What Can I Do to Improve My Sex Life Again? Posted: 07-10-04 12:01pm
I had a total hysterectomy exactly one
year ago. I notice that I have very
little interest in sex. When I do have
sex I can't get an orgasm. I have been on
premarin since my surgery because of the
severe hot flashes, mood swings and
vaginal dryness. Is it unusual to have
the lack of interest in sex and the
inability to reach orgasms? I have tried
lubricants as well but have very little
satisfaction. I am only 34 and it's very
frustrating trying to please your husband
when you can't even enjoy sex. Does
anyone else have the same issues? I
would love to hear from other women who
have similar issues and can tell me what I
can do to improve my sex life?
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nomopms
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Mar 2004 Posts: 25 Location: texas
Try Another Hormone? Posted: 07-22-04 18:14pm
Hi,
i am 36 and had a partial hysto about 4
months ago, the only problem for me in the
sex department is that it takes much
longer to reach an orgasam, I didnt have
my ovaries removed so I dont need
hormones, but I have heard of something
called avlamil, maybe you can ask your doc
about that? Another problem for me is
that I have gained about 30 pounds since
my surgery so I am really embarrassed to
have sex cause my tummy is huge!!! But I
noticed that as time passes the swelling
in that area is going away, I just need to
work out and try to lose weight and I hope
that will help. Good luck!
Pat
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tk
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Joined: 25 Mar 2005 Posts: 11 Location: missouri
Sex Life Sucks Now Posted: 05-03-05 20:12pm
I completely understand what you are going
thru..I had a tah 8 weeks ago, while I
still have the desire for sex, I do not
enjoy it because I can not have an orgasm
as I use to be able to. I have found
that I can have one but it takes a lot
longer and I have to really concentrate
hard on it and then its only a small
orgasm. I am usually left feeling
somewhat empty and emotional after sex
these days. The dr says its because they
had to cut thru nerve and blood vessels
that lead to that part of the body and
more likely that I will never get the
complete feeling back in that area. I
have been told that placing a warm rag
between your legs a few minutes before sex
may help ... The heat brings the blood to
the surface and may enhance some feeling
but I havent tried it for my self yet
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Daynette
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 May 2005 Posts: 11
Posted: 05-03-05 22:00pm
I had a complete hysterectomy a year and
almost a half ago. I know what you mean
about not having the desire. I am not
taking any hormones even though I had my
ovaries removed because I have a fatty
liver and hormones are really bad for
that. I feel bad for the hubby since we
are still pretty young (38 and 36), and 36
is young for a man to not have sex except
maybe once a month. At first, it was real
tough for us, since even when we were in
the middle of it, I wasn't really into it.
I can happily say, though, that now our
sex life is improving. I have initiated
it a few times lately, still only about
once a month or so, but I am finally able
to have an orgasm without having to really
work for it.
Janjan, could it be the hormones that are
causing a disinterest in sex? Doesn't
make sense, but who knows....Stranger
things have happened.
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Maino
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Joined: 07 May 2005 Posts: 1
Posted: 05-07-05 22:59pm
I had a total hysterectomy 3 1/2 years
ago. My doctor put me on premin and sent
me on my way. I was moody fat and awful
to live with. I read a couple of books
and decided to go to an endocranologist
(sp?). He had me fill out pages of
questions. At that time I realized how
many "symptoms" I had and that there were
"fixable". After about a year of
different types of hormone replacements we
are almost there. I had no sex drive
never mind the big "o". Before my
surgery it was never a problem (i was 30 @
the time) my doctor tried testosterone in
many forms and finally we fixed that
problem. I have my sex drive back and
more! I am also on a patch (vivel dot)
and 1mg of estradiol and testostrone full
strength a day. With the exception of my
moods and weight gain (40lbs) I fell
closer to the real me. An endo. Doctor
specializes in hormones. They know so
much about our problems. My gyno seemed
to think my problems were "in my head".
I would suggest to anyone out there to get
to an endo. Doctor and to be patient.
Don't sit back and assume these symptoms
need to just be delt with. We owe it to
ourselves and our loved ones to get back
to as normal again as we can. Especially
our young husbands! I have to say I only
wish my doctor knew how many side effects
go allong with taking all of our organs
out. Then I would have known what I
would be facing ( and my family). I know
I would have suffered with the pain I was
having instead of all this stuff!! Good
luck to everyone out there! It is so
good to know there are others out
therelike me!
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BBlack
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Joined: 26 Oct 2005 Posts: 1
I Too No Longer Have a Asex Life :( Posted: 10-26-05 03:03am
I have a very similiar problem. I had to
get a total hysterectomy when I was 25.
Im now 32 & still dont like sex. My
husband is getting sooo frustrated &
im afraid if I dont work this out soon he
might go elsewhere (i doubt it but the
thoughts there). I was on premarin also
all these years & also a anti
depressant but have been off of them both
for about 8 months now because I lost my
insurance & cant afford it. Things
are the same now as they were when I was
on the meds....Non existant! He gets sooo
mad at me because I have no drive at all
& I never initiate it. Truthfully I
could go months without it & it
wouldnt phase me. Its been about a month
or so without sex & I know hes ready
to flip. Hes been wanting to try role
play type things...Well if im not into
regular sex im sure not gonna want to
roleplay. So then he gets mad, rolls over
& goes to sleep. Please help me
before my relationship goes down the
tubes!!! I try to explain thats its not
my fault & that its very common for
woman who have gone through this...He
doesnt buy it :(
thanks,
brooke
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jane30
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Joined: 05 Jan 2006 Posts: 20 Location: west mids
Posted: 01-07-06 17:11pm
Hi men never understand what we are going
through, just tell him you still in love
with him and its not him you gone off.
My sex drive as gone too,had an hyst a
year 1/2 ago ive got my ovaries but still
feel this way.
If your partner loves you which im sure e
does then he will understand and help you
hope this helps
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3littlepiggys
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Mar 2006 Posts: 2 Location: Michigan
Posted: 03-28-06 07:20am
Hi there I had a partail hysto 4 years
ago. And 1 year ago I just had the rest
of my organs taken out do to pain in my
stomache. I too have problems with my sex
drive and have no need for sex and it is
becoming a problem between my hubby and
me. He says he understands but I really
dont think he understands because he gets
really frustrated with me when we don't
have sex or make love anymore. I talked
to my Dr. He says it takes time for your
body to come out of the shock of having
them organs removed. I am only 34 years
old and I used to be very sexually active
before all of the problems I am having.
If I knew what I know now I would of never
gotten it done. But I guess I had no
choice in the matter because I had
endrometreois really bad and it was moving
on to my liver. I too have gained about
60 pounds since all of the surgerys I was
never a small petite woman but I was never
this heavy. And I am just wondering if
anyone could help me out with this or has
any ideas of what to do on this problem
any input would be nice. Thank you
