No Sex At the Age 21

You can see your doc and have your testostorone levels checked. Also I have been on some bc that has zapped my sex drive the depo could be doing it. Stop taking the depo. Use condoms instead see if this helps. If not maybe you should see you the doc. Do you ever feel sexy? Do you get dressed up to go out and feel hot? Do you have sexy underwear you put on that makes you feel like a little sex pot? Do you get turned on when you masterbate or fantasize? Maybe you just need to learn how to feel sexy again. Maybe you need your bf to romance you more or to take more time to turn you on. As a relationship progresses it is not uncommon to not get as excited over your lover as you use to. Only because it is less exciting as it use to be when you didn't know what to expect. Thus he may need to put more time into getting you going. He could even start early morning by telling you how sexy you are. Leaving you sexy notes around the house saying how much he wants you. Leaving you I love you voicemails. Once you guys are together at night he could start off by giving you a massage or by tickling your bag. Maybe you guys could take a bath with candles.Do something that makes you feel close to him. Who knows, for women being turned on is so much more dependent on emotional feeling more that physical feelings maybe you just need to remember how to feel sexy and totally in love with your bf agian. If none of this works see a doc you could have some hormonal problems and that is easy to diagnose and fix.

Thanks, i've really never thought about myself feeling sexy, I do feel hot when i'm getting ready to go out. Its weird between bf-n-me I really never like to show my body we started dated when I was preg. So I didnt feel hot then at all. But i'm back to where I was before I had the babe.
I think I do need to get some tests done and start feeling sexy for myself. Thanks again.

A visit to your gyn is a good place to start,but no foreplay?Trying to have sex with no foreplay does not help!Foreplay starts way before you get to bed.I'm not just talking about groping and kissing.A little kindness goes a long way to fire up a woman's passion.It's not always about sex,but, can show up in the bedroom when there are feelings of resentment in a relationship.Also,you've got a toddler-that's a full time job!If you are tired and stressed out,that will zap your libido also.Have him give you a hand in getting the little one ready for bed,he might just find out that you're ready too!

Yeah, I have my son to take care of plus a full time job and school part time. I have so much to do by the time I reach the bed i'm out!
I didnt know if there are any meds to take i've heard of a couple.
I dont know how to come on to my bf, and 4-play I dont even know where to start.....
I feel like i've lost my touch i'm out of the sex life with having this baby, I dont know if i'm embrassed to do something out of the orgnial with bf or if I just dont know what i'm doing.
I guess I have two problems, one-no sexdive two-out of touch with sex
i'm not sure how to start being different and start being sexy

Foreplay does not start... It never ends! Making my girl breakfast in bed and helping her with chores is foreplay. Opening doors for her and standing when she walks over to the table in a nice restaurant is foreplay. Looking at her as if she is the only woman in the world is foreplay. In the bedroom, its just a bit more direct. Most men think foreplay is some deep kissing and petting and then go straight for the gold. Makes me ashamed of my fellow men when I realize how little they know about women. I suspect that you need a bit more attention from your boyfriend in terms of getting you in the mood.

He is super good to me for not getting booty as much as he would like...
I think maybe I do need more attention getting into bed. But I dont know how to go about getting it started. I'm ashamed.

What exactly are you ashamed of? I'm sure everyone here would love to help you but we need to know what you are getting hung up on. Also I have heard of women feeling uncomfortable with sex after having children. Something to do with being a mother and feeling that its wrong to have sex. Could it be that you somehow feel that taking time for yourself would somehow be detracting you from caring for your child?

I'm not sure what it is.....
I'm a different person now having the babe, and since I meant this guy when I was preg. I wasent crazy into sex being preg. And after the baby it never came back. I see myself getting crazy and making love but I just cant do it. I think since maybe are relationship didnt start out like they usually do for me. I dont know how to get to that point now after being with him for so long. I'm sorry its hard for me to explain. I'm very thankful for your inputs but I cant explain it myself.
I know the baby has something to do with me not feeling right too. I use him for excuse all the time so I dont have to have sex.
Maybe I just have a mental issue with sex. I feel crazy.

Don't feel crazy !You have a lot going on in your life,you said so yourself.You work,student,child to raise-and you're supposed to be 24/7sex goddess also??Look,after awhile,things cool down in a realtionship.I was very sad to have this happen in my marriage also.However,it has been replaced by feeling of knowing he'll be there no matter what.We don't have sex 2-3 times a day anymore,but we enjoy each other when we do make love.Granted we're older than you are,but I think any relationship has a decrease in sex after a while.I think sex is the glue that brings you together,but after it's all said and done,you still need to be able to talk to each other.It would be pretty crazy if the only thing you had in common was a roll in the hay.Granted those type of relationships are not all bad,they just don't last!! go have a complete physical and see what's up.Good luck!!Pattyv