I made a post under preg for you so please read it

I know it hard to have a baby at 16 because my sister has one she is 17 . I know it not fun but dont kill the baby see if u can find a home some one that can love the bayb I m 16 to but if u need a friend I ll be here for u

I don't want to kill the baby, but I cannot afford to keep it either. Neither my mom or my b/f can afford it. I am pretty much being forced to get an abortion. I am still in high school and I have missed a lot of it because of health problems, and I can't afford not to graduate. I don't want to get an abortion, but my mom and my b/f don't want me pregnant. My mom thinks it would be best for me, but I have never been in this situation before so this is a very hard decision. I don't want to go through the pregnancy, but I don't want to kill the baby either. If I do decide go through the pregnancy, I will find the baby a home. But if I get an abortion, I am concerned about what its like, if it is harmful, and whether it is safe or not. I dont want to sound like I only care about myself, because I know that I wouldnt want to live with the fact that I killed a baby. I don't know what to do, I am so confused But I have a big feeling that abortion is going to have to be the answer. thank you kayla for being there and thank you nikki for the advice, it means so much to me.

If abortion is the answer, could some one please give me advice on what abortion is like from personal experience? I am really scared to get one, but im afraid that might be what I have to do

Ask shortee shes in here now, and she had one. And she does not want another one. Let me find her...

I know whats it like, I have been there, 3 months ago and now I am pregnant again! I can't tell you that you shouldn't get one, but this is what I can tell you. My mom is the one who made the choice for me to get the abortion, that I shouldn't have let her decide. You need to follow what you feel and what you think is right! They say mothers know best, but not when it's a decision of another human being's life. The abortion procedure, I recommend to be knocked out...They bring you in make you wear a hospital gown than bring you in the back. You lay on a table, like the ones at the doctors, and put an iv in your arm, than they give you medicine and you wake up after its all over. When you wake up your stomach is all tense, you know those days when you have really horrible cramps? Well thats what it felt like. When you have an abortion they use a vaccuum like thing, that goes in you and sucks out the baby.... Hunny after the abortion you will feel depressed, but maybe its the best decision. I do not reccomend an abortion, but its your call. Not your mother's or anyones, its yours. Its your body your baby.. But also keep in mind that a bay is alot of resposibilty and money! So think about it hard and good, you can't change anything after its over. I also want you to know that if you don't want an abortion or to have this baby, you can always adopt..They have open adoption tooo, thats where you get information and contact with your child, but don't raise it or get to call it your own, your right are all signed over...Well alecia please keep us posted
god bless you

much love, sami

Please dont do it. I just got an abortion 4 weeks ago because I was raped and I still regret it because the child deserved a chance at life. You will definately regret it because your reason for getting it can be fixed but in my situation I could not change the fact that I got raped and pregnant by my sisters boyfriend. My point is that you should really think about it because eventhough abortions are wrong there is girls like me who have a reason.
ps. And trust me you dont want to feel that pain during the abortion process. It was not a good feeling.


You can pm me to talk more about it.

I'm not going to tell you what's right or wrong for you. Only you know that and I pray that you make the right decision for yourself and this child. However I know that you cannot afford this child but would adoption be out of the question? So many families are not able to have children and they would love to have that little baby growing inside of you for their own. In fact you could even make it an open adoption and have ssome contact if you wished to do so. You can interview numerous couples and choose the one that you think will make the best parents for your baby. Please think twice about abortion.

Well im 28 and ive had 2 abortions if you feel like that is what you wanna do then do it dont let no one make that decision for you I was comfortable with my decison and I dont regret it I have 3 kids now so it doesnt do permenant damamge and as far as it hurting I didnt feel a thing both times I got deep sedation woke up and it was over no bleeding no cramping or anything so I hope this info will ease your mind and remember only you can decide and make sure you are comfortable with your decision.......... :d

I really dont want to live with the fact that I killed a baby. I never thought that I would have to make this hard of a decision. If it was up to me, I would go through with the pregnancy and put the baby up for adoption, but im having a feeling that its not my going to be my choice. I dont know if the law has anything to do with it at all, but my mom said that if she wanted me to get an abortion, then I need to get one. She says that in the end, it will all be better. She is on the thing of me not graduating high school because of being pregnant. I already talked to her about taking home school, but she will not let me because I have already missed so much school. She thinks that maybe with all the health problems that I am having, I will not be able to handle a pregnancy. I have no idea what to do. Im scared to get an abortion and im scared to be pregnant! I have the biggest feeling that abortion is going to have to be the answer. Since I am only 16, maybe it will be better for me. I think I sound like I only care about myself right now this is way too hard!
Thank you everybody for all of your advice.
If there is anything else that you could tell me about abortion at all, please, let me know. Thank you so much! It means alot to me.

This might sound stupid, but I dont know if this makes a difference, but since im small (100 pounds) would that make a difference on how I could handle pregnancy or the effects of abortion on me?
Thank you again everyone for all the advice.
Please let me know if there is anymore advice at all that you could give me!
Thank you so much!

Don't let your mother decide, this is not her choice..There is no law saying she can make u have an abortion...You can still go to school and be pregnant... I think you really need to think hard..Maybe talk to a school counselor or something...It is your choice, follow your heart. If you think an abortion will be that bad, it probably will be since you are thinking the negative things. I recommend that if you get an abortion, to be sedated, knocked out, b/c it'll be much worse if you are awake... Email me and we can talk if you want...Much love, sami

u are in my prayers

Hey there! I was just watching Dr.Phil the other day and the episode was about young girls who were pregnant and thinking about abortion. He wanted them to go home with a question and think about their answer and what they think the correct answer should be... The question is if you have an abortion who will you be doing it for? The baby, yourself or your parents. I think it was a good question and something you should really think about. Well I hope that question helps you and good luck!

Alecia,
just think if your mom aborted you, look at all the wonderful things the world would have missed if you wasn't here. Your baby is a blessing. I have a 10 yr. Old son and am blessed everyday with his love :d don't let anyone make up your mind for you. In the end your the one who might be left with an empty place in your heart. You may never get over killing your child. My husband and I have been married for 11 yrs and have been trying to adopt ar child. So many couples out there cry for a child to call their own. You might be able to help someone if you put your child up for adoption. My sister was 15 when she birth to her daughter in 1988. Today she is a wonderful nurse. A child should be loved not aborted. Please think twice about aborting your child. If you had your child atleast it would have a chance to enjoy what you have enjoyed in life. Let someone adopt your child and show them love. Keep in touch.
Bobbi

I talked to my doctor about it and she told me that it wouldn't be a good idea to go through the pregnancy because of my health problems. For instance, my blood pressure is high and she told me that it isn't healthy to be pregnant with high blood pressure because there is a good chance that the baby would be premature and theres a good chance that it could die. Not to say what it could do to my health also. So I guess it goes same both ways, if I decide to go through with the pregnancy or if I get an abortion. What my doctor said didn't make my decision much easier, so I still know what to do. She told me that it was my decision also, no one elses. Any more advice on what I should do? Thank you so much for everything from everybody.

Here are the questions I got that I want you to think about each week!

Adoption or abortion

can you live with this choice?

Is the decision best for you or the child?

Are you making another bad choice that you will regret?

Are you doing what others expect rather than what you believe?

Do you have any moral or religious beliefs that will haunt you?

Motherhood

are you prepared to end your adolescence?

Are you prepared to make sacrifices over the next 20 years?

Do you have a financial plan for the baby?

Are you the best parent for this child?

What is the impact of raising this child on the people that you love?

Alecia:

i think you should really think hard about this decision. Just because you have a high blood pressure doesn't mean that the baby will be born premature or have anything wrong with it. That's what doctors will say. I know a lot of people that had those problems and delivered very healthy babies.

Your mother cannot make the decision for you. It's not her choice to make. She won't have to live with the consequences. The guilt, shame, depression. It's your baby you are killing and your body you are putting on the line during the process. Abortions are not safe. The fact that someone posted before me that there is no permanent damage is bull crap. There are a lot that can't carry babies after that. Some women's bodies abort them before they have a chance to live(even if they do want the child).

I personally believe abortion is wrong. homicide is homicide. However I will not condemn you if that's your decision. You've heard a lot of comments regarding your situation. You seem like a very smart girl. Just think about every aspect first before you make your final decision. You cannot change your mind after it's done. You can see your child if you adopt, but kill it and it's a lasting decision that you most likely will regret for the rest of your life.

Good luck!!
Carvytaph

Hey sweetie,

people are going to try to make you feel bad. Don't let them. You made a choice, not a mistake. It was your choice to make at the time and no one could make it for you. If you are pregnant, you have a lot to consider. If you keep the baby, who will raise it? Can you live without knowing where your baby is if you give it away? I faced this decision for about 10 minutes when my doctor thought I was pregnant (the test was wrong). You and your baby are the most important people here. Your mom is upset, but there are two lives more important than hers right now. If you don't want to keep the baby, adoption (open or closed) is an option. Most importantly, don't do anything you feel you're pushed into. You have to live with whatever decision you make. Either way, you'll live with it forever.

Well, I talked to my mom about it this morning and she said it is my decision. That still didnt make it any easier. My decision is leaning more towards abortion because I am only 16. I still have high school to finish and I dont think that I would be able to go through with a pregnancy. It seems like most of you that have replyed are against abortion. I dont want to seem like a bad person if thats what I decide because it seems like to me that I am only thinking about myself. I do want the baby to have a chance to live and I dont want to live knowing I killed a baby. I dont think that I will be comftorable with any decision I make. I am scared to get an abortion, but I dont want to go through with the pregnancy. I still have time to decide what I am going to do, but if abortion is what I decide to do, can someone give me any more advice about it?

Thank you for all the advice so far from everybody. It has helped alot.
Alecia