Hey you say you cant 'orgasm' meaning you get no feeling when you ejaculate or just dont ejaculate at all ? I myself dont get an orgasm or any feeling of pleasure but ejaculate...

Mabey you should try inserting your penis into your girlfriends anus mabey you just need to feel tighter pressure on your penis, for the guy who does ejaculate but feels no orgasm this could be a back problem, when certain nerves are pinched in the lower back the energy i'll refer to it as chi because how could a billion chinese people be wrong - does not flow properly through your spine so the energy needed to be built up in your body in preparation for discharge is not happening therefore no complete discharge if you were circumsized this can also contribute to a loss of sensation because there is a certain amount of electrical static which is accumulated in the tip from friction of the skin layers to begin the charge through the spinal fluids. I've had only one orgasm in the last ten years and it was after a chiroractor put me on a machine which bent me back and fourth on a machine which loostened my lower back. Niacin vitamin b12 can help in very small doses along with some yoga.

You could try herbal supplemens that increase sexual drive. I recommend zupro. After taking it I experience very powerful orgasms.

How do you keep from infecting yourself if you dont have an orgasm/ejaculation.

My fiance had mentioned something about that when we first got together he said I would get too wet and so he couldn't feel anything and it was hard to orgasm but since then we have been together for 3 years and he hasn't happened for a long time he is used to my wetness maybe is your women getting really wet? Also what about your circulation? Do you take any medications? These are things to keep in mind also my fiance says when he get too hot if we dont open a window it makes it hard for him to orgasm maybe you need a little fresh air try having sex outside or in the laundry mat you may just need a vaction stress can make things happen

maybe talk to a doctor or a friend you can trust it may be something as simple as your nerves being bad or stress hopefully not you health but just dont be afraid to ask and get it checked out by a professional since you have no problem orgasming yourself it sounds like you are fine I would maybe just ask you woman to jack you off a little untill you get close and then slowly slip back inside her and you are sure to orgasm inside her if all else fails visit my website. And check some pics and video take care...

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I've actually got this problem myself. I assume it's more of a mental issue as masterbations never a problem. I assume it's just a matter of relaxing and also just needing more friction. But usually I just focus on making my partner climax the whole time rather than ever worrying about myself. It'd be interesting to hear if anyone has any major solutions to this. I assume like I said it's more of a mental thing and once you finally do start to get over it it'll all become quite easy and the problem will go away. But like I said, i'm also in the same boat which only lately i've really been starting to look into ways to get over this as obviously most of my partners think it's something to do with them and of course i'd like to actually start enjoying it more ; )

Reaching an orgasm
posted: 01-06-05 11:13am

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how do you keep from infecting yourself if you dont have an orgasm/ejaculation.

I don't understand that question at all....Is it just me?

It could very well be a mental thing. If you can orgasm yourself and during foreplay then it is very likely a mental reason causing you to not orgasm during actual intercourse. Anal sex is not a solution because even if you can orgasm that way that would mean you have to have anal sex everytime you want to orgasm, so real natural sex still wouldn't give you the pleasure that it should.
Talk to your doctor, a friend who experiences similar problems or seek counseling. But, definately go to your doc to rule out any actual medical problem.
Are you comfortable with your partner? Love and understanding makes all of the difference in the world. Good luck to you both.

okay, so I'm reading some of these and I start to think "YES! that's what's happening to my husband!" but I still have yet to see an actual answer?! My husband says he can't feel when he orgasms, He says I am too wet (sometimes)or he's just not reaching orgasm or i think he's reached an orgasm so quick that he doesnt realize it and then get's soft...I can't figure it out! How can a MALE not feel an orgasm? I've been with men who practically scream louder then ME....so I don't understand any of this?? He excercises, he is very healthy, blood preasure normal, we can't keep our hands off of eatchother (married 10 years now) is it just lack of sexual chemestry?

I have a problem that may be some variation of the one's mentioned. Mid 40s, had a great sexlife till about 4 years ago, when i started having difficulty getting erect during sex. I can masturbate to orgasm, though it takes a little longer than it used to, but plenty of sexual arousal. During sex, erection is semi, and once my wife orgasms, whatever I have going on dies completely. Have tried viagra, end up sleeping with a beuatiful hard on all night long, but same results during sex. Mental I guess, but what to do?

Again as someone else stated in this article, there aren't really any answers here. I don't know if I actually have a problem or not and if I do there doesn't seem to be a solution for it. It wasn't even until today that I worried about this and maybe I shouldn't be. I was talking with a friend of mine about our sex lives and she asked about my orgasms during sex. When I told her I hadn't she couldn't comprehend why as a man I didn't care if I achieved an orgasm. I had always thought my girlfriend and I had great sex, but now I feel self-conscious, like I am doing something wrong. If anyone had any advice it would be helpful.

Hello. I am an ex girlfriend of a guy who has a hard time having an orgasm during sex. We were together for about 9 months, and he is the one who broke up with me cuz he was so concerned with this problem. He has reached orgasm a few times when we had sex both vaginally and anally, just not every time. We have such a huge physical attraction towards eachother and cant even keep out hands off eachother when we're together. He mentioned that he masturbates alot, like 3 times a day at least. We live 2 hours apart and only see eachother on weekends. But then he mentioned that he had really cut down on "taking care of himself" and he still had an problem. He says it has happened with other woman he had dated, and it sometimes takes him awhile when he does it himself now. I was wondering if he may be gay or Bi or something. I suggested that he go to the doctor, but he hasnt as of yet. I felt really bad at first, like it was me, but he assured me it wasnt. We would have such great passionate sex, that i couldnt believe he wasnt reaching orgasm. For myself, as a woman, I cant reach orgasm thru intercourse alone. I love sex, but I either need manual or oral stimulation of the clitoris. And alot of women are like that, you just dont hear about very many men having this problem. Do u think he may be gay? PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!! THANK YOU.....

...it's certainly not a problem with my partner. I can totally understand how a girl might feel inadequate - "Every guy orgasms during sex, right? Usually too quickly, haha..." - but from my own experience, I'm chalking it up to a combination of:

- Every guy is different; it stands to reason that some guys will orgasm more easily than others. Premature ejaculation must have its counterpoint!
- Condoms suck. I find it easier to orgasm without one; they're tight in the wrong areas and I suspect they can restrict bloodflow to some degree.
- Getting the right position! Missionary can suck because it's tiring and the angles are quite forced. Doggy style is often good because it can be a team effort, and penetration is usually deep. One girlfriend was much shorter than me, which meant that anal sex actually gave the best angles for pleasurable sex - but that's a poor excuse for pressuring a girl into experimentation!
- Mental issues. Personally I overthink things and find it hard to get totally lost in the moment (no matter how much fun I'm having).

I find it easier to orgasm during oral sex, easier still through masturbation. That's largely a matter of being able to easily hit all the really great-feeling spots. Orgasm during intercourse generally takes a concerted effort, and often it's more fun not to really try.

I've found so long as I *talk about it*, make it clear that this isn't a problem I have with the relationship - physically or emotionally - then we're very happy. It's actually nice to be able to enjoy having long periods of sex with someone I care about!

[Edit] And I can assure the previous poster that I, at least, am not gay. Orgasm isn't the only measure of a guy's excitement - so long as he seems into you in other ways, you can ignore your paranoia. If you relax it will probably help him, too.

If you have a spinal cord injury, and I do (recovering from spinal cord cancer), then just be thankful that you can get an erection and have intercourse! I can orgasm, but not climax with ejaculation via intercourse, oral, or even masturbation. I am just happy that after 8 years of not being able to get an erection that I can now. My wife and I are very happy...to mention our sex marithons!!!

So, relax, and enjoy one another. Besides, isn't that one that sex is for?!?

I have had this problem all my life, I just cannot reach orgasm when I have a partner. I kindof stumbled upon this solution one night when I had a little too much. My partner inserted one finger into my anus and massaged my prostate while she performed oral sex on me, and I had the best orgasm of my life. I know its kindof strange, but honestly, try it out if you are willing to experiment.

I have had this same problem for years, only one girlfriend I had didnt mind, she acctually liked the long periods of intercourse, others felt insecure that I couldnt come. It can be a relationship killer. I wish I knew a solution. I have been asked "are you gay?". No I am not.
Its a drag

I have been noticing that my fiance has been having a horrible time reaching a orgasm. I figured it has to be me something I am not doing. He gets so mad at me and says no I dont want to talk about it, it has nothing to do with you. But i think any girl would feel like it is her fault especially after two years it suddenly starts happening. He started having trouble about 2 weeks ago and since then he has maybe orgasmed 2x and intercourse has strayed. I know he feels bad but it makes me feel worse. Could it be stress? he has been really stressed from work lately. he also says that it feels like he is about to cum about and then it never comes. He says this happens two for three times during intercourse. I figured taking acouple days off will help. this just made us fight for three nights then the fourth we tried again and he still didnt. I cant just live with it. I know that it will start to effect our relationship negatively. anyone know of natural things he can take for this? anyone know why this could be happening?

yeah i have the same issue I am always worried about pleasing my partner and can go forever so she loves it but i never get to that point but on my own i can. I dont get it?

I am a 24 year old male with the same issue my woman is beautiful but so many things are going on just opened my own company I have been addicted to porn so now I'm trying to break free from porn in hopes that I can get off while I am inside of her. She has had children so she's not that tight but at the same time the sex is great its just frustrating not being able to cum when she does quite often.

Wow I'm really sorry this thread has been going for 5 years without an answer. What you're describing sounds like Delayed Orgasm, a medical condition caused by either damage to nervous tissue to the penis or just poor development of the penis. It's a form of ED. A Urologist or ED specialist should be able to confirm if you are suffering from Delayed Orgasm or have different issues but there aren't many reliable treatments for it at this time. If you're able to orgasm with difficulty when you masturbate but it is difficult or even impossible to cum during intercourse, additional stimulation or involvement of kinks could be helpful.