My Husband Is Going to War In Iraq Posted: 08-05-04 14:17pm
Hi i'am only 16 years old and married with
a baby girl. My life was perfect until my
husband enlisted in the army. Recently
he was based in south korea and about
three days after he got there we found out
he was going to iraq. Does any one have
any suggestions on how to cope with this?
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bd1012
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Posted: 08-05-04 14:27pm
Did he tell you he was going to do that?
That's awful, I wish you the best of luck.
I wish him luck too.
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Jamie2006
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? Posted: 08-05-04 14:29pm
My brother just got back from iraq. He
has just barly gotten married and then had
to leave. I think that you should go live
with your parents assuming the
relationship with them is good. However I
am guessing no since you are 16 and
married with a kid. That is very young to
be starting a family. Anyway, you need
support that is why I think if you are
close with your mom and dad live with them
until your hubby comes back. My brothers
wife almost did that (and she is in her
20's) but decided not to because that
meant breaking a lease. She didn't have a
kid though. You are in a heart breaking
situation I understand but I think most
importantly because you are so young and
have a lot going on right now you should
stay with someone that can help take care
of you and the baby.
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BaronessDelerium
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Well I Just Found Out the Same. Posted: 04-05-05 04:53am
I am 20 years old. I just found out my
husband is going to iraq. Although I knew
it was probably going to happen, when it
gets to me, I just think about the money,
oh the money - and my husbands a smart
man, he will survive. See, I told him
that if he doesn't come back to me fully
functional mentally and physically i'd
beat his ass... (was a joke though) and
that if he didn't come back alive... Then
when I died, i'd haunt him for the rest of
eternity. :)
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lizzardlips
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In the Military Posted: 04-09-05 10:38am
The military offeres plenty of family
services for this sort of deal. They
offer support groups and other things like
that. The military is all about
supporting the family. It doesnt sound
like he volunteered for it. So dont feel
like he was trying keeping it from you. I
hope that both of you understood that
joining the military at this time meant
that deployment was a high possibility.
Its just one of those things people should
talk about before joining.
I am currently in kuwait right now and the
guys that I see coming in and out of this
place seem to be in high morale. I am not
going to lie and say everything is going
to be ok... But the chances of him being
ok is very high. Have hope in that.
Write to him a lot. There will be times
where they get internet access so use the
email too. If he comes back a little
strange the military helps out with that
as well.
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CPL_JJ
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Posted: 07-06-05 16:36pm
skar
wrote:
oh my have you run out of
new insults you prick? This is the
second time you have posted that in less
than half hour.
What is up have you no teens to harrass
you freak?
i just copied and pasted that because I
have already deemed this a waste of my
time, and just trying to correct idiots
with lightning speed.
Skar, are you gonna do something about it
or not? I'm still waiting for you to kick
my ass, as you suggested in the other
post.
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mrswilson
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Posted: 07-06-05 16:43pm
My husband just left for kuwait 2 weeks
ago for 6 months and we're newlyweds hang
in there and tell yourself how good it
will be when he gets back take care of
your baby and think of the money he's
making while over there, it'll get you
ahead. Write him and pray for him and
with him daily. God will take care of all
of you if you believe and hand it over to
him.
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ArmyWife
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Posted: 07-06-05 17:28pm
My husband just got back from being in
korea for a year. And now he has to go to
iraq for a year. What helped me was all
the support on post and my family and
friends. I wish yall well and will keep
you and your family in my thoughts and
prayers!
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 07-06-05 18:22pm
It will be ok. My husband is in the
marine corps and has already completed two
tours to iraq. My advise, get a good
support system ie family, friends, other
military wives. Also keep busy,
remember as much as we love our husbands (
which trust me I know we do ) we cannot
let our lives be centered around them.
Our lives must go on, we are the real
heros of these wars, we are the ones who
support these men and our families. Its
hard but trust me after the first couple
weeks it will get better
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 07-06-05 18:29pm
By the way this cpl guy ( and yes hes not
in the service he just thinks its a cool
name or something) says the same exact
thing to everyone he insults ie the fresh
face in the porn industry ect. If he
knew anything about bah and how military
life works he'd shut his mouth. Our
husbands get off base allowance or we can
live on base for free. They get paid
more for every dependent they have.
Children, wife so on. We have free
medical insurance called tri care. We are
not on wel fare we have insurance through
the government. It kills me to know that
it is suckers like you that the brave men
and women of this country fight for.
You are an idiotic person who needs to
know what he is talking about before he
opens his mouth.
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CPL_JJ
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Posted: 07-06-05 18:30pm
vanessalouanne
wrote:
by the way this cpl guy (
and yes hes not in the service he just
thinks its a cool name or something) says
the same exact thing to everyone he
insults ie the fresh face in the porn
industry ect. If he knew anything about
bah and how military life works he'd shut
his mouth. Our husbands get off base
allowance or we can live on base for free.
They get paid more for every dependent
they have. Children, wife so on. We
have free medical insurance called tri
care. We are not on wel fare we have
insurance through the government. It
kills me to know that it is suckers like
you that the brave men and women of this
country fight for. You are an idiotic
person who needs to know what he is
talking about before he opens his
mouth.
hahahahahahahah
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 07-06-05 18:37pm
So tell me about the insurance us military
wives have you seem to know all about it
right?
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 07-06-05 18:45pm
So what your saying is that military wives
insurance depends on wheter or not our
husbands opt for sglit or state sponsered
*life* insurance...Hmm actually that is
completly off the topic im talking about
medical insurance dependents recieve life
insurance doesn't even come into play with
this topic, I guess that was the quickest
thing that you could find on google wasnt
it.
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 07-06-05 18:54pm
Good thing your not trying to prove
anything to me. Also my husbands done
going to iraq and gets out of the service
in 2 months (by the way no kids and he's
an e7. ) but thanks for the *support*
sweetheart! :wink:
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CPL_JJ
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Posted: 07-06-05 19:06pm
vanessalouanne
wrote:
good thing your not trying
to prove anything to me. Also my
husbands done going to iraq and gets out
of the service in 2 months (by the way no
kids and he's an e7. ) but thanks for
the *support* sweetheart!
:wink:
i'm glad I don't have to go to iraq,
although I was in afghanistan from sep
2003 to feb 2004.
Afghanistan is a paradise compared to
iraq, or so I hear. Car bombings daily,
sweltering heat and a lack of local
support do not make for a very good
experience.
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 07-06-05 19:14pm
I'm glad I don't have to go to iraq,
although I was in afghanistan from sep
2003 to feb 2004.
Afghanistan is a paradise compared to
iraq, or so I hear. Car bombings daily,
sweltering heat and a lack of local
support do not make for a very good
experience.
Then you should know how tough it is for
us back at home to know that our loved
ones are going through that. We should
support each other and not tell others
that we hope that their husbands die. I
respect each and every person in the
military or associated with it until they
give me reason not to. Why are you being
so cruel to this little girl who is scared
and alone if you personally know the hell
hole that these people go into. We dont
need anymore enemies and we dont need to
fight battles with each other. But you
better be damn sure that if you talk sh*t
about my husband, brothers,
brother-in-laws or my friends that are
risking their lives that you will get a
fight as I hope I would get from you if I
did the same. All im asking you is to
show a little bit of respect.
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CPL_JJ
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Posted: 07-06-05 19:43pm
vanessalouanne
wrote:
i'm glad I don't have to go
to iraq, although I was in afghanistan
from sep 2003 to feb 2004.
Afghanistan is a paradise compared to
iraq, or so I hear. Car bombings daily,
sweltering heat and a lack of local
support do not make for a very good
experience.
Then you should know how tough it is for
us back at home to know that our loved
ones are going through that. We should
support each other and not tell others
that we hope that their husbands die.
I respect each and every person in the
military or associated with it until they
give me reason not to. Why are you
being so cruel to this little girl who is
scared and alone if you personally know
the hell hole that these people go into.
We dont need anymore enemies and we dont
need to fight battles with each other.
But you better be damn sure that if you
talk sh*t about my husband, brothers,
brother-in-laws or my friends that are
risking their lives that you will get a
fight as I hope I would get from you if I
did the same. All im asking you is to
show a little bit of
respect.
do you have any idea what we go
through?!
I had to shoot over 1,000 rounds in the
dark, at an enemy that can't be heard or
seen, with little or no sleep. These guys
have no uniform, they use civilian houses
as protection, and on top of that attack
without warning and with explosive fire
bombs. Do you remember what you were
doing on oct 12, 2003? Well, I know what
I was doing, I was running for my life,
because a homemade bomb made up of a glass
jar, gun powder and nails almost wen't off
3 feet beside me. A year before I was
still at base camp in my hometown, itching
to see some action. Later that november
2003, I got a taste of what war is really
like, it's not a glorious hero maker as
some movies may depict it as.
I, along with 14 other members of my
squad, were ordered to do a ransack search
of a suspected terrorist stronghold in the
city of jalalabad.
I'll spare you the details, but I ended
shooting and killing a man as he reached
for his pistol. He was wearing a calvin
klein t-shirt, tatterted cargo pants and
old, nike shoes, similar to the way people
dress here. He was just a kid,
brainwashed into thinking that you'll go
to the great garden in the sky if you harm
civilians in the name of allah. After
that, I decided to stay out of the front
lines untill we left in december. I left
the military "for personal reasons" in
february 2004, but i'm still able to be
recalled into service if they feel that my
reasons were not valid.
To actually see up close, and witness what
I had done changed me forever, so you can
understand why I might be a little cranky
and rude, as I have experienced firsthand
what humans are possible of.
Someday, your husband will share his
horror stories with you too.
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Posted: 07-07-05 11:24am
You think what you saw was rough? You
think that your the only one who has seen
these types of things? My husband is
0311 in the marines sweetheart now while I
am not going to try to play the who has
the bigger balls game I will tell you
this, my husband has been through a lot
over there. I said he only did two tours
while I was with him. Hes been over a
total of four times . I know he has
killed men and he has the burns on his
arms and stomach to show he knows about
thoes home made bombs. Out of the 453
men who left for iraq last time only 269
came back. My best friend had her arm
blown off in a convoy. My brother in law
is in iraq right now. My brother a lt.
Who is a ranger with the 82nd leaves in
two months. My little brother just came
home. I know what yall see over there so
dont you dare talk to me like I think its
easy for people out there. All im saying
is that if you have gone through this sh*t
and I dont really care if you couldn't
handle it and had to leave for "personal
reasons". Obviously if you taken it then
you shouldnt say these awful things to
other people. What makes you so much
better that you have the right to say that
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janeysuz
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fool America. I Am Canadian And doing it Pround of It!! Posted: 07-13-05 13:21pm
Good thing were I live we don't have these
problems. Honestly, what's
wrong with america? I don't
support the war and i'm far from being
'just' proud of it. Dammit, you
americans are really something else, arn't
ya? Here in canada, we are
respected worldwide!! You know
why? Here's why: throughout the
majority of 'american' history, you have
assumed, you hear that? You
people have assumed that war is the
'only', I repeat, only way to deal with
things. You people are
literally throwing yourselves into certain
countries unleashing nothing but pure
chaos. God!! To be
honest once again (since that's the kind
of person I am), while being utterly
frustrated at times with you people, it's
quite funny nonetheless. I mean
what could possibly be more hilarious than
you people walking around while wondering
about such idiotic things? For
example, you still believe it's ok to sit
on your ass and wonder as to exactly why
most of the world hates you so much!!
Really now, you people asking such
questions only makes us as canadians think
you're a bunch of fruits that make it seem
as though your i.Q. Levels
couldn't possibly be any larger than
fourty. It kinda makes me
wonder if the majority of america is
semi-braindead or mentally handicap or
unstable to certain extents. I
got one word and one word only to express
how I feel about americans: idiots!!
The world hates your guts because you
are known worldwide for promoting war.
Canada is a peace keeping coutry,
and when it comes to terrorism, we
compromise, set deals abroad, make
friends, etc. Now you stupid
americans are probably thinking that we
only do this because were actually afraid
of war. Afraid of war?
what?! No, you see (considering
canadians actually have brains and are
intelligent enough to realise that
violence is no way to solve things), we do
this because it's the smart, not to
mention right thing to do. You
ever heard of the saying 'keep your
friends close, but your enemies closer.'?
Now look at us, we're canada for
crying out loud. We are
currently respected in such a way that
america is forced to stare in shame and
utter distrait. We would try
negotiating if caught in the path of
terrorism. Not just doing it
charge with numerious amounts of weapons.
Hence, they become even more
pissed resulting in a decrease of
america's popularity. Which as
of now is pretty hurt. Damn,
you people can't even spell words such as
colour, humour, or anything else that does
'not' end with just an 'o', but an 'ou'.
Awww. Brain (if americans actually
have one, which they don't) having a hard
time processing the extra vowel? You
people are losers. It's sad. You
know, my british friend was totally right
and I didn't doubt him for a split second
(or in this case, possibly a quarter or
even a fraction of a second) as he quoted
in reference to americans: "canadians are
more down to earth and not as stupid."
science also backs me up on this.
Professionals within the field don't
occasionally pass down bs.
Canada is far more intelligent.
Which is also quite sad seeing as how
america's population is extended far over
our's and there is believe it or not (due
to governmental facts and all of that
other political/economical logic) more
poverty and higher tax rates throughout
our system. Seriously, your
well-known passion for violence in modern
times just comes to show why smart people
like us still wonder as to why you keep
relying on such pathetic stratigics via
terrorism and whatnot. Sure,
you can go right ahead and say i'm
verbally attacking your country.
What do I care? Afterall, why
should I lean repect towards a country
that's going to soon be the number one
cause for global warming? Don't
get smart. You know exactly
what I mean by that. Wait ago
you stupid, oil built unions!!
Ever seen the movie 'day after tomorrow'?
You're damn right sh*t like that
is possible (maybe not as harsh-flown, but
still a huge threat) in reality.
I mean c'mon!! After every
war-related thing in which you people have
participated in so far throughout global
history (excluding world war 1 & 2),
despite wanting to hear the truth, that
truth (like it or not; believe it or not)
is for every one positive that you have
gained, you have been extracted negativity
in the coarse of multiplication by two.
Face the facts, you people are
more hurt nowadays than so-called, and I
quote out of my own descriptive prior to
issue at subject 'the country of heroes'.
Like i've mentioned earlier,
idiots!! I guess you people
truly are stupid... Seeing as
how you obviously (or actually?) think
war/terrorism and ruthless crime
throughout the country (m*rder for that
matter) is relavent in any way possible to
your so-called claims of being the best in
the world, heroes, etc. How
wrong you are. Then again, and
I do apologize to those americans for
which do not possess a strong stomach or
as to whether this may offend, but like
i've said quite a few times now seperatly,
here's my diagnosis on america full
throttle: you people are idiots, pathetic
and sad. You have major issues
and alot of problems which need to be
worked out and are politically corrupt
seeing as how I do tend to watch cnn
sometimes. Yes. You
heard correctly. We too, as the
rest of the world get that channel.
Another example of the average
american or better put, the average
american prior to being a complete health
question: america thinks they are the only
ones who are watching their own, forgive
me but this next word relates to the
meaning of truth and fact, corrupt, yet,
boring as hell news. Believe
me, with canadian news there's at least
somewhat of a decent percentage of news
(local, national, global). With
canada, you may hear about homicide from
time to time, and that i'm willing to
admit. But when you flick the
channel over to the us of retarded a's,
it's nothing more, no really, absolutly
nothing more than warefare/terrorism and
reports about blank blank m*rdering blank
blank jr. ('constant' m*rder,
and it isn't always your typical
gang-related case) these trends seem to
reign supreme within your country.
Sh*t, this has got to be the reason as
to why at least three/fourths of americans
lack a revolutionary brain.
This may make no sence, but as far as i'm
concerned, i'd 'have' to be breaking at
least one law of physics if to come up
with a better conclusion. Hence if you
will, my very own metaphore. And what's
this whole obesity thing?
Shouldn't people care less about those who
for some reason tend to find big macs
and/or quarter pounders with cheese
sexually attractive? What a
grose, not to mention humourous
combination. But then again,
what do you expect from fat or overweight
people anyway? Possession of large rolls
and flabby obliques are key when one is
obese. Lol with those who cannot
help it, obesity is a disease.
But other than that minor, yet, simple
factor of obesity, the fda are nothing
more than a group of quiffers who have
brains with the capacity to only memorize
the basics of giving out phony info., and
other things in which only apply to their
hurtbag ass's. The fda can kiss
my canadian arse. They are
stupid as f*ck just like the rest of their
damn country. And that's about
all I can say. Now, back on
topic. You think I havn't seen
that dude, what's his face on
infomercials?! I know all about
your utterly corrupt fda system.
It makes me laugh. Canada has
got some issues like that as well, but
compared to what i've heard from that guy,
whoa! America has eternal
problems. Damn...
You people are messed with intelligence,
ware-related issues and food production!!
Holy shiz!! Wait,
maybe it would have been more proper to
label it as not food 'production', but
food 'corruption'. Hey, that
rhymes, too! What's wrong with
you people? America uses the
poor-ass excuse of having a vast history
of war/chaos/violence in order to give
them so-proclaimed good reason to continue
on in the same raging manner.
It's been like what? Over
two-hundred years? Yet, you
people can't even find a minimal way to
achieve peace? Ask anyone with
a 'quality' brain (canadians & british
currently at the top, while the list
continues until we reach america who comes
in last...) and you'll be told that
'war/chaos/violence' is the last way to
deal with things. The
'american' way of solving problems: war -
if you go to war, ofcoarse the opposing
force is going to hate you regardless of
win or loss. It is commonsense.
But this part of commonsense is
in dissaray (explains american mental
state) and constant disfunction (explains
american physical state) with the american
people. Recent canadian studies
confirm that this is infact a disorder
with our neighbours to the south.
America has been diagnosed with what
canadian experts have recently proclaimed
as being 'dfs' (desperate for shotguns).
What a tragic, yet embarrassing
life plan for fool america...