Baby,
hello I am ruby and I have been diagnosised bipolar just about one year ago. I am 48 years old and have had a life full of struggles. First let me say I am happy that you found out while you are young. There are so many sites on the web that can help. I have not found that chat rooms help at all.
Check out dbt skills training at a local community mental health service in your area. There is a way to get help with skills training on-line. This really helps boaderline disorder and I believe bipolar people like myself are also using dbt skills too.
Check out Icebengals.Com this site is created by a person with the disorder. I am wowed by how much I have learned just from this site.
If you want some book titles there are some books that will help you and your family. Let me know if this is what you want and I will get the titles to you.
You are in my prayers baby,
ruby