Hi,
i am 36 and had a partial hysto about 4 months ago, the only problem for me in the sex department is that it takes much longer to reach an orgasam, I didnt have my ovaries removed so I dont need hormones, but I have heard of something called avlamil, maybe you can ask your doc about that? Another problem for me is that I have gained about 30 pounds since my surgery so I am really embarrassed to have sex cause my tummy is huge!!! But I noticed that as time passes the swelling in that area is going away, I just need to work out and try to lose weight and I hope that will help. Good luck!
Pat

I completely understand what you are going thru..I had a tah 8 weeks ago, while I still have the desire for sex, I do not enjoy it because I can not have an orgasm as I use to be able to. I have found that I can have one but it takes a lot longer and I have to really concentrate hard on it and then its only a small orgasm. I am usually left feeling somewhat empty and emotional after sex these days. The dr says its because they had to cut thru nerve and blood vessels that lead to that part of the body and more likely that I will never get the complete feeling back in that area. I have been told that placing a warm rag between your legs a few minutes before sex may help ... The heat brings the blood to the surface and may enhance some feeling but I havent tried it for my self yet

I had a complete hysterectomy a year and almost a half ago. I know what you mean about not having the desire. I am not taking any hormones even though I had my ovaries removed because I have a fatty liver and hormones are really bad for that. I feel bad for the hubby since we are still pretty young (38 and 36), and 36 is young for a man to not have sex except maybe once a month. At first, it was real tough for us, since even when we were in the middle of it, I wasn't really into it. I can happily say, though, that now our sex life is improving. I have initiated it a few times lately, still only about once a month or so, but I am finally able to have an orgasm without having to really work for it.
Janjan, could it be the hormones that are causing a disinterest in sex? Doesn't make sense, but who knows....Stranger things have happened.

I had a total hysterectomy 3 1/2 years ago. My doctor put me on premin and sent me on my way. I was moody fat and awful to live with. I read a couple of books and decided to go to an endocranologist (sp?). He had me fill out pages of questions. At that time I realized how many "symptoms" I had and that there were "fixable". After about a year of different types of hormone replacements we are almost there. I had no sex drive never mind the big "o". Before my surgery it was never a problem (i was 30 @ the time) my doctor tried testosterone in many forms and finally we fixed that problem. I have my sex drive back and more! I am also on a patch (vivel dot) and 1mg of estradiol and testostrone full strength a day. With the exception of my moods and weight gain (40lbs) I fell closer to the real me. An endo. Doctor specializes in hormones. They know so much about our problems. My gyno seemed to think my problems were "in my head". I would suggest to anyone out there to get to an endo. Doctor and to be patient. Don't sit back and assume these symptoms need to just be delt with. We owe it to ourselves and our loved ones to get back to as normal again as we can. Especially our young husbands! I have to say I only wish my doctor knew how many side effects go allong with taking all of our organs out. Then I would have known what I would be facing ( and my family). I know I would have suffered with the pain I was having instead of all this stuff!! Good luck to everyone out there! It is so good to know there are others out therelike me!

I have a very similiar problem. I had to get a total hysterectomy when I was 25. Im now 32 & still dont like sex. My husband is getting sooo frustrated & im afraid if I dont work this out soon he might go elsewhere (i doubt it but the thoughts there). I was on premarin also all these years & also a anti depressant but have been off of them both for about 8 months now because I lost my insurance & cant afford it. Things are the same now as they were when I was on the meds....Non existant! He gets sooo mad at me because I have no drive at all & I never initiate it. Truthfully I could go months without it & it wouldnt phase me. Its been about a month or so without sex & I know hes ready to flip. Hes been wanting to try role play type things...Well if im not into regular sex im sure not gonna want to roleplay. So then he gets mad, rolls over & goes to sleep. Please help me before my relationship goes down the tubes!!! I try to explain thats its not my fault & that its very common for woman who have gone through this...He doesnt buy it :(
thanks,
brooke

Hi men never understand what we are going through, just tell him you still in love with him and its not him you gone off.


My sex drive as gone too,had an hyst a year 1/2 ago ive got my ovaries but still feel this way.

If your partner loves you which im sure e does then he will understand and help you

hope this helps

Hi there I had a partail hysto 4 years ago. And 1 year ago I just had the rest of my organs taken out do to pain in my stomache. I too have problems with my sex drive and have no need for sex and it is becoming a problem between my hubby and me. He says he understands but I really dont think he understands because he gets really frustrated with me when we don't have sex or make love anymore. I talked to my Dr. He says it takes time for your body to come out of the shock of having them organs removed. I am only 34 years old and I used to be very sexually active before all of the problems I am having. If I knew what I know now I would of never gotten it done. But I guess I had no choice in the matter because I had endrometreois really bad and it was moving on to my liver. I too have gained about 60 pounds since all of the surgerys I was never a small petite woman but I was never this heavy. And I am just wondering if anyone could help me out with this or has any ideas of what to do on this problem any input would be nice. Thank you