Here is more info for you. We have a 2 year old daughter and she had our son 5 months ago. Since then, her libido has gone lower and lower. I know what some might say....That I am not turning her on. But, let me say that I love foreplay and love to be very affectionate and loving to her. I even love to give her oral pleasure. She just says, and I know she is being honest, that her desire for sex is very low since she has had our second child. In the past, I asked her if she masterbates or if she ever has and she did not want to admit it. But, at night when we are in bed, I think I can feel her rubbing something because the bed is slightly moving. And, when I look at her older panties, I see small hose where she might be rubbing herself and it just wore down over time. Do you get holes in your panties or might that be the cause?
Well I don't really know what to say..I don't see why she wouldn't admit to masturbating or not. Theres nothing unhealthy about it. Have you looked into pills that can raise womans libido? Such as avlimil (i think thats what its called). That may be the solution for you and your wife.
Oh my goodness trey stop looking at your wifes pantie holes..Lol. Like cherry said masturbating isnt unhealthy and I dont know why some hide it other than they may feel embarressed by it why I dont know but..Or maybe she feels if she tells you she does you might think that your not pleasing her and shes worried about that. I really dont know. I guess it just depends on the woman..But I do believe male or female at some point and time they have done it wheather they admit it or not is another story.. :p
this has happened to me a few times in my life. I will be having a sexy dream and I just wake up and barely touch anything and there it goes. I don't know how it happens. It' s nice to wake up that way! What a way to start the day!
Women can masturbate during their sleep yes. And I wouldn't say it was a sleep disorder either. Your body is supposed to be paralysed during sleep but the vast majority of us toss and turn during the night, we don't wake up under completely undisturbed sheets
Women don't masturbate because they're unsatisfied by their sex life. I have always masturbated whether in a relationship or not and I have had boyfriends with whom I've had very satisfying sexual relationship with. Women masturbate because they like masturbating, not because they're not enjoying sex. Are you saying you don't masturbate?
As for the knickers. A woman probably won't masturbate over her knickers. She would touch herself directly. So that's not a clue. If she's masturbating she's asleep. If she's embarrased about her masturbating (and she does....everybody does...) she would hide it from you by doing it in the shower. She wouldn't do it in bed.
Don't worry about it. Sometimes women just don't want to have sex. It's not always that they have lost their libido. Sometimes they just don't want to have sex and would rather masturbate! Sex has a lot of emotional attachment for a woman. You say you have young children. I presume she hasn't lost all of her baby weight yet. Maybe she hasn't got the confidence in her body image to have sex yet. Or maybe she's just stressed and doesn't feel like being intimate with anyone right now. A woman not having sex is very unlikely to be you doing anything wrong in the bedroom. It will have something to do with something elsewhere in her life. If your marriage is fine otherwise I would presume she's stressed about the kids/work. Try to help her as much as you can. Give her massages, run her a bath, help her relax. She'll be back in your arms in no time!