How old are you right now? 16? 17? I couldnt tell. First I think you should start having protected sex! Because if you keep doing it like you are, you risk many std's. And you are too young to be getting pregnant. There are so many things to think about. I mean you have to have a secure future and job, and place to stay. Where will you keep the baby, will the baby have medical insurance, can you tolerate crying in the middle of the night, every night. Can you make a million bottles, change a million diapers, waste a million wipes and spend all your money on a baby??? Plus didnt you say your guy was in jail? How are you going to do it with him in jail and you by yourself with a baby? Thats alot of stress. These are things you need to think about. Please take another test to make sure your not. And hold off for a while if your not.

Nikki is absolutely right (lol I look forward to the day I can disagree with you nikki!). However, if you are worried about not being able to conceive you could always pop into your obgyn's and have some tests done. But consider yourself lucky your not pregnant yet! Sometimes the body has funny ways of telling you, that you shouldnt be having a child yet. Sometimes it can take a few years to conceive and thankfully you haven't yet!!!!! I really wouldn't worry honey, it will happen when it's supposed to. But would you consider starting to use protection??

Im 17 and my boyfriend is 16.Yes my boyfriend is in jail. I know it would be hard if I was pregnant right now. My mom would kick me out of the house with nothing but the clothes on my back.She said she wouldnt consider me her daughter anymore. I know youre right and im not ready for a baby. My boyfriends were the one to ask for a baby not me...Weird huh! I know what its like to take care of babies. I took care of my neice and nephew ever since they came home from the hospital. Changing diapers, feeding them, the crying,...U name it.I took care of them before school, after school intill my sister gets home from work(shes a single mother). If shes really tired I take them to my room and they sleep with me on my bed. I know what its like to wake up in the middle of the night for them. But maybe its still not enough....I guess im still not ready.I admit I get realllllllyyyyy fustrated somtimes, but I love them both. Getting advice from you girls has helped me alot and I appriciate it deeply. Yes I will consider protection.....On the real.I guess god doesnt want me to have children yet and im thankful for it.Im not o dissapointed....Ok alittle! As for my boyfriend....What do u think?Do u think he should choose what he thinks is more important to him or what? Or is that selfish? His family and I are not going to get along anymore after the huge arguement. When do you think I should retest....For the last time?Pleeze write bak..I love you guys!!!!!!!!
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lildreamer

I don't think it is up to us to decide how old you should be to have children and the situation you are in is none of our business, and I think it is wrong of people to judge when the time is right for you. Also, 1 million bottles, 1 million nappies, 1 million baby wipes??????? I think that is a terrible exageration, raising children is not exactly that bad, believe me I have 4, and I don't remember it ever being that hectic, gosh no one would have children if it were that bad, and i'm sorry to be so blunt nikki but I have read in previous posts before that you don't have children, hello??? Good luck on everything lildreamer, and I hope everything works out for you

Cindy, while I agree that it was an exageration, I do not believe that nikki was making an educated guess about how many things you need, she was just tossing a number out there. Secondly lildreamer came in here asking what we thought, none of us seeked her out and started preaching about teen parenting. And lastly just because nikki does not have kids of her own does not mean that she doesn't know anything nor does it mean that she can't give advice. Just because you have 4 children does not mean that you know everything there is to know! Everyone, every pregnancy and every relationship is different.


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-jessika-

Right on jessika

Thank you hun!! So how have you been doing? I have hardly talked to ya in the last week or so! Hope all is well with you!!

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-jessika-

Im good darling working my @$$ off though! I try to get on here as much as possible. I think my kittens sick so im trying to nurse him back to health. I think of him like my little baby! Although no dirty diapers, or midnight feedings, just scratchings and kisses. Most importantly how are you?!?! I read your post about being able to swim! Congrats! Must feel so good to be able to go out and actually do things! You should put up a picture of cheyenne when she's born. I hopw your doing well, its always lovely to read your posts and hear from you.
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tanya

Aww! How cute!! How old is your kitten? I hope he feels better soon!! I am doing ok! I was a little irritated earlier cause I kept having false labor contractions and they were going on and off for about 14 hours!! But they have been gone for about 2 hours or so now! I think swimming really helps! It takes a whole lot of pressure off of my back!! If I could I think I would live in water! Lol I will be sure to post photos of cheyenne as soon as she is born! And it is also always wonderful hearing from you! You are so sweet to me!

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-jessika-

Hey cindy1 thanks for backing me up! I really didnt pay attention to the number nikki was saying. Its not that, that I was worried about. Im not saying I think now is a good age for me to have children. I just wanted to know why it was that I never got pregnant...Thats all. I also wanted some advice on my relationship and just know what would any of u girls would do. At first nikki was cool but she just sent me a private message telling me im so irresponsble and need to grow up.She said that I share my body with everyone and that my parents turned me into a hoe.What is her problem? I never said I was with alot of people sleeping around.I never knew she doesnt have any kids. Why is she attaking me for?Even when no one answered my question about my relationship.....Just talking about kittens(lol)...Thanks for the advice.If you can give me advice on everything I ask I deeply appriciate it.

Lildreamer im sorry for going way off topic! Lol
about your relationship I think you should really think through the pro's and con's of being with him. You said he wants a baby but does he understand what goes along with having a child? He can no longer be irresponsible and will have to stop any illegal activities (i only calll them that because he's in jail). No one can make a decision for you. Only you know what is right. And although you do have experience with children having one of your own is a full time commitment. I'm not saying that your too young or that you should wait, thats not my choice, but think very hard about the future and about your relationship with this boy. Wouldn't it be so much easier if people could make decisions for you! Im sorry im not much help, I just hope you do what feels right in your heart.
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tanya

Its ok for the subject part (lol)! I just want to say thanks for all the advice and no one has really given me an answer about my relationship...I get the hint that its really up to me.I know..Ive been thinking about it and im going to let him choose what he feels whats right and who to go with. Its either me or his family.His family doesnt have to like me for me to be with him we can be just fine.(baby not included).Im not talking about babies im talking about our relationship. For the record im not pregnant.Ive decided not to retest and leave it the way it is!3 negative test is sufficient. On the 30th is his court date and his verdict I hope he goes free on probation or house arrest.Anything but stay in juvie.What ever god feels is best!Thanx again.Love you all
lildreamer

hi i was just browsin through google and found this page!
i jus wanted to say that i can not actually see and actual answer for lil dreamers question? i say this because i am actual in the same situation as her only thing is im jus a couple years older, i go through the whole, peeing alot - cravens - ma stomache looks like im pregnant most times (lol) etc. i have taken a few test and the test came bk negative but i really want to have a baby! im 19, 20 next month and me and my boyfriend have been trying for a baby....what could possible be causing these symptoms? and if im not infertile how do i go about having a baby?? please answer

Yes, the desire to have a baby can trick your body into acting pregnant. You should try to become pregnant for a full year, and then go to a fertility specialist.

So since you know that if you get pregnant you will be living in the streets and your bf cannot help you because he is in jail, what were you and your baby going to do?

I think you should be thankful your not pregnant and start being smarter and get on birth control...I mean your 16-17 your what a Sophmore/Junior...maybe Senior?
Why do you "really want a baby" right now...I mean don't you like not having to be responsible for yourself...I mean don't you like being able to do basically whatever you want? Do you want to give that up just because you want a baby now?
Do you have enough money to pay for a baby?
I mean what if you can't breastfeed for whatever reason and you have to use formula...do you know that formula alone costs almost 1000 dollars a year.
Not to mention diapers, clothes, wipes, stroller, etc.
and your boyfriend obviously isn't responisble if he's in jail?
Where are you gonna stay?
Shack up with friends...you think there really goingto want to deal with a baby crying at all hours of the night...ha...no...and what if you have to pay rent?
Can you pay that and raise a baby while still providing the things you need for yourself?
THINK!!!!!

how long have you been trying?
if it hasnt been very long most obgyns will tell you its ok
not to worry and most couples will concieve in 1-2 years
they wont automatically test you for infertility
especially if you 16 or 17
sorry hun

lildreamer pleassseee explain to me the positives in you trying to concieve a child?

Her bf (or bfs plural) asked her to, so she'd be making him (them) happy. I guess.

I wonder why he (they) want(s) a baby?