Im sure you guys are sick of this, but I
still don't know if I should keep my baby!
I just want to make sure it has the best
life possible. I think babies need a mom
and a dad and I cant give my baby that.
I know my family will help with money and
everything else but I dont want to rely on
them. I am not ready to be a mom, I
still need my mom to much. It seems so
hard. If I keep it I dont know how I
will get a job and I want to go to
college. If anyone one has any advice I
would love to hear it. And if you have
already had your baby tell me what its
like to be a teen mom. Also for anyone
who wants to know i'm 13 weeks.
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kitty_55
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Aug 2003 Posts: 1473 Location: Canada
Posted: 07-12-04 14:08pm
So what if ur baby doesnt have a father??
I dont have a father and honestly I am so
happy I dont...My mom made the right
chocie(sp?) for me....My mom gives me so
much love and my dad doesnt and I dont
care...Aslong as you love ur baby as much
as u and the babys father put toghther...I
dunno if that made sences but keep it!!
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 07-12-04 14:12pm
Look if you still think that you cant keep
it then give a couple the chance to give
this baby a good life, if your life is
that important to you. Let me tell you
about my sister, she got pregnant at 15
had her baby at 16. She got home school,
graduated with honors and got a job. The
dad is a dead beat and the baby is as
happy as can be! Who says you need a dad
there?? Because you dont. Anywoman can
raise a baby on her own. It might be hard
but for a baby its all well worth. And if
you dont think you can handle the
responsibility or you are worried about
your future then check into adoption where
you can meet some couples and get to know
them and how they can spoil your baby.
When you have a baby no matter what age,
as long as you can be responsible then you
have unconditional love to do no matter
what it takes to love this baby and give
it what you can.
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PregnaJordan
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Oct 2003 Posts: 2908
Posted: 07-12-04 14:14pm
Ok, im not going to lie....Its very very
very hard work! Im a new mom! Jaydyn
is only 17 days old! But shes so
precious I wouldnt give it up for the
world...All the screaming and crying is
worth it! Her dad isnt around
whatsover! And im doing fine..My dad
wasnt around for me and im doing fine!
My typical day
7 am-wake up-feeding
730-change jaydyn, she goes back to sleep
so therefore I do too!
9am-i wake up, eat breakfast and get
things ready for the day while shes still
asleep
10am-shell wake up, feed again, change and
she'll be up for a while--try and make
lunch while shes awake(this is hard!
Lol)
1pm--change her again, feed again and
she'll more than likely go to sleep..I try
to get ina shower or some type of
cleaning
4pm--change again! Feed again! She'll
stay awake for a while..We'll talk and ill
hold her and she may go back to sleep!
7pm--change again! Feed again! She'll
prlly dose off again!
830 pm--wake her up, give her a bath,
change her, lotion her up, brush her hair
and her tounge(shes got milk
tounge..Yuck)**keep in mind im soaking wet
from this bath!**
--she usually passes out after a bath so
ill lay her down and get me some dinner--
10 pm--change again! Feed again! Lay
her down for night night as well as
myself
1 am--wake up! Shes fussing for food!
Change her! Feed her and put her to bed
again
4am--wake up! Shes fussing for food!
Change her feed her and put her to bed
again!**she usually wants to stay up for a
lil while after this feeding for some
reason! So infomercials I watch!
Lmao!!!!
7am--all over again!
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elyse
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 May 2004 Posts: 73 Location: utah
Posted: 07-12-04 14:38pm
That sounds so hard! I know it is
possible to raise it without the father,
but I guess its just not what I wanted for
my child. I get kind of nervous when I
talk about adoption in a post because
pretty much everyone on here keeps their
child. I do think that is good a thing.
Some people in my life make me feel
selfish when I talk about keeping it and
sometimes I do feel selfish. Its like I
cant deal with the pain of never seeing my
kid again, so it may not have a wonderful
life with another family. And when I do
think about giving it up for adoption I
feel selfish again! I feel like all im
thinking about is myself and I could go
back to my normal life. I wont lie that
sounds good. Last year I had one of
those dolls that crys and you have to feed
it and change its diaper. By the third
night I was going crazy. I just wanted to
sleep. I know it would be different I
would love my baby. I know if I kept it
I wouldnt regret it im just not sure if
its the best thing to do.
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PregnaJordan
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Oct 2003 Posts: 2908
Posted: 07-12-04 14:54pm
Hell going back to a normal life seems
wonderful to me too but I wouldnt do it
b/c I love her soooooooooo much! Once u
have ur baby it will all change..Ur body
adapts! Its like u can do everything u
could before but just on like 3-5 hours
sleep! I couldnt ever live with myself
knowing that someone else had my
baby...Even though her daddy is a complete
problem, I love her enough for the both of
us....
I wouldn't rush into a desicion, you have
at least 6 more months to decide what you
want to do. Take your time making the
decision.. Maybe go and talk to a
adoption agency, or go and talk to a local
christian ministry.. Just don't let them
push you into making a choice you don't
want to... Raising a baby is hard.. But
if your family is willing to help, you can
still attend college and work. Its not
impossible, its hard, yes, but with help
of family and friends its possible. And
fathers are nice for a child to have, but
who says they have to have one?! Single
moms are amazing women, no doubt about it.
If you are unsure than maybe looking into
open adoptions, find out if thats the
route for you.. Thats where you can still
see and visit your baby and know the
parents that they are with.
