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Q: I Am Concerned
asked by: Laurie39 on August 19th, 2004
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Hi, I am a 39 year old woman, and have been basically a happy fun loving person in my life. I have been depressed before after a break up with a boyfriend, and normal things like that. My concern is that every once in a while, someone will say something that I may not understand even a harmless statement, and a few days later I will start dwelling on it until it controls my mind.. I ususally find a way to snap out of it and I go on with my regular routine and am happy, but im wondering if I may have some sort of chemical imbalance, because when the thougth comes in my head,, its usually a few words someone said,, I will play it over in my head and I can't function like I normally do because I keep thinking about it... In the past few weeks its got to the point were I am depressed, not enjoying doing what I usually do,, and I snap out of it from time to time but the obsessive thought creeps in ,, its like a mind game... I am living with a man,, I moved to michigan from mass a year and a half ago, and I dont want to ruin our relationship because he doesn't understand why I keep dwelling on stupid things, and now im depressed. Does anyone have any advice for me... Its like I won't let myself be happy sometimes and on top of all this, I quit my part time job that I have been at for a year because the new supervisor was a jerk, putting it lightly.. I was happy there, and thats only compounded the problem.. Sad
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qt3
replied on August 20th, 2004
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Re: I Am Concerned
laurie39 wrote:
hi, I am a 39 year old woman, and have been basically a happy fun loving person in my life. I have been depressed before after a break up with a boyfriend, and normal things like that. My concern is that every once in a while, someone will say something that I may not understand even a harmless statement, and a few days later I will start dwelling on it until it controls my mind.. I ususally find a way to snap out of it and I go on with my regular routine and am happy, but im wondering if I may have some sort of chemical imbalance, because when the thougth comes in my head,, its usually a few words someone said,, I will play it over in my head and I can't function like I normally do because I keep thinking about it... In the past few weeks its got to the point were I am depressed, not enjoying doing what I usually do,, and I snap out of it from time to time but the obsessive thought creeps in ,, its like a mind game... I am living with a man,, I moved to michigan from mass a year and a half ago, and I dont want to ruin our relationship because he doesn't understand why I keep dwelling on stupid things, and now im depressed. Does anyone have any advice for me... Its like I won't let myself be happy sometimes and on top of all this, I quit my part time job that I have been at for a year because the new supervisor was a jerk, putting it lightly.. I was happy there, and thats only compounded the problem.. Sad


it sounds like you have a real problem with ruminating over things and this is caused by the thinking errors you are making and probably unaware that you are making because they often come from automatic thoughts we have in our subsconcious. Look into getting involved in cbt. The tools taught in cbt, if practised regularly, will teach you how to think more objectively and learn to stop ruminating and worrying so much. I suffered for years before I learned how to use the cbt tools. My favorite starter book on cbt is "been there, done that? Do this! By sam obitz and many universities offer cbt programs for little or no charge so you may want to call the ones in your area. Good luck!
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silverlou
replied on August 20th, 2004
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I have had a lot of luck with bach flower remedies, they're a complementary therapy, and they work by balancing emotional and mental states. I personally am taking them for pms mood symptoms. I've studied them and am in the process of taking the final level to be certified as a practitioner, if you're interested there are a couple that would be ideal in your situation, to address the mental thoughts going round and round and also the depression.

Louise
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Laurie39
replied on August 22nd, 2004
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I would love to try this. How do I go about getting it.

Thanks for your replies
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qt3
replied on August 31st, 2004
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laurie39 wrote:
i would love to try this. How do I go about getting it.


Thanks for your replies


i think this reply was to silverlou and not me? In case it was to me you can get the obitz book online and you may want to call your local university as many have cbt programs that are little or no charge.

Good luck and I hope you find something that works for you :d

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silverlou
replied on August 31st, 2004
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I did reply to your request about more info on bach remedies, but sent a private message, I hope you got it!


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