I had had 2 miscarriages before having our daughter then another miscarriage before going through much the same as you are - my 5th pregnancy - a son - was shown to be trisome 18 - they usually self-abort as the problems are so severe - I terminated the pregnancy, several years later I fell pregnant again - twins - lost one but have a son.

I had thought long & hard prior to falling pregnant (due to experiences of aquaintances) what I would do if the baby had serious health (physical/mental) issues & decided that I would not put myself, my family or the child through such an agonising soul destroying experience.

If this were a dog you would not make it live without quality of life, if it was you we were talking about what would you want for yourself - the life that you could have such as it would be/wouldn't be or heaven?

I have never stopped loving my son, I know he's in heaven & loved but as hard & as painful as it was & still is 13 years later I would not hesitate to do the same thing again in the same circumstances.

To be fair though I know of families who would totally disagree with me on every count - the decision must be yours & your husbands & should take into account emotional, financial, long term physical & emotional constraints on the entire family & the quality of life of your unborn child.

My prayers are with you all.

i am sorry to hear this-it must be hard to try hard for a baby & then find out it has health problems.It's not cold to say that it's devastating for you-most people would feel that way.
I don't know you but I will be thinking of you through this hard time & hope that whatever choice you make will be the right one for you
liz x

Liz, you are such a sweetheart!

I also will keep you in my prayers. I am so sorry this is happening to you!

Thank you angie :d I just feel so bad for that lady & would never condemn her for having that baby if she didn't want to hope she's ok

I did survive the ab this morning and actually i'm feeling okay for the most part. I had cramping for about 2 hours after, but took ibuprofen, and now feeling more like myself. I am very sad for the little life that was inside of me, it was not it's fault, but it was not ours either. I was given very special attention at the clinic, the counselor followed me from place to place and supported me. I was probably one of the few that were ever there because they wanted a baby, but decided to terminate for health reasons. I'm also very young, as most women with unhealthy babies are in their 40s. Thanks for the support here.

I am glad that everything went safely. I am once again so sorry.....God bless.

i'm sorry this happened to you when you so wanted this baby life can be so cruel but I hope you're blessed with another child in the future.This will take you time to come to terms with so look after yourself,take tablets if your in pain,follow all doctors instructions & do go to further counselling if you need it to help you cope.God bless & don't give up trying if it's what you want,liz :d

You did the right thing!
God bless!
Sincerely,
sandy

Take care & allow yourself time & accept any emotional turmoil as normal, make sure you include your husband this will almost certainly be hard on him too & he also needs to know where you're at!!

Counselling, love, acceptance & patience & being young I pray you will have another child - a healthy one. God bless.

So sorry to hear of your story.Yes,there are those who would condemn you for your decision,but if they were in your shoes,i don't think they would feel the same.I had a freind who found out at 8 months she was carrying a baby that would not live(it had no kidneys and underdeveloped lungs,liver and heart)she chose to have the baby(a boy)and held him until he passed away.I know I would never have the courage to have done that,knowing my baby would die.I truly respect and admire anyone who faces such tough decisions.God bless and good luck with your adoption.Pattyv

My only child, my daugher, has cystic fibrosis. I had her when I was in my 30's. She plays the violin beautifully, scores off the charts on her SAT's, is a physically beautiful child, and has many friends. She is a happy kid and a delight to be around. Most kids wiht CF live quite normal lives. Yes, they take a lot of meds, it takes a lot of work, they go through some suffering and it's expensive...but so what. She'd rather be here than not be here and I can't IMAGINE life without her.

My Cousin has just recently had a child with Cystic fibrosis, and she has explained to me that there is alot of treatments out there to assist in CF treatment, it affects children in varying levels of severity. Amazingly enough we have NO family history of the disease, but it is a genetic disorder. Cystic fibrosis is something that occurs when both partners are carriers of the CF gene. If you have had one child with cystic fibrosis (enven though terminated) it is more likely that if you decide to have more children, they may also be affected or be carriers of the CF gene. If you are desperate to have a child it would be wise to look into the statistics of the treatments available and support groups to assist with the development of your child. CF kids are just like normal kids, but are more likely to contract colds or chest Infections. These days the life expectancy of a CF child is that of a regular person.. There is plenty of help, and it opens an entirely new world of social support - meet new people and develop new skills, and be able to assist others who have CF children.

I would not abort the baby! You were given that baby for a reason, and it was given that illness for a reason, just like I was! I was born with CF i am 22 years old now, and i work, have a boyfriend, friends, went to collage and so on and so on! This diesease is devistating, but it CAN be manageable, the question is are you being selfish and not want to take the responsibility to care for this child? or do you already love it and want to give it the best chance to survive? GOD picked you to care for a child like that, if he knew you couldnt take care of it he wouldnt have chosen you! you see what I mean? God picked my mother and father to care for me and they have done a wonderful job. By the time your child reaches my ade they might have a cure! Dont give up hope!

I can not believe what im hearing! I have cystic fibrosis and I have a wonderful life! I am happy and loved very much! My mother had five children with cystic fibrosis and she did not abort a single one. So what if your child has a chronic disease, dont you think they would rather live than not? Is it your choice? YES for question 1 and NOOOOO for question 2. GOd decides life and death not you! Anyone who does is condemned to hell, unless truly sorry and asking for the lord to forgive them. For those of you who cant "deal" with taking care of a chronicly diseased child, you are selfish, lazy and only care for your own well beign. I hope you dont plan for a good after life without asking for forgiveness because thats not going to happen! Oh and whoever wrote "you made the right choice, god bless you!" God does not bless an intentional, non-sorrowfull murderer! I do know how you can even say you believe in GOD! Just as MeganLee22 said "You were given that baby for a reason" God was testing your strenghth and those abortionist out there chose the selfish murdering path of abortion! I AM MALACHY HARVEY I AM HAPPY THAT IM ALIVE AND MY MOTHER DIDN'T TAKE THE EVIL WAY OUT AND ABORT ME!