My dh, I believe, has bipolar disorder type ii. This plays havoc with our marriage and family life. We have been to about 6 therapists and while some will admit to me privately that dh has a serious mental illness, none will ever confront him directly. He believes he has big mood swings, but he is a master at finding and believing in endless "good reasons" for them that lie outside himself (and tend to be my fault). We have very young children so leaving is not an option.
I have found some good books that have helpful suggestions for the spouse if the bp person recognizes the illness, but no books or articles or support groups if the bp person is in fierce and hostile denial of the illness. Can anyone point me in the right direction? I desperately need helpful advice about how to have things go as well as possible given the difficult circumstances.