Is It Wrong to Try And Get Pregnant Young? (Page 1)

Ummm, if you know that you want a family eventually then I would say that is normal. However, if you are saying right now you want a baby I would question your motives for it and maybe even say you might want to get counseling. Most 17 year olds want to have fun and learn more about themselves. If my little sister came to me at 17 and said she wanted a baby I would tell her that she's too young and that she needs more experience in life. Besides if you're asking us here if it's normal than I think you would know the answer. You shouldn't have to ask if your ready. So with that said don't do it!!!! Wait! You have plenty of time to make babies.

Well, I feel that I am and I was seeking advise.

I understand how you feel. I am also 17 and would love to have a child of my own. Financially I would be able to care for it, however I still have to think of all my future and career plans. I don't want any of those plans to cease because I want a child.

This is what I did- I started working at a daycare center. Where I work, everyone is "assigned" to 3 children throughout the day. However, if one of the children is a newborn, or under a year old, then you are only assigned to 2 children each day. This way, I get the satisfaction of being with children all day long, but yet I still get to send them home with their mommies at night. ... It really worked for me, and now I get the fufillment of having a child!

June4life
that is a very wise move.
I guess its a bit like saying you like carrot cake before you try it and then buying loads only to find out you hate it. You can throw the cake away but if it was a baby you can't.
So in your situation you can "try before you buy" brilliant idea
while a lot of young people become very succesful parents (one plus is you are young enough to enjoy your life afterwards), however I would recommend you attend parenting classes and spend as much time as possible round small children before you commit.
Also it is best if you are in a loving relationship but again many women do a darn fine job single handed.
Do your homework on the subject and if you do decide to go ahead remember to pick a father wisely - after all you will have part of him in your life forever.

I have so many nieces and nephews there is really no more practice or giving babies back to there mommies. I have been around babies for so long and I guess I am now realizing that I want one of my own. Right now I am financally stable enough to care for a child. And the thing is, I don't want to give other people's babies back to there mommies. I want to keep them all night long. I love waking up in the middle of the night to babies crying and having to bathe them and change there diapers. I am a senior this year, so it is not like I am not going to graduate. I can go on and on with reasons I want a baby.

Then pick your baby daddy wisely

I understand that you want a baby, but wanting a baby and needing a baby are two different things. I hear you needing a baby and that's scary to me. Out of all the teens I know that had kids at a young age they all say they wished they would have waited. You haven't even left highshcool yet. You have so much learning to do about life before you should even think about children. As far as advice goes, i'm giving you advice. All these people are telling you to think about things before you jump in. Just because you think you want a baby now doesn't mean by the time you get one you'll be happy. Trust me, my little sister was born when I was sixteen and even though I was so excited to have a little sister she was and is a lot of work. You don't get sleep anymore and she's always needing love and affection as well as patience. It's totally your decision, but I think if you were to have a kid intentionally you would regret it eventually. Why rush you have years ahead of you to have children. Wait atleast a few years.

You should enjoy your youth while you can, hon! Even if you can support a baby financially, they are a whole lot harder to care for than any house pet, and you can't throw them into the corner when you're done playing with them either (haha, wish ya could though!).


Don't be in a rush - you'll have your entire adult life to worry about having kids, but you'll have your youth only once, so savor every second of it, because once you lose a minute or a day or a year, you won't get to relive it.


As long as you know you would be willing to give it the care and nurturing it needs, that is the main concern. I know of many many women around my grandma's neighborhood (not exactly park avenue) who have had their children taken away from them because they hadn't the money to properly care for them or were neglecting them.


But whatever path you choose, I wish you the best of luck and all the world's happiness!


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Scaredbaka - should be a motivational speaker x)

Are you in a serious relationship now? I am only questioning this because i'm sure most guys your age do not feel the same way about starting a family so young, especially intentionally. I understand the wanting of a child, trust me, I would love another one myself. However, at 20 when I had my first child I dont think that it was nearly as easy as I thought it would be. I would never take back having my daughter, but I certainly would have held off a little longer and appreciated my life a little bit more. You would be amazed at how fast a child grows up and ages you, yourself. I especially know that having my daughter young would have been twice as hard without the emotional and financial support of her father, who on sleepless nights took over so I could get at least an hours rest.

You have also said that you are "financially" able to have a child. For a senior you must have a heck of a job-- I don't know of many teens that can afford $30 per week on diapers as well as formula, clothes, and other necessities-- much less the cost of having them. It is unfair to have a child if you cannot actually afford them. ( I know a lot of people will remark to this, but it is true) I know you can "get by" and such... But is that fair?

Take your time to have a family. You may have a child now at a young age, but will someone be there to help you when you need it? Will you change your mind once the novelty of having a "baby" wears out?

Just like june4life, I worked in a nursury for two years, and it was an invaluable experience! Sarah, I really would recommend this. It's a wonderful job, and you learn so much more than you ever knew about babies. I thought I knew a lot too, being the oldest of six children, there were always babies in my life, but trust me there is sooo much more!!! Not only do you learn about the babies, but you learn about parenting methods. Every parent is different, and working in the nursury, I was able to see which methods I liked best. And, as june4life pointed out, you get to give them back to their mommies at the end of the day- which you say now that you don't want, but trust me....

If you don't like that idea, why not think about becoming a live in nanny after you graduate? Nannies actually get paid quite a bit- especially live in- and you wouldn't have to part with the baby at the end of the day.

It's definately you're choice in the end, but think about things a bit cuz it's a big choice, and as was said before, pick your baby daddy very carefully!!!!!

-eff

Hi, I am sarah's sister. She must have done this while she was staying at my house the other night. I stumbled upon this in my history trail. I am absolutly stunned and speechless to read this. Let me tell you a few things about her, and maybe you can talk her into not ruining her life.

She is 15 years old, and a freshman in high school.

She lives with her mother, and does not have a job.

She smokes and drinks very often.

She also does not even have a boyfriend.

Please try to explain to her that this isn't the right choice. I am done talking to her....

Well, whether she is 15 or 17, I would say that no, she does not need to have a child right now. I am 17 years old myself, 18 next month, and i'm 6 weeks & 3 days pregnant. My boyfriend is 16. We're not ready to have a child, but guess what? We took the risk of not using protection, so now we have to accept what's happened. Don't get me wrong, I am very excited about the baby, I just don't think early parenthood is for everyone.

Could I suggest that if your sister ever does get a boyfriend, you warn him about this? Because otherwise he might find himself a father rather sooner than maybe he wants, so that way if hedid get involved he would know that he needs to be very very careful and that if she has an "accident" it might not really be.

I am 17 years old and the mother of a 2 month old baby girl! Its not all fun and games! Yes, shes beautiful! But shes a handful and then some! From what ive read ur not ready for a child..I thought I was and got pregnant and its not what I thought it would b, but im a mother now, and I take to my responsibilites. I love her with all my heart, but I simply wasnt ready when I thought I was. I would say get a job at a daycare like the others said, but ur not even old enough to do that yet!

Your simply n.O.T. R.E.A.D.Y! Even though u think you are.

I am 17 as well and want a child, however my boyfriend keeps saying wait until you're 18! I think it's natural, like some women a this natural motherly instinct at a young age. Or maybe, it could be a insecurity that you have and you want to be love and in knowing that you're child will love you, makes you want one! That is just my opinion and my suggestion to you would be... Make sure the guy you have your baby with is the right one because, girl your going to owe your baby to befriend this guy for the rest of your life!

Obviously if your sister has to lie about her age and decides to come on this forum and ask if it's wrong to want a baby at a young age than she obviously isn't ready to be a mom. Not that I would need that proof to figure it out, but I hope she realizes how immature she's being.

I am a 16-year-old mother of a 2-year-old daughter, amari.

I was 14 when I got pregnant with her, it is very hard to be a teen mother.

I wish I would have waited becuz now I can't do what a normal teen gets to do, I had to grow up very fast. Now I have to work, do school, and take care of a baby. Juggling all those gets very stressful.

Take my advice and wait until your older...

As long as your financially and emotionally ready you can have a child. But make sure its with someone who sticks to your side and is there for you. Sorry to the girl who lied and also trevino? I made alllot of money in highschool i'd come home with like 450$ average a week if not more so dont dis on that.