Hello,
ive never posted in here before... But I need some help with something and I think I can find it here.
Anyways, one of my good friends is dating someone whom is bipolar. He's a very good guy, he gets emotional sometimes and sometimes angry and does stupid things, but hes a good guy and I love him as a friend too. Anyways, my friend and this guy have been in a relationship for about 6 months. She moved in with him into his house (he used to be a mechanic but has been out of work and making no income for the past 2 months) about a month after them dating. They have sortof an up and down relationship. Anywho, to the point, she tells me all the time that they're trying to have a baby (she's 17.. He's 21) but she's working 2 jobs right now, and goes back to highschool in spetmeber (and will remain with one of the jobs) and he has no income, they're moving out of the house into an apartment and they constantly break up. It seems she turns to me for advice but I dont know what to say?? Shes constantly taking pregnancy tests and not using protection in order to get pregnant. She says shes not trying but not not trying.. If u get my drift.
The thing also is, i'm 39 weeks pregnant, 18, and just graduated highschool. She looks at me and tells me she sees that im happy and financially, things are good with the father, baby and I and also relationship wise, we're great. But I try telling her that its hard and that my pregnancy was very unplanned and hard to come to terms with at first, and that i've just adjusted to this life becuz its somethin I had to do, and not something I had wanted. But of course im happy now and things are great, but I dont know how to tell her that its very different... Like... Its different to plan something then to have it turn out ya know??
Sorry to make this so long but im trying to tell her not to plan to have a child, since they're relationship isnt solid and shes too young to start "planning" one, but also... She'll use "but you seem so happy" against me. How can I tell her that im happy now, but... Its something u shouldnt plan ya know? Sorr this turned into a story lol! I just wanted to explain things a little to get some straightforward advice. Thanx everyone!
Shauna
