Need Help Coping...17prego Posted: 09-25-03 17:56pm
The father of my 7 week old baby and I are
planning on getting married shortly after
the child is born. But lately he has
been acting weird...Like he doesn't know
if he wants the baby or if he wants to get
married...Now dont get him wrong...He
loves kids and weve been dating steadily
for about 3 years now. He has 2 kids
from when he was married before. And the
only reson he married his last wife was
because he got her pregnant. I just dont
want that to happen to me. He was the one
who suggested marraige in the first place.
Oh and another question....Is it normal
to get cramps like when your on your
period? I get horrible ones every once in
a while and I was wondering if its
normal....
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Suzy
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Sep 2003 Posts: 530
Posted: 09-25-03 18:13pm
Ohh lil', i'm sorry it sounds as though
you are in a sticky situation. I hope
your man can come to terms with the fact
you are both having this child because
it's a little too late. So for your sake
and the child I hope he can except it. As
for the cramps, it sounds from what you
are saying that these cramps are becoming
very painful, and I don't think that is
normal, you could possibly expect mild
cramping during early pregnancy but severe
cramps spell trouble to me, especially if
you are spotting at the same time. Keep
an eye on the spotting, if at all it
becomes heavier and the blood turns red or
starts to come out in clots, you will need
to get straight to your doctor or the
hospital as that is a sign of
miscarriage.
Take care lil'.....
.::suzy::.
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nikki_caro
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Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 09-25-03 18:17pm
Its very normal to have cramps. But how
old is this guy? Your only 7 weeks
pregnant? And is he divorced? Well it
sounds like you are in a very not good
situation...Hmmm. You need to have a
serioous talk with this guy. This is not
a time for him to be confused on you. Is
he serious about marriage or is this
something he said to make you feel good.
How does your mom feel? Does she know?
Does she like him? How is he with his
other kid? Sometimes what you see in the
past and present is what you get in the
future, so please be careful. And talk
with him let us know how it goes.
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Darling
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Sep 2003 Posts: 875
Posted: 09-25-03 21:08pm
You know what darling, I think the most
important thing to do right now is focus
on you and that baby. Of course it will
be painful if your man doesn't want to
have anything to do with you or the baby
but once either way you can do this with
or without him. That baby is totally
dependant on you, and will be for the next
18 years so for the moment forget about
the guy and just focus on giving birth to
a healthy baby.
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aswords
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Sep 2003 Posts: 10 Location: north carolina
Posted: 09-26-03 09:12am
I am so sorry that you are having these
struggles. Darling is right, you need to
focus on you and that little one. You
guys are the most important. I have a
friend that after she found out that she
was pregnant her boyfriend freaked on her
and they did not speak and even broke up.
Eventually he realized that she and that
baby was the most important thing that
ever happened to him. They got married
and the baby is almost 1 month now. It
could happen to you, but if it doesn't
then don't worry you have a very special
gift. It will be hard but you can do it.
As for the cramping, go see your doctor.
It is important that you know that you and
that baby is in good health
I talked to derek (the father....He is
21...Yes he is divorced...He is very good
to the children he has now, and my parents
love him to death and are fine with me
being pregnant.) he apologized emensly
for being so small minded and acting like
he did in regards to his new "addition".
He has agreed to try to be nicer about it
and told me he loves me more then anything
he has ever known. We are still getting
married in august of next year probably in
reno. He told me he is really excited
for this baby and is glad he has something
like this to share with me. He thanks
you all for giving me the courage to talk
to him about it...He said he didnt know
something was wrong...(how could he not!!!
Lol) and anyways about the cramping it
has eased up quite I bit in the past
couple of days and there is no spotting so
I should be fine. I have no insurance
and havent been to the doctor yet so I
cant find out if anything is wrong just
yet. But as soon as I find out I will let
you know. Thnx muches!!!
