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Q: I Am So Scared Right Now
asked by: DanaM on July 5th, 2004
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Hello I am terrified right now.


I went to a bar five months ago, on a dry night as I am only 16. And a guy from my school that I know wanted to buy me a coke, so I said sure, but I had to go to the bathroom, so when I came back he had already got and paid for my drink. We talked a lot, and danced, than a few hours later I got very groggy. I don't remember anything that went on that night. The next morning I found myself naked in his bed. I totally freaked out. I grabbed my clothes and got out of there as fast as I could run. I never thought about what had happened to afraid to. So I never told anyone. So I just went on with my life as best as I could. I never thought about pregnancy at all. And my period has been totally irregular my whole, life, and I was told by my doctor I would probably never be able to have children. Well four months went by. I put on a little weight, and I was sick a lot, but I never once thought I was pregnant, my doc, said it was just my depression, as I have been on paxil since the terrible night. Then finally after four and half months I collapsed at school. I was brought to the hopsital immediatly. There my life changed for the worse. I found out I was 17 weeks pregnant and I didn't know! I have always been a little overweight, and my weight had gone up and down a lot by ten pounds or a more. So I never thought I was pregnant. I had my first ultrasound at the hospital, and my doctor found out I am carrying triplets, and maybe even quads. I am terrified. I don't know what to do. I am now 20 weeks pregnant, and my doctor found out I am carrying three babies for sure, but he is not sure about four. Now the guy who raped me is constantly harrassing me and my family. I am terrified, anyone have any advice?


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KariM1804
replied on July 5th, 2004
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Ok this sounds a little weird. First of all u said u went to a bar 6 months ago... Well that would put u at 24 weeks, not 20....And also, how isnt this guy in jail if he raped u and u know who he is? Wouldnt the cops being doing something about a guy that raped u harrassing u now???? And what is ur family doing? Are u keeping the babys? Some of this sounds a little weird.. Maybe u can clear this up by answering..
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DanaM
replied on July 5th, 2004
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I'm sorry, my mind is going haywire, it wasn't exactly 6 months ago, more like five. I never told anyone I was raped in the beginning, until I found out I was pregnant, I was terrified. We have put restraining orders against him, and he has been arrested twice. I am sorry I bothered you guys, I was just really terrified, and I didn't know where to turn.


Dana
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lauren22
replied on July 5th, 2004
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Yeah, that does sound wierd! Really wierd, considering triplets and quads are very uncommon without fertility drugs! But I guess wierder things have happened! Haha
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smith8500
replied on July 5th, 2004
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Hey
Hmmmm.
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KariM1804
replied on July 5th, 2004
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Ok well if hes been arrested.. And u have a restraining order against him.. The cops would do something about it if he was harrassing u. And also if uve never told anyone u were raped, then what is the restraining order on him for and why was he arrested? People still dont know? Then who do they think ur preg by?
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DanaM
replied on July 5th, 2004
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He broke into my parents home, and he was arrested for that and we put a restraining order on him for making harrasing phone calls, emails, and letters. He has repeatedly threated my life, and my parents lives. He was arrested again for violating the restraining order, and is currently in jail, but the police say he will be let out on bond. And I am terrified, he doesn't seem to stop. I didn't tell anyone I was raped by him. I told my parents, my brother, and my sister, but there is not proof, it's his word against mine.
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smith8500
replied on July 5th, 2004
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Hey
No, it's your word! Fight it! And then prove it's his child.
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babyrae
replied on July 5th, 2004
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Chanda.... Ip??
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tweety12986
replied on July 5th, 2004
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Ok in dana's defense the worst thing you can do is not say anything until later, it happened to me and I didnt say anything until later, and after you wait there is nothing but your word and it doesnt go too far. Do your parents know you are pregnant?
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smith8500
replied on July 5th, 2004
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Hey
It's floating. I can't trace it! That sucks!
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Mesmerizeu15
replied on July 5th, 2004
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If this is true, then fight it to the death and get a dna test. Honestly though this sounds like springer shiat.
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KariM1804
replied on July 5th, 2004
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Yea once u get a paternity test. . And they see that is it his babys.. Then they would believe you about the rape. .Especially sence u have proof that hes messed up and u have restraining orders against him and that hes been threatening u guys......So it seems like it could easily be faught and won on ur side....
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sparklypixie12
replied on July 5th, 2004
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Yeah right
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babyrae
replied on July 5th, 2004
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Shute that sux!

Who's supporting u in your pregnancy? Are your parents there to help u? How can the docs not tell if theres 4 or 3 in there when ur already 20 weeks??? Are u seein a specialist???

Shauna
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tweety12986
replied on July 5th, 2004
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This is so off of what everybody else was saying but I would like to know what kind of super sperm he has to get you pregnant with triplets
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Mesmerizeu15
replied on July 5th, 2004
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Super sperm!!
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DanaM
replied on July 5th, 2004
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I am sorry if my life, and my situation, sounds like a soap opera mesmerizeu15. I really wish it was. I didn't want my life to go like this. I am only 16 years old. You think I wanted this to happen to me. Well I didn't. I wished to god I wasn't in this situation. You can believe what you wanna believe that's up to you. All I know is that I am terrified. And I didn't know where to turn anymore. So if does sounds like springer shiat, you can go ahead and believe that. Sorry to bother you.
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KariM1804
replied on July 5th, 2004
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Its just odd I guess. It seems very provable that he raped u. R u going to have a dna test done to prove that their his kids? Then with his background.. It seems like they would definitly be on ur side. ..
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tweety12986
replied on July 5th, 2004
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Noooo. No one means any harm it is a pretty messed up situation.
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