forever love the new one you will one day bring into this world.... I hope I helped on any level..

Love, jess

When you talk to your partner you need to be prepared in yourself.
If you go to him and end up almost begging or hyserical, he will not think it a good idea to have another child, but if you can be calm and rational (i'm not saying that will be at all easy) then you have more chance of pointing out the wonderful children you have and that this new baby would not be to replace your son, only to add to your family.
I hope you get your wish and that you can both be happy and peaceful in knowing your son will never know suffering and will wait for you always.