My 16 Yr Old Daughter Thinks She Is Pregnant

Thinks she may be pregnant? Is she late? Are you making her test? Im not sure why she would do this. Ive heard of teens doing this for attention from their parents.. Seeking any kind of attention possible. Do you have a close relationship? Maybe u need to spend more one on one time with her so that she will realize she doesnt need a baby in order to feel love... If u do have a close relationship then im not sure why she would do this....Does she have any background issues?

Yes I thought we had a close relationship I give her alot of my attention but I do have 3 other children I really dont actually know how to explain the situation sometimes I feel like she is living in this fantasy world. She is on medication but that doesn't seem to be helping. I have asked her why is she always lying saying she is pregnant???????? She only denies it I feel like just throwing my hands up I don't know which way to turn anymore

Well, I am 17 and two months along ,i haven't told my mom yet (but I will be telling her in about two weeks, maybe less). Okay so she is smart ,but likes attention. She kind of sounds like I used to be. I graduated when I was 15, and I was in gifted most of my young life. My thing was that I had always been known for being the smart girl. Don't get me wrong I always had a lot of friends, but it was like I was sticking out like a sore thumb. And my mom didn't make it any better, b/c when I was really young (6 or 7), she really sheltered me. And it hurt more than it helped. So after I finished elementary school ,i'd decided to try and re-invent myself. Nothing really major I guess. I started hanging with kids that were not up to my mom's standards, fighting, and I got put out of three schools. But in my mind none of the bad stuff mattered as long as I kept my gpa up. And I really stayed like this for a while. But then I started to go back to my old ways a little. More quite and reserved. That was probably around the time I met my df, when I graduated.

But anyway, although all people are different you may just need to give her the space to learn for herself. Everyone hates being told what to do.
Did she ever tell you that she was pregnant? I would suggest that you seriously ask her, straight out. And no matter what she says ask her to take a pregnancy test. If it turns out that she is pregnant (or even if she is not), let her know that this is not a game, tell her about having morning sickness possibly all day, swollen feet, headaches, back aches, being moody and depressed, sensitive breasts, and everything else. And don't forget to tell her that if she is pregnant ,when she has the baby you'll be there to support her but you will not be a mother to her child. And tell her just what being a mother entails, especially the sacrifices. If she is pregnant she'll grow up fast ,and if she's not than this talk may make her a little more aware that a life is not to play with ,whether it be hers or someone elses.

Hope I helped.

I never lied to my mother, and told her that I was pregnant when I knew that I really wasnt. But I did once tell my boyfriend (who I now have a son too) that I was pregnant by him when I knew that it was in no way possible. I did it because I wanted him to care for me, and because in a way I guess I was testingthe waters to see if he would really stick by my side no matter what. That test however just found us together, no matter what. Now we have a son, not sure what point I was trying to make just trying to say I guess in some way I can relate.

What would I do if I was in your shoes?? Hmm I dont know. Is she with someone steady first off? Secondly I think that you should pull her aside and make her take a test, if it comes back positive deal with it, but get her some counseling, and I will be here for you to talk to. If she is not pregnant, I suggest you getting her on the shot, where as you would then know if she was taking her pills. I also suggest getting her in to be tested for diseases because obviously she is active, or wants to be. (do this if she is pregnant too), and get her in to see a pshy.. Maybe the doc can help. But whatever you do, be honest with her, tell her how you feel, and if you want sit her down at your computer and let her read some stories of what teen mother go through each day, maybe that is what she really needs, a reality check.

I cant help you anymore than sit here and try to tell you that I understand.. Beware though, we teenagers are scoundrals..(spelling)

p.S.
My boyfriends sister, thought it was soo cool that my boyfriend and I had a baby that she tried to get pregnant, my boyfriend and I found her journal and she talked about when and how and everything. She had stopped taking her pill but when around her mother would be like I am going to take my pill and would drop it down the sink. Of course when we told her mother she didnt believe us, until sandy thought that she was pregnant. Trust your instincts, all of them.

Always here,
stacie, larry, and our not so little one sean.

Well do you want her pregnant or do you just want her to stop with all this drama? If you really want to be safe then make her take the shot. Its the most effective birth control. Make her take a test and get some control of her and this drama. Do you know who shes having sex with? I think you should either talk to her or ground her til she feels like talking to you. Shes only 16 you have the say so til shes 18. So I suggest taking her to the doc again, have her checked out and get her on the shot.

What would you suggest her mother do if she really was pregnant? Force her to have an abortion?? I know if someone ever forced me to have an abortion, that would be the last they ever saw of me. I'm sorry, I don't care how old the child is, if they are pregnant, mothers can't force their child to have an abortion. If it wasn't for the trauma that some people experience with it then maybe but since their is, it is not the mothers option unless the mother wants to take the time out to take her to counseling. I am talking about both parents actually, not just the mother. Now if she is someone who will force her on bc, than maybe she should since if she did get pregnant, she would prob force abortion so it's better to force bc than it is to not and let her get pregnant.

What are you talking about?

I mean that the way nikki said it, it sounded like he was implying that the mother had all say over someone else's (her daughters) reproductive rights and by what he was saying it could be implied that should pregnancy happen, there would be a forced abortion.

You make no sense, complete sentences please.

Yeah what are you talking about? In no way did I say abortion. Im completely against it. Im 20 and 23 weeks pregnant, why would I say make her get an abortion? Im saying if she is pregnant then she has to deal with it. Maybe you should tell her how hard she will have it if she gets pregnant at a young age. Tell her how shes not gonna have anything to herself anymore and maybe the guy shes sleeping with will leave her too. Remind her of these things so maybe it will dawn on her not to want to be pregnant.
If shes not pregnant...Then you take her to the doctor to get on the shot. Force her not to get pregnant, but if she is now then its too late. At least you can say you tried.

This girl I knew, was 15 and living with guys already. Her mom made her get the shot. She would drag her and force her, and the girl always cried because the she didnt like shots but she always got it. The second her mom got her off the shot and gave up, she kept having sex and got pregnant and then realized, oh this will ruin my body and will ruin my life so she aborted it at almost 4 months!!! Why? Because she was responsible! Now she regrets it but its too late now isnt it?? If you really dont want her getting pregnant than get her the shot or if she already is pregnant then oh well. What answers are you looking for?

Hi

i'm 16, and at the end of june, I found myself uncertain or not whether I was pregnant or not, I didn't tell my parent's as I didn't want them to be dissapointed in me, and took it upon myself to go down to the doctors and get the morning after pill, and I have now been put on oral contraceptives to stop the same thing happening again.

First of all, if you have a close relationship with your daughter then you should be glad that she told you, and let you know about her concerns. If she's doing it to get you're attention thenyou need to talk to her, and let her see how pretending that something like being pregnant is not a game, and it is serious. If it is possible, try to arrange a couple of days with a young baby, and let her see how hard being a single parent is, especially if her sexual partner is not a stable one. If he is stable, then get him to come and see what would be involved if they kept the baby together.

Also get a home pregnancy test, and see for yourself if she is. If she is then explain to her how you'll be prepared to help, but not to the extent that you end up with all the responsibilty. If the home pregnancy test comes back either positive or negative take her to the doctors where they can take a second pregnancy test to say for certain.

Also, I would make sure that she is taking her birth control, and that she is using protection when she is active.

I know that no one likes being told what to do, but sometimes you need a push in the right direction. You could also show her some programs where women are giving birth, and show her just how painful it will be. No matter what she has to accept the fact that being pregnant, is not a game, it is something to be taken seriously and that motherhood will not be easy on anyone in the house.

Mothers do have a say in their kids reproductive rights! I know if my kid wants to have unprotevted sex, you can believe im gonna be taking her to get on the shot quick. I never said anything about abortion. I said if she is pregnant then you cant do much now, but if shes not you can do everything to prevent it!

Well really parents don't have a say in their child's reproductive rights. I know all states have statutory rape laws. Some say that if your child has sex with a person over a certain age it is illegal, some say that if there is a certain amount (in years) of an age difference it is illegal, and some have a combo. That all leads to sex laws, a state that says a child that is 16 or older has the right to make a decision to have sex is also saying that ,that child now has the right to reproduce. In some states these laws go as low as 12. Now if in your state, the law is that if a child is 12,13,14,15, or 16 they now have the right to make the decision to have sex and in turn have the right to reproduce a parent can not make that child have an abortion, or use contraceptives of any kind including the pill or the shot. And if they try ,if the child is smart enough they have grounds to either have their parent sent to jail or sue them for infringing on their rights. And I know this is how law works ,but the child may not win, b/c in today's society a lot of judges believe they have they right to make a decision on morals ,which is not the case "all of the time".

True but if my kid thinks shes gonna have sex like she wants and do all this drama then you bet im gonna drag her to the docs til shes 18 to be on birth control. And if she dont like it then she can be grounded til shes 18 and as long as shes under my roof, my rules. Its as easy as that.

If feel the same. Is'nt it funny how when you're a kid you think "i won't treat my kids like this", but then when you have kid's of your own everything changes.

I never said you were for abortion, I said you were for the mother forcing the daughter to do what the mother wants when it comes to reproduction or anything for that matter, and that can include forcing her to get an abortion.

Yes states have statatury (sp?) rape laws. But parents have medical rights over their child until they are 18 or emancipated. No, they cannot legal force their child to have an abortion, but they have every right to take them to the doctor to get them onto the pill. The only way that a court would take away that right would be if the girl was allergic to the pill, or if it was harming her in some way.
Yes, these kids have the "right" to have sex, but their parents are still in charge of their care and therefore can put them on birth control if they see fit. Just like they can put them on drugs for adhd, or depression, or lock them up in a mental institution if they feel it is needed. It is part of being a parent.
I wish more parents would take their kids to get birth control. Not just the girls either. Buy your boys condoms. Some people say that is persuading them to have sex, but I don't go for that. All it is doing is teaching and allowing them to be responsible.

Bc is fine, it's just when you tell someone you have full control over someone else's reproductive rights, abortion is in that too, and although they cannot legally force it, many find a way, and I find that the most horrible thing a mother could do. If I got pregnant and saw someone get the phone book and say I am making this decision for(caps) you, I would slap them hard as I can across the face, and I would never ever see them again, I don't care who it is or how old I am. I would do it if it was my mother, father even god himself (obviously he wouldn't but you get the idea) sorry but that is one thing that a mother and father or anyone have a say in, I don't care if I am 35 or 12 years old, I have complete say and the father may not have dominant, but I will at least take what he says about into consideration. If he wants an abortion and begs me to get it, I will at least listen to him because other than me, that's the only other one that matters, but I have dominant say because how can you compromise?? Abort half of it and keep the other half?? Uh no.

Well I have to disagree. And this is b/c I know that you can not force medication on anyone. Say you went into a hospital ,and they gave you pills and said hey take this. If you said no no one can make you take the pills. And yes parents are responsible medically for their children until they are 18, bet certain things apply. First if a child is not pregnant or not a mother, they'll usually still go to a pediatrician or a general practitioner. When this happens by law the parent is supposed to be there, and unless the child is getting tested or something in which they have the right to privacy, the parent must be in the room. And if medications are ordered ,what most don't know is that a parent can try to convince the child to take the medication but they can not make them especially a teen. For younger children, some cases maybe different, but basically when a child is 15 you can not force meds on them. It is just like the oh so many cases of a teen having a psycological problem and refusing their medicaiton. They have every right to do so ,but if they are found to be a danger to themselves or others they may be put in a secure unit. The same goes for female teens and birth control, if a parent tries to force you to take the pill or get the shot you have evry right to refuse. And that is a right, meaning it can not be infringed upon unless like I said before you may be a danger to yourself or others. And when your rights are infringed upon ,you have the right to go to court no matter what the circumstances. And that just goes to show ,how people today still think that parents have alpha rights. If children were to get more law savvy ,it wouldn't be this way. A lot of people still think that parents do or should have the last say when it comes to their child, and it is not true no matter how strongly people feel about it. What mother says doesn't always go, and the sooner people learn that the better off we will be. And I hate the way that some teens get walked all over b/c they assume that b/c they are not 18 they have no rights. And this goes into many areas of life. I mean a lot of people think that when you get arrested you can tell the police whatever you want ,which is so untrue. You can curse them out from here to calcutta (sp) b/c you have the right to free speech. And as long as you are not being slanderous (sp) (calling them out of their name, or saying something that you know not to be true) you can say what you want. And some police think that if they are not respected that they have the right to hit the person that they are arresting, but this is assult and battery ,plain and simple. But b/c most people don't know this they just get beat, and don't take action. I mean if you call the a b*tch, well it may not be true ,but if this is your true opinion, they have no right to infringe upon your right to free speech.

Ohh and one more thing, about drugs for depression and things like that, the same thing applies and this I know first hand b/c when I was going to the therapist I got a prescription for celexa,a and the doc gave me a sample my mom tried to make me take it in the office, and I said no. She was still trying to force me, and I jumped straight on my cell phone and called the police. And best believe they told her that she could not make me take the pill, unless the therapist said that I would be a danger without them.

I'm sorry that I got off of the subject and ,that this post was so long ,but I feel really stronglt about people and their rights. You have them so why not use them?

And sorry for all of the sp mistakes ,but this is too much to correct.