I will make this short and sweet. I was told I couldn't conceive. I tried fertility drugs with no luck and 2 years of upset and constant trying . I gave up it was so awful. There were no physical reasons why I wasn't ovulating. Sometimes I was. Who knew. Finally I gave up. I started working out. I lost 40 lbs. I started enjoying sex again because I wasn't concerned that there was an outcome. 10 months later, I was 6 weeks pregnant and didnt even know it. I have had 3 children, all conceived naturally.

Just relax. It will happen. Concentrate on getting healthy and maybe losing or gaining weight if you need to do either. (this has been proven to kick in a women's hormones) you will feel better and more sexual. If this is not an issue for you, just relax and enjoy being a couple for a bit. It will happen when you forget about it!!!!!! My mother always said that and I ignored her.

Good luck! Quit stressing, kids change everything and it will happen in time. I suggest doing things you wont be able to do when they come, like bathing alone, trips, sleeping in sometimes and going out to movies!

I agree with kit. If you have only been trying for 10 months, then you are nowhere near needing to see a doctor. If you haven't conceived after about 5 years, i'd see a doctor then. My aunt tried for 13 years to have a child and spent tons of money on medical procedures. As soon as she gave up, she became pregnant naturally after 13 years. Its so silly to think that you need medical help after 10 months! I'm pregnant with my first child and it took my husband and I 2 years. Remember, you only get one chance a month, so its not going to happen overnight.

I start to understand what this all means to me and thank you so much I feel much much better then before. Thanks for everything. I will do my best and not only concentrate to get pregnant. You guys are right !! Thanks

After one year of infertility go see the Dr. Some people have whats called primary infertility, where they have been infertile and have never had a child. Secondary infertility is when something else is causing infertility, such as being overweight. Or you have already had a child, but cannot now, for some reason. It is very important to see your dr at this time, your dr can help you determine what kind of infertility you have, and were to go from there.

Hey rinchan,

we havent spoken for ages and im sorry to hear that your not pregnant. I dont know if you remember me but im not pregnant either and I have been trying for 15 months. My soon to be hubby and I decided against seeing a doc as we wanted to try all avenues first. I was so irregular sometimes I wouldnt have a period for three months eventually we decided to see a fertility specialist and now I have a cycle every 28 days but alas soon to be hubby broke his leg, and had surgery and we have not been able to have snuggles until recently. Wasnt typical break no plaster but metal rod inserted through bone 3 months recovery time.

Have u looked into those sorts of things as I take some capsules, I have to take my temp at same time every morning and this tells me when I ovulate by taking the lowest temperature and looking out for mucus I also have some special cream I have to rub on my belly twice daily plus the folate u should be taking.

I recommend seeing a herbalist and if that dont work see a doc, and most importantly relax that is the biggest key

from someone who cant wait to have a jelly bean all of their own

There's an herbal tea you can drink.....A few ladies I know claim it worked before the bag was gone!

It has red clover, chasteberry, and some other herbals.

Hi I am rin

well... This coming september will be almost 2 years we try to concieve... I joined a gym center last april 2005 I feel more relax and dont want to think so much about it...Even sometimes I do feel so...Specially when my periods almost coming.... Well I know when I am ovulated but I dont know why I cant get pregnant I always think that maybe we are on wrong timing.... Or my womb is weak..... I dont know how to make my womb stronger...Once a month I am taking chinese herb... I think that is good for regular cycle... And now I am taking iron too ..

I plan to go for check up this september with my husband...I want to know the upcome... Cuase waiting too long might not be good too.... Better to know the reason ...

Share with me your idea.....

Hello...My husband and I have been ttc for 21 months...No luck..I finally went to the dr after about a year and have been doing tests, surgeries, everything...No luck yet...But! I wouldnt wait b/c I know that if I didnt go to the Dr. I would be wondering "what if" they could have helped me have a baby..."what if" something is truly wrong and is only getting worse... About the person saying to wait 5 years... That is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. Not conceiving after 1 year is considered infertility. I think if I waited 5 years I would drive myself crazy thinking there is no hope!! At least going to the dr gives me hope....Sooo good luck and let me know how youre doing...

Hi we finally went to checked a doctor and found out that we are suffer from std chymldia and now under medication ,,, well it is better to go to check a doctor in the first place. Now both of us taking a medition for about 3 weeks already and doctor want us to try natually concieve for about 3 times first then if this coming september still no result then might think of something else.... No try no gain... Well I only can put it that way after feel tired of trying.... Now I am taking bbt. Even I know when actually I will ovulate....

Rin