Hi swethal... -
anxiety, tension and depression, etc., does "cause" tmj. This isn't the physical cause, though, for tmj to flare up - anxiety, etc., frequently cause us to grind and clench and they are now coming out and saying that almost all, if not all, tmj is caused initially by grinding and clenching the teeth while we sleep.
Unfortunately, even after you may have thought you have worked out your anxiety, tmj will still linger on because the discs, tendons, cartilage, muscles, etc., have all been abused for a while and may even be damaged and it takes time for them to heal (if they do). Surprisingly, the tmjs affect the physical human body much more so than anyone would think.
Xanax and valium are not the usual way of "healing" tmj. They should only be used for a very short time as they lose their effectiveness and are extremely addictive. Anti-depressents that are seratonin regulators are much better to take regularly. The correct kind of bite splint is essential. I stress correct because there are several kinds of bite splints and several makers of these splints. Some makers are much better than others. And some bite splints are better for you depending on what needs to be done. A good tmj specialist would hopefully be able to figure this out, sometimes with trial and error. Unfortunately, it can be difficult to find a good tmj doctor and bite splint maker/adjuster.
Tmj can be very difficult to "cure," and it can be easy. It is a very bizarre dysfunction. To end this long posting - you need to get a game plan. I would recommend -
1. Lots and lots of researching
2. Find a good tmj doctor
3. Get a good bite splint
4. Take ibuprofen for pain
5. Use moist heat and ice
6. Go to physical or massage therapy (especially someone trained in tmj or face pain). Yoga can be good. Wait until much later to try chiropractics.
7. Do not eat anything hard, chewy or gummy, no yawning, keep mouth, jaw and tongue relaxed as much as possible; no caffeine (bummer).
8. Anti-depressant if pain is uncontrolled by pain pills
9. Don't let anyone talk you into surgery
10. Don't get braces or have several teeth in your mouth filed until you are positive it will help and then only have someone good do the work.
11. Be patient and go slow and conservatively.
There are several other hints, but these are the best starters. Remember that you have a lot of people in the same "boat" as you. We are a great group of people and will support you all we can.
Nite...
Carol