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Q: Disturbing~any Input Appreciated

asked by: PatsGurl_Forever on July 26th, 2004

New User

I'm 17(18 in dec), my partner is 21( 22 in nov). There is a great chance i'm pregnant. Here's the disturbing part!

He said the other nite that if i'm preggo that I was to sign "our" kid over to him. Declaring him a single parent so that he could get native american benefits:x ...Meaning as being part indian and being a single parent he would basically get his college paid for( thats the great usa for ya: where is other racial help? Mad

)! I'm going to be a junior in high school & he's going to be in year 3 of collegel! I think it is very wrong to even be think of that as an option! I mean that would be like child abandonment on my part! I dont know what to do! I'm so p@ssed off right now I could just kill him Crying or Very sad

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To top it off his dad is a cop & doesnt like the fact we are together let alone that we are friends!

I dont know if I could continue this relationship, but I dont know how to get out! He is a very controlling guy Sad

what would you all do?! Crying or Very sad

holly

Replies(15)

nikki_caro

replied on July 26th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

I say you get out now. And if it gets bad then you get a simple paper called restraining order. Who cares if his dad is a cop! That might benefit the guy, but still this is your baby (if you are pregnant) but lets not worry on all this now, first things first. Make sure you are pregnant. Get a test to find out. That is so selfish of that guy to want u to sign over the rights so he can be cheap. His college might get paid for, but a baby is wayyy more expensive. I hope u didnt even consider his awful idea. That would be just stupid. But either way, if you are not pregnant by this guy, dump the weirdo anyways. And if he keeps bothering you, you warn his dad about a restraining order. This guy is just your boyfriend and already controlling?? And why are you still with him?? I suggest you end it (relationship), then take a pregnancy test. Then we can take it from there.

linuxChique

replied on July 26th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

Noooo! Don't do it! He could do anything he wanted with the child and you would have no say so whatsoever! He could take the child away from you and you might never see it again if you sign for him to have full custody!

Who cares about those benefits! If he is as controlling as you say he is, you've got to stick up for yourself. It sounds like he is trying to royally screw you out of motherhood. You are not a baby oven! He cannot make you do it no matter how controlling he acts. Don't let him bully you around.

babyrae

replied on July 26th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

Im sorry but for the best, I hope u are not pregnant! Its sad how hes puttin hiself before his baby, even before his baby is even developed! I would never let him do that.. If u dont feel comfortable in the relationship either, dont stay wit him! I hope everything works out Smile

shauna

sweetsuzi

replied on July 26th, 2004

Active User, very eHealthy

Here here

Shayna

replied on July 26th, 2004

Experienced User

I wouldn't do that ...He is really selfish for asking u to do that !

bd1012

replied on July 26th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

I don't know what I would do if my bf said that to me.

Oh and as for the native american benefits, look what the so called "americans' did to them back then. The europians kicked them out of their own habitat so they could live here and and then the government sits there and talks about how america is the land of the free and etc and then you have people like the guy who wrote alice in wonderland. No place in america for the real americans. Rolling Eyes

I see it as a payback for what they did to them. Btw i'm part native american.

babyrae

replied on July 26th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

I live in a native town (i have some metis in me) and I totally see how they got ripped off.. But I also see, what the goverment does here, is now they give too much freedom to those. Like some things are reallt stupid... Some jobs u cant get on here unless ur treaty or u cant get ur school paid for unless ur treaty.... Etc.. Its all pretty overblown now.... But there are ros and cons to everything an this is just one of those lol!

Shauna

nikki_caro

replied on July 26th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

I know what I would do if my boyfriend ever said the to me to try to be selfish, ill say "ill sign them papers when I can rip your nuts out of your a$$ with no complaints!!! problem!!!" hehe.

As for the whole indian thing, they got robbed here like they can only have a few sections of land and stuff, but they got some nice casinos so I know some of em make bank here!!!!

smith8500

replied on July 26th, 2004

Especially eHealthy

Hey

do not, do not, do not do it!

lee25

replied on July 26th, 2004

Active User, very eHealthy

Don't do it. These guys from different countries like to take the babies away back to their countries. Be careful there have been many cases where guys kidnapp their kids and take them back to their countries and most of the time once they are there you have no parental rights towards your child. Just be very very careful.

Brenda

newlife

replied on July 26th, 2004

Active User, very eHealthy

Okay first don't do it. And second you may want to thik about droppoing his a$$. I mean how could he think of an unborn child as basically a meal ticket and a free ride. I know you may love him, but umm talk to him and ask him if he really meant it, and if he does, drop him like the bad habit he is. That is just sick. And if you are even thinking about doing it I feel sorry for you b/c it sucks and, he could just up an leave with your baby, b/c you decided to sign over your rights. Ohh and btw when you ask him again hide a tape recorder ,and record the convo. B/c if it comes down to the point where you have to take him to court for child support (and with this jerk i'm sure you will) , you can use the tape to show the judge what kind of parent he would be, and the kind of parent that would use their child, deserves to pay big money, and not get to see him/her.

lilmama2b_oct04

replied on July 26th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

Ok do not sign your parental rights away to some controling problem, that just wants a free ride through life, cuz chances are, hes gonna find out that it isnt free the hard way, and then your kid will have to suffer through it right along with him. I think you should leave him. Tell him to go find *somebody else* to donate their baby to the "free college for controling assholes charity".

As for the native indians... It was the europians (sp?Lol it dont look right) that had come here and taken away all the land from the american indians, and it was later on, the americans realized it was wrong and are paying them back for all the harm. I dont think there is anything wrong with how american indians are treated now. Although, black people arent being payed back for the harm done to their ancestors, and neither are jews and the list could go on.... Why isnt anyone else gettin free crap?

replied on July 26th, 2004

New User

Dont do it(if u are pregnant)..He will be able to do what ever he wants if u sign ur rights over to him.My boyfriend tryed to get me to sign over rights and isaid straight out no.Im going to be a very young mom ...15 but im going to give custody to my dad till I can move out on my own and take care of my baby.I love my boyfriend and we have been together for a long time now and I still wont give him custody of our baby when he/she is born.And plus the baby need the mother most when he/she is born.And he is being really selfish about the free ride thro life

JenniferN

replied on July 26th, 2004

Experienced User

No never! Dont do it.. The benefits are not worth it! Dont

PatsGurl_Forever

replied on August 1st, 2004

New User

Thanx!

Thanx every1. I wont ever do it no matter how hard he pressures me! I'm gonna make a doctors appointment tomorrow & get a blood test!

Holly

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