Is 19 to Young? Help....

There really isn't any ideal age of when a person has to have kids. It all depends on the person, and how ready they are, and how well they will be able to provide for their child. If you and your finace think you can do this, and are up for it, all the more power to ya!!! As for telling your mom, will she be mad that your engaged? And if yes, what about being engaged woud she be mad at? That she doesn't like your guy, or that she thinks your too young. If she doesn't like him, you will have a tougher time trying to convince her this is what you really want. It could even end up in something that you don't want happening (such as not being as close to your mom anymore).But if she will get mad because she thinks your too young, you'll just have to try to prove that you're ready for this. While it may take time, and lots of energy, sooner or later when she sees how well you are doing, she'll come to accept it, and be happy about it!! Good luck.

Hi jenn,

my opinion: I think the fact that you ask that question here, says you're not "110%" ready for that responsability. The question implies a bit that you're not sure of yourself.

Gr, mp

Wanting a baby and having a baby are two different situations, why not wait a couple of years and enjoy each other and then see!
Congratulations!
Sincerely,
sandy

Is 19 too young.
I agree with mp. Well, I agree with all of the above posts actually. You are ready when you are ready. Age doesn't matter all that much. But, you just got engaged. Okay, tell your mom about that. Get married, wait a while and then when you have your finances and your heads together, try to get pregnant. But, at least wait until you are married.
Yes, wanting a baby and having a baby are two completely different things! I cannot imagine having a baby at 19. I am 25 now and I am still no way near ready. When I think of all of the things I have done, learned, and the fun that I have had from 19 until now, oh wow. I would not trade that for ten babies!

Hello jenn!
Congrats on the engagement! I was a young bride myself- the age on the marriage license was 19, but I was 20 by the time the ceremony took place (got married the week of my b-day!) even so, I would advise that you wait a while. Enjoy your engagement and your marriage, then worry about a baby. You're going to have so much fun planning the wedding, and that's enough stress without trying to become pregnant or worrying about a baby! Sit down with your fiance and plan your futures- set a path. Once you have that path underway, consider it. Is 19 too young? No, I have lots of friends who've had their first child at age 19... But I felt sorry for them because they never got to plan their own lives before they started to plan the life of a newborn. After over two years of marriage, my hubby and I still wonder. But like everyone else has said, wanting a baby and having one are two different things. Hope that helps, i'm not an expert, as I said i'm struggling with a similar dilema!
-eff

I was only 20 when I got engaged and now i'm 23 married and trying to have a baby. I would say it's very important to build your relationship for a few years before you have kids. Not only that but you want to be financially secure too. At 19 it's not easy being financially secure. Especially because you may want to go to school or something and kids interfere with that. My friend got married at 19 had two kids by the time she was 22 and luckily she somehow finished school. However, she will tell you it's so hard raising a family and trying to be financially stable and successful at your career at the same time. Most people wish they had waited longer for kids after they had them. Especially if they were young when they had them. Also you have to consider how expensive medical care is right now and what if your baby had some kind of birth defect that you would have to pay for. I always thought of that when I thought about having kids. It's up to you guys, but people don't say wait for no reason. Your still young and have a lot to get to know about eachother. My husband and I have known eachother for 20 years and i'm still learning new things about him. Anyways, now that I wrote a novel I hope you'll think about things. You have plenty of time to have babies just enjoy life for awhile first.

Wait!!!

I'm 22 and my hubby is 26. We have been married for 2 years and i'm 5 months pregnant with our first. Pregnancy is soooo trying on a marriage. You definitely want to wait a couple of years. Strengthen your relationship before getting pregnant. Pregnancy changes you so much, and trying to build your marriage while pregnant will backfire. You'll be a completely different person during and right after pregnancy, and you'll just have to build your relationship all over again when you revert back to your old self.

Hi-i'm 19 & in a long term relationship (3.4 years 2day!) and we plan on getting married & having a family but not for a good few years yet. At 19 you should be having fun & being with your friends but if this is what you really really want then good luck.By the way-are you not going to wait until you get married so that you at least know there's more security in your relationship? Or even have time to get to know each other more?
Just make sure you know that you want this before you rush into it.

Im 21 and ive been enaged since feb we aren't getting married for another 2 years and we have been togther for 3 years its hard thinking about marriage and kids first you have to have a house full time job car ect so much to build up before kids get married first and then go for kids babies grow up you may want a baby but they grow up and they cost a lot! I want a child too but I think of how my child would not have everything right now because I could not afford to give him or her my best right now. Good luck 19 is a little young my sister was 19 when she had her frist child and trust me it was a big rude awaking for her! She was not ready and she was a single mommy but her daughter is now 6 and she realized how much a better mommy she is now with her 4 year old son than she was with her first because she was older with her 2nd child its up to you. You are your own person.

I dont think so at all

Yeah. If ur asking that question, then your not ready. You shouldn't question yourself.