There ar a lot of good meds and child psychologists that should be able to mellow him out some and something is better than nothing and if he is on meds then the Dr. Can change them.
Sincerely,
sandy

My son also 9 sounds so like your nephew - meds didn't have any impact at all on him, I find that being as consistent as possible works best - although I do keep trying new things - at the moment I am trying him on "smart tabs" which help adhd/concentration/etc etc etc - so far I haven't noticed any change. I also find that the busier I keep him the easier it is for all of us - tv, computer, outings, playing, holiday centres for play in school holidays (which we have at the moment!!) etc.

I have just ordered a ces machine for myself & from the reading I have done about them & about sound & light machines these may also be worth trying - it's getting him to "do it" though that I am not sure i'll be able to figure out!!

Good luck

I was a child with adhd and was diagnosed with bipolar as an adult. I think it is safe to say I had the bipolar disorder as a child. I was never destructive but I was so hyper sometimes that I that my parents would pull there hair out. Let me tell you some things they did to help somewhat with the hyperness. The number one thing was sweets. Especially anything with red dye in it. Mom said she could always tell when someone had given me sweets at school. Her term was I was climbing the walls. Another thing is sports. I loved gymnastics. My mother put me in gymnastics and I ended up competing and exceling to a tremendous level. Individual sports are better b/c most adhd children have trouble with team sports. Adhd is a "me" sort of disorder and sports such as volleyball or basketball are difficult sports. Yelling does not get it. If you are loosing your patience adhd children can sense that. Take it from me I lived thru it. Time out works well. Kids can't sit still and knowing they are going to have to be off by themselves with nothing to get into is enough to make them think twice. Doctor tried to use a stimulate with me for the adhd and it did nothing. I take an antidepressant for the adhd and I can actually keep my thoughts seperated. My grades were better also. Hope some of this helped.