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When do you think a child should give up their pacifier?
Age is irrelevant, the child will give it up when they are ready
12 mos or sooner
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three years
infants should never use pacifiers
12 mos or sooner
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three years
infants should never use pacifiers
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Okay, I have to admit, I have issues with binkies. More specifically, I have issues with binkies (pacifiers) that are in the mouths of children older than one. I hate walking into a store and seeing a child three years old with a binky.. I want to steal it and run! I tell my husband, if I ever get ocd, I guaruntee it will be manifest in randomly stealing children's binkies.
Does anyone else have feelings on this issue? How old is too old for a pacifier?? Do you think it is healthier for a child to become emotionally attatched to a teddy bear or blankie, or is that the same as a pacifier? When do you feel it is okay to use a binky? I use them as last resort, if nothing else eases the child, or only when they are sleeping (i gradually ween them off of the need to use a pacifier for naps as they get closer to one- the parents I work with love this method, and I have them thanking me all the time for it) maybe i'm too gusto about the anti-binky thing, but I want to hear other peoples opinions. For those who don't use pacifiers, how do you calm your baby?
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Okay, I have to admit, I have issues with binkies. More specifically, I have issues with binkies (pacifiers) that are in the mouths of children older than one. I hate walking into a store and seeing a child three years old with a binky.. I want to steal it and run! I tell my husband, if I ever get ocd, I guaruntee it will be manifest in randomly stealing children's binkies.
Does anyone else have feelings on this issue? How old is too old for a pacifier?? Do you think it is healthier for a child to become emotionally attatched to a teddy bear or blankie, or is that the same as a pacifier? When do you feel it is okay to use a binky? I use them as last resort, if nothing else eases the child, or only when they are sleeping (i gradually ween them off of the need to use a pacifier for naps as they get closer to one- the parents I work with love this method, and I have them thanking me all the time for it) maybe i'm too gusto about the anti-binky thing, but I want to hear other peoples opinions. For those who don't use pacifiers, how do you calm your baby?
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Before I had my daughter (she's 16) I swore I would never use a "dummy" as they're called here but "little madam" had her own ideas - so she had a dummy but she also decided that she no longer wanted one by about 7 months - again all on her own - thank god she didn't want one much longer as I hate them.
My son(9) was never that interested in them & never after about 6 months.
I loathe seeing kids older than 1 maybe 1 1/2 with them but I also loathe seeing kids this age who can not be without some filthy toy or blankie - both of mine still love to have a cuddly toy (yes even the 16 year old who is at university!!) in bed sometimes (caps) I guess when they feel sick or lonely or scared. But never have or did they drag them around.
Beyond all else though when it comes to dummies I hate seeing parents pick them up off the ground & put them back in the child's mouth or let an older child do it for themselves even if the parent sucks it clean - gross foul & it should be banned.
My son(9) was never that interested in them & never after about 6 months.
I loathe seeing kids older than 1 maybe 1 1/2 with them but I also loathe seeing kids this age who can not be without some filthy toy or blankie - both of mine still love to have a cuddly toy (yes even the 16 year old who is at university!!) in bed sometimes (caps) I guess when they feel sick or lonely or scared. But never have or did they drag them around.
Beyond all else though when it comes to dummies I hate seeing parents pick them up off the ground & put them back in the child's mouth or let an older child do it for themselves even if the parent sucks it clean - gross foul & it should be banned.
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I would agree with what both of you are saying. My little sister probably used her binkin till she was almost two. I didn't like how my mom would just let her suck on it all day. Besides chances are if your kid is using a binkin past the age of one they probably have some emotional issue. Either it's the only security they have or it's just a habit now and the parents haven't taken it away. However when comes to blankets that kids are attached to I think it's sooo important to let your child have that. My mom took mine away that I had had for years. I was six or seven I think, but I was devastated and still to this day I get on her case about it. It's harmless to have a blanket or something around whereas binki's can cause dental problems. I was probably an insecure child seeing as my mom had to work all the time and my dad was never around so the closest thing to security I had was my blanket. Anyways just thought i'd put my two cents in.
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Yes, I do agree about a child sometimes needing a blanket or cuddly toy - I just hate it when the parents let it get filthy & the child is cuddling this filthy dirty thing - I mean they can (caps) be washed!!
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Oh yeah, and then they still have it when they are twelve and it's thilthy dirty. Yeah that's gross!
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Ok so now I know what a binky is! 
i hate seeing kids (toddlers) with them in their mouths all day especially when they try to talk round it while holding it in their teeth!
I think it becomes habit and if you can prevent the habit, or a least minimise it, that you will reduce the need for them to have something in their mouth when they are older, be that food or cigarettes!!!!!!!
Oooh and filthy blankets and toys
I remember helping my nan peg my toys up by their ears on the washing line many times 
i hate seeing kids (toddlers) with them in their mouths all day especially when they try to talk round it while holding it in their teeth!
I think it becomes habit and if you can prevent the habit, or a least minimise it, that you will reduce the need for them to have something in their mouth when they are older, be that food or cigarettes!!!!!!!
Oooh and filthy blankets and toys
I remember helping my nan peg my toys up by their ears on the washing line many times
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My son uses one but right now he chews on it more than anything. Its a soothie and he's teething and if its something that comforts him during this time i'm all for it.
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I work in childcare so I see kids 0-2 years of age with a binky. I think its ok when they are newborns but once you give it to them its hard to take it away all a binky does is keeps the kids from crying they are a life saver in childcare a kid crys and you sick that in there mouth they stop. They are very dirty too! In daycare everyone but your kid uses your childs binky they like to share it! I say its up to the parents but you know when you give it to them they most likly will use if for a long time best bet is not use them. My neice used one till she was 1 she is 6 now and sucks her thumb.
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| chipsmom wrote: |
| my son uses one but right now he chews on it more than anything. Its a soothie and he's teething and if its something that comforts him during this time i'm all for it. |
probably the most vaild reason for having one
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I think a lot of it depends on the kid. My nephew didn't care for it so he never used it. My little sister really could use it as a baby. I think as long as they can get along for the most part without it than they probably won't even need it. The kids that do use it for a long time have some sort of security thing going on. I think they are fine as long as you don't overdo it.
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Afetr the first three months the babies urge and need to suckpretty much stops. So the really dont need one. It will be easier to get rid of it. After this time it is more a habit. nothing is worse then having to get up 20 times a night to put the darn thing back in their mouth. They will learn to soothe themselves alot quicker without this good luck everyone
nothing is worse then having to get up 20 times a night to put the darn thing back in their mouth. They will learn to soothe themselves alot quicker without this good luck everyone
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Ok, I don't really see what the big deal is. My son has his "bupie" until he was 3. I never let it get all nasty and if it was dropped, it didn't go back in his mouth until it was washed. Children who use pacifiers that long don't necessarily have emotional issues, as one person stated. It's called a security item. And snatching a security item away from a child before they're ready *can* cause emotional issues.
Now about the "oral fixation" thing, think about this; as a baby and into my toddler years, I never had a pacifier or sucked my thumb. My mom told me I just wasn't interested. So no oral fixation as a child....But i've been a smoker for 8 years. My husband, on the other hand, had a pacifier until he was a toddler...Was very attached to it. And he has no oral fixation whatsoever now.
My younger brother is taking a psychology class and is learning about oral fixation. He said mine might be due to the fact that I breastfed until I was 18 months old. Seriously....So if you're going to blame future oral fixations on pacifiers, you can go right ahead and blame breastfeeding, too.
Now about the "oral fixation" thing, think about this; as a baby and into my toddler years, I never had a pacifier or sucked my thumb. My mom told me I just wasn't interested. So no oral fixation as a child....But i've been a smoker for 8 years. My husband, on the other hand, had a pacifier until he was a toddler...Was very attached to it. And he has no oral fixation whatsoever now.
My younger brother is taking a psychology class and is learning about oral fixation. He said mine might be due to the fact that I breastfed until I was 18 months old. Seriously....So if you're going to blame future oral fixations on pacifiers, you can go right ahead and blame breastfeeding, too.
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| katiekaboom wrote: |
| it's called a security item. |
only insecure kids need security items, if it has become that then you kid is in effect addicted to it's binkie/bupie/blankie no kid should be dependent on an item for security that should come from mom/dad/family
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My 3 week old baby isn't insecure. I haven't left his side and don't let him cry. I've read that babys don't start developing bad habits until 4 months old. Babys in the womb suck to self sooth and I use the bink as a last resort. As a newborn a parents job is to make your baby as secure, comfortable and loved as possible. I play womb sounds for him when hes fussy to make him as secure as he was inside me. I plan syu 3 months to ween him off of it. But for now baby gets what baby wants
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only insecure kids need security items, if it has become that then you kid is in effect addicted to it's binkie/bupie/blankie no kid should be dependent on an item for security that should come from mom/dad/family |
sometimes security items help. I know I have one. I've had it since I was a kid. It's not something that I depend on so much that I can never be without it, but it's something I don't plan on getting rid of. And i'm almost 19. I have an old doll blanket tha for some reason just makes me feel better when i'm sick or whatever. It's not like I drag it around, but i've often slept with it covering my pillow. It's just something from my childhood that is old and familiar and makes me feel safe for some reason. I could do without it (which I do most of the time since I don't live at home much anymore) but I choose to keep it because it's a part of my past. I'm not dependent on it, it's just something I like to keep.
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Thats fair enough but I see kids who drop their filthy grubby blanky they have been draggin round and mom doesn't notice til the next ailse and all hel| breaks loose cuz they can't find the blanky, so the kid won't settle at home and won't go to sleep and all sorts.
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That's kind of a narrow-minded view to have on it. I've seen some pretty secure kids with favorite security items. Just because some children are unhealthily attached to certain items means that no child should be allowed to have a favorite blankie/paci/stuffed animal? Pretty bleak. Bottom line; not *all* children who have a security item have emotional security problems. You can be the most caring, attentive parent in the free world and your child may still have on certain anxiety inducing aspect of their life and they want something to comfort them. Just because a child *wants* to carry around a blankie or other such item doesn't mean they're messed in the head or the parent's are bad.
We as adults have things we do for security, as well. Biting our nails, twirling our hair, smoking, drinking. These are all things done to make one feel more in control and secure.
We as adults have things we do for security, as well. Biting our nails, twirling our hair, smoking, drinking. These are all things done to make one feel more in control and secure.
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I think you are twisting what I am saying.
The original post asked for opinions. That's my opinion - not what is right or wrong but how I see it.
Niether me or my brothers had any of the "offending" items.
I had a pink dog for bed time but he stayed in bed - I wasn't allowed him anywhere else - made sure he never got lost that way and my nan put him in the wash at least once a fortnight.
I just hate seeing kids with filthy grubby dirty blankies and I hate seeing kids who just chew on a dummy/binkie while trying to talk around it - wouldn't be so bad if they took it out to talk instead of trying to talk out of one side of their mouth while chewing on the thing.
The original post asked for opinions. That's my opinion - not what is right or wrong but how I see it.
Niether me or my brothers had any of the "offending" items.
I had a pink dog for bed time but he stayed in bed - I wasn't allowed him anywhere else - made sure he never got lost that way and my nan put him in the wash at least once a fortnight.
I just hate seeing kids with filthy grubby dirty blankies and I hate seeing kids who just chew on a dummy/binkie while trying to talk around it - wouldn't be so bad if they took it out to talk instead of trying to talk out of one side of their mouth while chewing on the thing.
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Ok, so then that's a problem with the parent's, not the child. I understand what you're saying...Because it is kind of nasty to see that. We made our son take his paci out to talk and he wasn't allowed to drag his blankie around with him unless it was to his grandma's house or something. Definitely not to the store.
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Ok finally people feel the same I have 2 children one is 4 he used his binky til he was about 8 months old and I have a 4 month old who is using one but my brother-in-law is going on 6 he still has one when he sleeps I can't stand it I just want to throw it away and my mother-in-law has no problem with it.... Ugh it drives me nuts..He has to go everywhere with it. And my 4 year old looks at him like "what are you doing with that thing in your mouth"
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I hate pacifiers!! My nephew who is 2 1/2 years old still sucks on one! I tell my sister (the mom) that he doesn't need it and she says don't tell me how to raise my kid. So whatever...My mom (the grandmother) also lets him use one. I think that its okay to give a newborn up to 3 mos. A pacifier cuz they don't really get teeth till then, do they? But then it'd be hard to get the baby off it. So whenever I have my first child, i'm not going to give him/her a pacifier. I don't know thats just what I think..Does anyone think that too?
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Thanx,
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