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Q: Bad Mother...need Opinion...pretty Long

asked by: nikki_caro on August 16th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

Ok there is this girl living at my moms with her 2 boys. Jeremy-7 and julian-3. The boys kinda irritate me cuz they eat so much but they are pretty behaved. Ok so anyways the mom is not a good mother. She rarely watches the boys because she parties alot and shes into her own thing. So we watch the boys and cook for them and stuff. But when they act up we call the mom. Her name is gabby. So 2 weeks ago gabby kicked her husband out for not giving her money. (she kicked him out of my moms) they are very disfunctional. She cheats and he has some other girl pregnant but shes supposedly getting an abortion. So the same day gabby kicked jeff out she went to go have sex with chris. And left my sister babysitting again. So then the next day shes talking to mike. Some other guy. And then she still sees jeff. Is this confusing yet? Well she drinks *alot* and parties alot still. Well the other night, saturday gabby my sis angela and some guy go out drinking. Well they get home at about 2 or 3 am and angela was taking the guy home. Gabby was drunk but said she was going to see chris. Angela said no because shes drunk and has no licence. Well gabby changes her underwear and takes off anyways. So she takes off and runs her car off the freeway and crashes into some bushes. She flees the car and calls jeff and angela. So jeff calls my mom to meet him to look for her. Well the cops are at the car and no gabby. So they are searching then the cops question them. The find gabby sleeping on the sidewalk under the drivethru window of carls jr. So they wake her up and she gets arrested. Jeff thought she was taking off to see him though. To cut this short, she wants to go back to my moms with the boys and jeff to have a family life. My mom doesnt know what to do. Seems like she will go back to her old ways again. So she doesnt know to kick her out or to let her stay there but she will have alot of rules. My question (finally) is should my mom take them back in or should she end the drama with this girl? She is being released today and she might have a court date soon. But im not sure what my moms gonna do...

Replies(10)

sparklypixie12

replied on August 16th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

Omg those kids need to be taken off her-she is a bad mom. Your mom needs to ditch these people because its not fair that all this trouble is coming to her doorstep.Doesnt this girl have a family or people she can go to? Do you have hostels over there that take in mothers & their children? All I know is that if your mom takes them back things wont change-this girl will probably continue with her old ways when really she needs to sort out her life & get help

tweety12986

replied on August 16th, 2004

Active User, very eHealthy

Thats horrible... I hate to hear about those kids situation, but your mom needs to get her out of the house... I am pretty sure this is a wake up call for gabby, but then again it might not be, and your mom doesnt need any added stress on her. Someone should take gabby's kids and she should join aa or something cuz thats pretty bad.

nikki_caro

replied on August 16th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

Thats the thing. She had an apartment and got kicked out. Shes outdone her stay *everywhere* no one wants to take her in. And the only reason my mom wants to is because of the boys. They are good kids and will have no where to go. My mom is the only family life they have. Gabby said she wants to change and start acting like a family but she needs help. So my mom is gonna take her back on certain restrictions.

-her rent will go up to cover utilities
-she has to use up all her foodstamps at my moms house (she gets like 250 but she only gave my mom 100 for groceries)
-she has to clean daily, no eating in the rooms
-she needs to find a job near home and will not be allowed to buy a car ever again, she will have to buy a bike
-she must cut all contacts with those guys she used to sleep with
-she needs to pay attention to her boys by spending more time with them
-she needs to go to church, she doesnt have to go to ours but my mom says she needs .God in her life

those will be her rules, she either takes them or she doesnt. My mom wants to help but she said she does not want to be up from 3 to 6am searching for her when she runs her car off the freeway

tweety12986

replied on August 16th, 2004

Active User, very eHealthy

Those sound like pretty easy simple rules to live by if she screws that up she needs serious help

nikki_caro

replied on August 16th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

Oh yeah gabby was going to aa, this is her second dui. Shes on probation too. She was recently in jail, like a few months ago and she went in again. The judge might give her more time we arent sure yet. Oh and also, when the cops questioned gabby, she tried to blame it on my sister!Hahaha that was funny. She kept saying, it was angela driving the car! She crashed it! Not me!!! And angela was like "i was in the other side of town it wasnt me!" haha.

smith8500

replied on August 16th, 2004

Especially eHealthy

Hey

Oh wow! Nikki! Sounds crazy. Tell your mom to stick to those rules because this chic has some issues and if this dosen't change, your mom is only gonna get hurt too when those boys either get hurt or taken away......... Tell your mom to stay strong. It's hte only way this chic might change!

nikki_caro

replied on August 16th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

Hopefully she really does. Shes too outta control. She needs someone to put her back in line. And that would be my mom. Everyone else gave up on her. I tell my mom to stick to it and be hard on her. Just like she was with me. I said dont be cutting her slack, she wants to stay there she better listen!! Lol. Hopefully she does.

The boys are cute, ill take pics when I see them. One of em I call him jr. He always hugs me and clings to me, and im like ugh go away! Lol so he goes and clings to my other sister, he can be a big brat too but its funny. My mom calls him gordito (which is like chubby boy) cuz he eats and eats and eats. Anytime you have food hes like "whats that?!" and he will stare at you till you offer him some! And jeremy is very helpful and such a good boy. We like him alot. And hes close to kristen too.

I call my moms house the daycare center lol. Too many kids there! Lol

sweetsuzi

replied on August 16th, 2004

Active User, very eHealthy

Your mum needs to kick that girl out the house, but I bet shes worried about the boys. What would happen to them. That girl needs a good
f%&ckin slap and her eyes opened. It's like shes just using your mum.

2ferano

replied on August 16th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

First of all, why is this girl living with your mom anyway? Is she family? Obviously this girl has serious issues and she should be turned into the state and her kids should be taken away from her. That may sound harsh, but she has no right to have children.
If what she did wasn't enough then the fact that she tried to blame your sister should definately be. Your mom really needs to ditch her. Maybe your mom should tell her that she will take care of the boys, but that she needs to go somewhere else.

linuxChique

replied on August 16th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

End it! She needs rehab or "parenting for dummies" or something! Wow.

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